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writes:how do you get your ex back?when he's in another country?now i know some of you would say:why do you want him back?or he's not worth trying..and blablabla...but i know for a fact that this is what i really want..i know he has feelings for me but we're both so stuborn and im sick of saying im sorry,so does anyone has any tips?please i would love it if you could help! Reply to this Question
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reader, linwid  +, writes (14 January 2017):
Hey I'm in the same situation now and wondering if there's hope to get an ex who's moved to another country for 2 years?
What was the update from your last posts?
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reader, Roxie 23  +, writes (25 September 2009):
Hi... i feel much the same as you and am going through the exact same thing... and I wish I had a real answer for you... i just found out a week ago that the guy i have been dating for 2 1/2 year was spending a weekend with someone else... so he tried to call me last weekend i filled up my voice mail so that he couldn't leave me a message and when he tried to email me... he said.. tried to call you, but your voice mail was full but i guess you know that, your choice, take care.... I had sent back a fake undeliverable message saying my account was closed... i just really didnt' want to hear what he had to say at that time... i feel horrible inside and would like to write him a letter to let him know what i am feeling.. but really what good would that do... he hasn't attempted to contact me since last weekend... we are both very stubborn as well......i just don't understand how people who say they care about you can be so cruel....
i am debating whether i want to be back with him... i just think the whole trust thing would be hard to get back... i mean he's in another part of the country... i would always be suspicious of what he's doing.... but i will tell you as much as i am tempted to contact him i wont.... i did nothing wrong, and i have always been the one to say sorry and feel like everything was my fault... this time around i'm standing my ground... if he really wants me and wants to work this out... he'll have to be the one to come crawling.... good luck with your partner... i hope it works out as you hope....
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reader, OzBloke +, writes (25 September 2009):
I won't say he's not worth it, but what I will do is ask is it really what you want?
You said it is, but then you went on to say you're sick of saying you're sorry. It's the only two statements we can go by, and they conflict.
There is little else to go on as you've really not given enough information to draw a picture in our minds' eye.
Moving on, do you think he would live in your country? Do you think you could live in the one he is currently in? If either of you is prepared to move to the other country to be together then there are ways to work on the relationship while saving money to make the move.
There are numerous programs on the internet now which support private web cam calls with audio so that you may build and maintain an intellectual relationship. Skype for example can make calls of indefinite duration for free. In that way you could be together as much as possible while organising everything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Oh my God, I've totally been there. My instinct is to say don't bother, save face, I do worry you're going to get hurt.
If he contacts you then you're onto a winner, but otherwise - what makes you so sure it is just stubbornness? If he's making you apoligise, you need someone who treats you better, and who is going to love you unconditionally. I'm sorry, but the signs don't look good. We need more information - why is he your ex? And if he loves you so much, why has he moved away from you? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): well you havent really given us much info.
All right lets assume that its a good idea for you to get him back.
Well if he is in another country, you have to go there, confront him, tell him that you love him, you want him back and you will move your life to be with him. Does that sound sensible?
He has moved to another country, even if you guys were rock solid it would be difficult, I think you ought to make peace with the fact you guys arent together and concentrate on enjoying your life.
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