A
male
age
22-25,
*ax Lyles
writes:I'm very curious with boys at the moment. I'm madly in love with a girl (A) and she lives far away and she is very hot but there is also a boy who goes to my school, all boys) and he's called (B) I fantasize a LOT about (A and B).I don't know if I'm bisexual yet but like, if I was curious and (B)wanted to go along with it, it wouldn't be serious like messing around sort of thing. Like I would love to have relations with him but at the same time I want to have relations with (A). I am very confused and there are 3 things stopping me from being bisexual.1) How will my parents and friends accept me if I say I'm bi (I don't know if that's coming out of the closet because I thought that was gay only)2) If (B)will agree to mess around with me 3) If I feel happy with the choice I make. I'm still deciding what to do! I need some support and I hope you can helpThanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (18 October 2014):
 At your age it is very normal for you to be finding your feet. You are still a work in progress, and your thoughts are still forming.
You can wonder, but not act on your fantasy scenarios at this point in time.
I feel it is far too early to announce your conflicting desires at the moment to your family. A lot can happen in a couple of years. Use that time wisely not recklessly.
Over the next two to three years your thoughts may change or they may grow stronger in two or three years in one direction or another. It is too early to act on your fantasy thoughts just yet.
My advice is to allow more reckless teens to throw away their teen years up to age 16-17-being just notches on the belts of others.
Far better for the smarter ones to observe and build their knowledge of how to interact with others, without sex intruding.
Keep your eyes and ears open. Look to see who seems more genuine. Who behaves well. versus the rest.
Observe who seems to connect better with people and who suffers much rejection.
You will end up with many more relationship skills
Thus you will be in a stronger position and more ready to start a relationship.
You will have developed better relationship skills.
Thus when you are older and ready for a possible relationship in the future things will be more likely to progress well.
In the interim perhaps keep a person private diary that details all the things you are doing at school, in sport, as pastimes and at home.
Such a journal can really help you grow and develop your self as a man. And demonstrate to you the many things you are involved in.
The future is yours. But right now your schooling must come first.
Your Crushes will appreciate your ability to step back and use some constraint until you are older.
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