A
female
age
30-35,
*orrytoomuch
writes:I was with my ex for 2 years. It was a great relationship.. everything was perfect. He treated me great and we were really serious. However, we are both too young (20 and 21) to get as serious as things were progressing. Basically, we broke up because we were both at two different points in our lives and our maturity levels weren't the same. He initiated the break up but I, too, realized we needed it. The breakup was very painful for me because he was such a big part of my life and was my best friend. We tried to remain friends but it couldn't work because he would continue to tell me he loved me and wanted us back together in the future. This obviously wasn't helping me get over him so I had to cut off all contact. We didn't talk for a little over 3 months. I then get a message from him on myspace because he wanted to see how I was. By this point, I had come to a much better place with everything. I responded to his message telling him I was doing great and asked how he was and also asked why he contacted me so randomly. He only responded something short like "I just wanted to see how you were" he didn't even respond to me asking how he was. Anywayss... about a month passes and some things happened to my family and I wanted someone to talk to. Basically, one night before I went to bed, I randomly decided to text him about the things that were happening within my family. He didn't respond right away and I just fell asleep.. I woke up to 6 missed calls and text messages asking if I was okay. To make the long story short, he was there for me with my family stuff. He actually met up with me at a park so I could talk to someone about it all. He was really sweet and constantly wanted to make sure I knew he was there for me. After we hung out we talked on the phone that night for almost 3 hours about our feelings. He told me he was still in love with me and even started crying because he said he missed me so much and didn't realize just how much until he saw me. He also said that no makes him feel the way I still did. Basically he just confessed all of these feelings for me and talked like he wanted to get back together with me. We both agreed to "see where things go." Well, since then (a little over 2 weeks), we've talked almost every day and have hung out once. Our conversations have been great and it's just been so amazing to be able to talk to the one person I've wanted to talk to since we broke up. However, now he's starting to act like he isn't necessarily wanting to get back together right now. He says he thinks it's too soon and doesn't want us to jump into it too quickly. He still says he wants to but just thinks now is too quickly. However, one thing that worries me is that was what he said when we broke up. However, the difference now is that we talk pretty much every day whereas when we were broken up and he said that we didn't talk everyday anymore. He said one time that since we were getting so serious before we broke up, he fears that if we get back together it'll start to progress that way again and he's not ready for that (marriage, etc.)Another thing that worries me is he has a friend that is a girl that he met in july. He swears up and down they're only friends but they talk on the phone some and hang out. He's mentioned they both USED to have feelings but he says he's not into her like that now that he knows her.. they're just good friends. Anyways, I guess my question is.. what should I do? I've talked to him about this and he says that he still feels we're working towards getting back together but that right now is too soon. He wants for us to continue talking and hanging out and see where it takes us. When we last hung out he kissed me goodbye.. twice. He's also said that he isn't asking me to wait around if I don't want to.. but yet he gets jealous when I make the slightest mention about another guy. I'm not saying I'm ready to jump right into a relationship again but I also don't want to be let down.. ya know?Please any thoughts/advice?! Thanks everyone :) I know it was long! :/
View related questions:
best friend, broke up, get back together, jealous, my ex, myspace, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, lola29  +, writes (26 September 2009):
i just got back with my guy after 3 months of not talking too. and i was the one who wanted to take things slow, but he told me that i knew u too well to start all over again, i didnt believe that, but after a month i have to say, if you guys truly loved and wanted each other. there should be no delays or we have to take it slow methods. doesnt work lol. there are many definitions to what "slow " is in a relationship, and i think he's kinda backing away but at the same time he doesnt want to lose you. are u sure there is no one else inhis life? you guys should be dating, thats taking it slow, getting to knwo eachother again, and talk about what have you been doing the past 3 months of separation. see if you have chemistry still.
try not to sound impatient to him, but talk about "us" , ask to go out have lunch, dinner, a movie, a day out to urselves.
goodluck
|
