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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

How do you let a man understand that having premarital sex is not the way to go

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3664 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Any man out here waited for their woman who did not want to have premarital sex and married her? And how are you doing in the marriage. Or do you know of anyone who this worked for? I am recently single two years ago and made a vow to the Lord ...

Is our sex life suffering because of what he's doing on his phone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3666 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - My husband comments on my clothes if he thinks I look sexy in them, then there are days he doesn't even notice anything about me. Another issue is, he gets turned on by me, starts getting intimate, touches, undresses me, he gets sexually aroused,...

I'm in a badly sex-deprived long term marriage!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3660 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - I've been married for 22 years, and feel terribly sexually starved by my partner. If I don't ask (often beg, demand or cajole) for sex, I'll almost never get it. Once I tried waiting for three months, to see if she would think of it. She didn't! ...

My boyfriend is sending mixed signals, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - dear cupid, i need your help. i am a virgin and i have been in a relationship for almost six months now. my boyfriend has had sex before and lately hes been hinting that he wants to have sex with me. i was a little scared at first and i kind of felt ...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

I orgasm when alone, yet lose the orgasm when with my Bf. Yes he's caring with foreplay. What needs to change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hello ! So I'm having a issue with reaching an orgasm with my boyfriend . He's 5 years older then me and he's the best lover I have ever had ( I think it's because he's older ) but anyways I have never climaxed with anybody that I have been ...

Am I being a bad friend? I have a crush on her ex. But she has said that she likes him, but will never get back with him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3665 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I have recently had sex with a guy and I'm starting to really like him, however he is one of my closest friends ex boyfriend.. I told her I kissed him once at a party and she didn't seem bothered at all but she also told me, weeks after that, that...

Should I go along to the Doctor with my fiance when she visits the Doctor to talk about contraception?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3654 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - Hi everyone. I am engaged to get married next year in june. It is about my fiance going to be using birth control. She plans to go see the doctor and get all that figured out. But when would be a good time to go to the doctor and should i go alon...

Heard rumors that she's a virgin. After dating for 5 months, how to bring up the topic of sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (M) - I have been dating this amazing girl for 5 months, I am 24 and she is 20. We get along great and connect very well, however in the time we have been dating the subject of sex (or anything remotely close to the subject) has not been brought up yet. I ...

How to reach "that point"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3669 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Im not sure if anybody else out there has the same problem I have. But looking for some sexual advice. I am a squirter when I can "get off" but my problem is reaching that point during sex. I feel the tickling feeling when your about to explode...

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...

Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...

Can you help calculate the maths to perhaps arrive at which guy is the likely father?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - This is kind of embarrassing but i just want an opinion im fairly sure i know the answer would like some opinions though. I am 6 mths pregnant. at the time of falling pregnant i slept with 2 guys. im fairly sure i know who the dad is but was w...

I feel I may have a mental block when it comes to sex, should I go for it anyway and hope it goes away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Okay, basically I have come to the conclusion I am mentally unable to have sex or have a relationship. This may sound really strange and I do not have a reason as to why this has happened. But for the last year and a half, I have found myself una...

Big difficulties ahead. Will this relationship last? What other options are open to me, to consider?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - A year ago, I was ready to move to another city, transfer to finish school and leave sex work behind. I had been an escort for over 2 years, had a failed marriage and a child not living with me because of my unstable and crazy lifestyle (he lives ...

Have I already ruined my chance to ever be aroused by a man because of my porn addiction and my enjoyment of masturbation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I don't know if this question is appropriate for this site, but I really need to talk to someone about this. Please help. I'm a 19 yr old girl addicted to pornography. I had never had sex (or anything sensual/intimate with anyone) until last ...

Only ever had sex with my BF so how could my BF have given me HPV? Is his excuse plausible? Or has he been cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I ...

Due to my health issues, are there any devices that would allow my husband to enjoy and receive the best blow job?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My husband and I are high school sweet hearts. hey been together for 20 years and married for over 15! We've always had a good sex life and I've always enjoyed oral sex and he has too!!! However; due to a severe case of TMJ (jaw joint issues...

