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writes:Hi, I am pregnant and 28. My new ex is 49. I have a met a new man who is 34. Anyway I don't know what to do about this. I have not been with the new man yet and am taking it extra slow. I want my ex back but he has ignored me for 5 wks now. So there has been v little to no contact for the past 5 wks between me and the ex. My ex thinks the baby is not his. Period was 4 July. We had broken up in that month. Baby just happened. I had a one nighter that went wrong on - condom broke but took an emergency pill on 8 July. I had sex with the ex on 20 July. But according to online sources and my gp..I conceived around 18 July so I assume its the ex's baby. This new man is a really lovely person and doesn't care if it is not his - just wants to look after me. Prob is: my head wants to go off with the new man...but its too soon..know him for a month. My heart loves my ex and wants him to come back but he is denying the pregnancy. I don't mind if the ex doesn't cos of the way the baby was conceived but I am just upset over his lack of support more then anything else. Any advice would be gladly appreciated.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
You have yourself a new guy who seems to be a good one. I'd give him a shot. Your ex is your ex and that's it. Don't wait for him. When the baby is born, get a DNA test, as it's the only way to be sure. Meanwhile, enjoy this new guy and enjoy your pregnancy. Lots of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): If this new guy is a friend and really is there for you... well, he would be the guy to go with..... Your ex is denying the baby is his.... If I was in his shoes I probably would too.... you had a one night stand and you had sex with the ex.... so the only way to know for sure whos baby it is, is to do a paternity test when the baby is born.....Your ex probably know or suspects that you have slept with someone else that is why he is not interested in the baby.You need to move on with your life, you now have a baby to think about, enjoy your friendship with the new guy and please remember the ex is an ex for a reason!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): Hey Im sorry to hear you are in this situation.
If the new guy is happy to be a friend for a while then I think that he is a better prospect for support and friendship at least. You are not getting anything from the other guy so I think you need to cut you losses there.
Best of luck with this,
rory
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