How can I deal with the pre-cum that occurs, despite my best efforts to deal with fact I'm easily aroused by pretty girls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - hi, i am single man, 29 years old. i never had a sex or even any kind of relationship. please i don't know why i easily get erection. so, i got this idea— when i see a nice girl or think about sex, i relax my body and my penis just to prevent erec...

Why has he turned off sex, with me, yet initially he was enthusiastic?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Good day everyone!! Im in need of some advice. Im a healthy 36 yr old woman who is engaged to a 32 yr old man that I of course love to death. We have been together for just over 2 years now. And sad to say already having problems in the bedroom. W...

My ex was friendly but then he sent me a really nasty email and deleted me. Was this the work of his girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Slightly confused tonight. My ex and I broke up about 8months ago and we both have new partners. We kept in touch, but hardly spoke really - when he did speak to me he would try and get me to meet him or would he would speak about how much he ...

Feeling guilty about ignoring my family. How can I explain that I want a relationship and to see my family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - Hello all... Briefly, i am in a new relationship.We have been together a month, met on the internet. Yes we had sex soon!too soon, i;m 24, hes 25. He lives in london. He is lovely! we went to wales last weekend and man treated me like a queen,...

I'm worried my lack of sexual experience will drive my boyfriend away

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I am 43 and have had a few boyfrineds but it never lasted so am a virgin at 43 and all my life i was a carer for my parents and never went out, since they died i have tried to meet new people but find it hard until i met somebody that is 15 years ...

Is chocolate syrup safe to use with condoms?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

25 October 2014 (M) - For years I have used chocolate syrup on condoms to make them more palatable for girls who don't like the taste of latex in those situations where one of us (or both of us) insist on using a condom for oral sex. It seems to serve the purpose. ...

How do I bring up trying to have a more spicy sex life? My husband isn't very open!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I am trying to spice up my sex life with my husband. I yearn for a exciting, sensual, heart thumping sex life with my husband. I would be so turned on if my husband would masterbate in front of me while I masterate for him. How do I even begin to ...

Did hiring a escort make me look bad?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

25 October 2014 (M) - I'm doing an update since my post "I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?" (I'm 28 now)and have not post anything for few months. Well I hired a escort and done the deed, and I can my experience was not bad as ...

My boyfriend wants to try a position I don't and won't take no for an answer!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3666 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - *contains sexual content* hey there aunts and uncles, Ok so im in a happy loving relationship me andy partner are very sexually experimental .. outdoors .. toys .. role play ... dress up .. he has had 2 previous partners one at age 14 an...

If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...

Should I de-value myself and have sex with someone who doesn't respect me just because I need sex right now?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - A guy and I had agreed to have casual sex before the holidays. We agreed on coffee first to get to know each other, a sleepover to somewhat test compatibility, then sex. A lot of it. He wants to keep it monogamous, and the order of this was his idea ...

Is this a normal part of aging for men?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - My spouse is a few years older. We have an active sex life, but however, there are times that he has a hard time reaching an orgasm. Is this a normal part of aging for men? Is there any lubricant or any recommendation that will assist him in ...

How do I accept that I'm in a sexless relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3666 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - It bothers me when my guy watches porn and gets himself off. Why? Because he will do it just before I get home, right after I leave, when he thinks I'm sleeping and I am always ready and willing. In the last 5 months we have had sex 5 times. I've ...

I love my husband but I've fallen out of lust with him. Will the feelings come back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - Hello everyone Thanks for offering advice I've been married for 10 years like everyone we've had a few ups and downs but the bottom line is we love each other very much and I'd say my hb is my best friend, again like many relationships ou...

He tries to turn our love making into some sort of sordid porno by imitating what he has watched, which doesn't do anything for me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six months. I'm 26 and he's 29. We see each other every weekend and text and call each other daily. Our relationship in general is wonderful and we have lots in common, however,...

My wife's libido is low after having our baby

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (M) - I am sorry if this is an old issue - I have looked over previous thread but everyone is unique eh? Two years ago I married my wife who is considered by all who meet her, male and female, to be a particularly attractive and 'sexy' woman. Las...

I'm worried about boyfriend using an old flings photos to get off on

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi Just looking for advice. My boyfriend once admitted to me that he occasionally (one every week or two) masturbates to a handful of girls he knows - one of these girls he slept with a couple of times a few years ago. But they've known each oth...

Married almost 20 years. Now ED is a problem. How to spice things up and be more adventurous to improve his mental stimulation?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - I am very frustrated. My husband and I have been together almost 20 years. He has been experiences ED problems the past couple of years. He needs mental stimulation (such as him picturing me having sex with someone else) or just being ...

Do you think his expectations may include sex on this fun weekend he's arranged?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Hi. I'm getting a divorce and incidentally met a very old colleague from about 15 ago. He's invited me to join him in another city to watch a big football game and generally a weekend together which I accepted. He's booked the hotel, I haven't...

He says my nature is bad. That was his reason for breaking up with me. What was my fault?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I met a guy online 3 months back. On the first day itself I had phone sex with him. Initially he was very loving. We were even planning to meet. He used to say if I make you pregnant I will marry you. He said we will make videos while having sex...

Is there anything that can be done to increase the friction when my wife and I have sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - I am a married male in my early 40s. When my wife and I have sex she gets so wet and slippery that after a while there is almost no friction. The other night I couldn't even feel anything to the extent that I lost my erection. I had to pull out ...

Does she truly love me? What do you think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - I have being dating a girl for about two years now and I love her very much. before we started dating she had a boyfriend but I loved this girl because she is so jovial,sweet voice and easy to go along with and so respectful. so I started getting ...

After I married her I found out she had worked as a hooker. Can I make this marriage work? Or should I divorce her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - A year and half ago i happen to know a girl through her relative. She was living in (Country 2) and i was living in (country 3). But we both were from (Country 1) She was there since she was 8 or 9 living with her parents and two siblings. ...

Despite all the troubles, why does he keep on coming back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3677 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - i dated a boy for nine months, we broke up publicly in may 2014, however soon realising the mistake we had made and that we still loved each other. We tried to continue our relationship in secret. however one night he held a party, but he spent mo...

What can I do considering it seems that I am in another abusive relationship and pregnant too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I am so depressed and need some help/advice... I am 22 on Thursday. I have two kids (3 and 5) and I am 23 weeks with my third. I have messed up my life up so much... I was with a "man" for 5 years and he physically and emotionally abuse...

Is it ok for me to send this message to a guy I like? In the closet now, but should I just come out to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - "Hey decided to just be honest. I’m not gay but I am bi, and I kinda want to ^^^ you off. It doesn’t make you gay to let a guy ^^^ you off, like i said i’ve had friends it happened to and they honestly couldn’t tell the difference. I’d be 100% dis...

Turns out that my mother is a prostitute and everyone at University and school knows. Should I move away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - Turns out that my mother is a prostitute and everyone in school and my university knows. OMG!!!!!!!! what can i do? should i move? i cant believe this, i cant even go out! my life sucks, hope no one other than me ever has to experience this. Every...

Could I be Bi? How will my parents react if I tell them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3679 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - I'm very curious with boys at the moment. I'm madly in love with a girl (A) and she lives far away and she is very hot but there is also a boy who goes to my school, all boys) and he's called (B) I fantasize a LOT about (A and B). I don't kn...

Is there a way for me to make my mother understand that she's not being left out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

17 October 2014 (?) - Hey everyone, I'll keep this short. Basically, I have never been the sort of person that discusses my feelings or anything relationship related with my friends and family, there is no reason for it, I just don't like talking about it with people. ...

He says he doesn't want sex with me because he's bored!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 22, we used to have sex like 6-8,times a month which I was fine with but now he doesn't want to do it at all because he says he's bored. And it really hurt a lot. Shouldn't we be doing it a lot more since we are ...

Early 20s and having sexual issues. Why does this keep happening?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

17 October 2014 (M) - Hello all. I'm a college student in my early 20s and I really need some help. For quite some time, I've been having some troubles with my sex drive/virility in general. Whenever I'm able to get an erection, it is almost always at "half-mast", s...

I lost my virginity. What should I do? Talk to my Dad? Or talk to my Dad's apprentice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - I'm a 16 year old girl and I ended up losing my virginity with my dad's apprentice. My dads apprentice (J) is 18,and I've known him for 3 years . He came round last week to drop off the keys to my dad's work car. I was home alone as my family was...