A
male
age
30-35,
*axieguardian
writes:"Hey decided to just be honest. I’m not gay but I am bi, and I kinda want to ^^^ you off. It doesn’t make you gay to let a guy ^^^ you off, like i said i’ve had friends it happened to and they honestly couldn’t tell the difference. I’d be 100% discrete, I wouldn’t tell anyone, and I wouldn’t want anything in return. Genuinely I think you’d enjoy it. If you decide to say no that’s fine I won’t ask again, just please don’t tell anyone else about what I said, it took a lot of courage to write this. If you feel awkward around me and don’t wanna be friends anymore, that’s fine I understand, it’s a shame, but I understand."He asked me a few hours ago if I was gay when I said I was going to miss him when he leaves, I lied and said no, (still in closet) but then I thought, no maybe I should just come out and tell the truth, ive read lots of stories where the guy actually turned round and said yes. Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (18 October 2014):
I don’t really understand who this person is: a friend? Some-one you met on-line?
Is this the message you want to send him? I assume so from the title, and my suggestion is that you don’t. If this is a close friend, making a move like that on him might threaten the friendship. Why not just tell him you’re bisexual without what is frankly a somewhat sordid offer. Then he will support you if he’s any kind of friend, and your friendship will survive. If he’s just some-one on-line, steer clear of this kind of conversation. On-line chat is odd: you don’t speak to the person, you don’t know them, and sometimes you can be drawn quite quickly in to conversations of that sexual nature because it feels like it doesn’t matter and it’s harmless, relatively anonymous fun. I think that it does though because it doesn’t get you used to getting to know people gradually and properly and thinking not about casual sex, but forming relationships. It would be a shame if you were to develop an unhealthy view of gay relationships because this was the first exposure you got to the gay community.
I think you need to focus your efforts on telling those who are important to you, and trying to explain what being bisexual means. Don’t send this message.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (18 October 2014):
Agree completely with CMMP, and want to add that if you send this message via text or any other written form, then there is proof you said it, so if the guy reacts the opposite way you want him to, he will be pissed. If it goes that way, he might not only tell someone you said it, he may SHOW everyone he knows your text.
You'd be pretty stupid to approach him in that manner. Go have some drinks with him and make a physical move or something, if he's curious he will be more likely to respond positively under that scenario than the one you presented.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2014): Wow. Just wow. Haha. Basically I would say DO NOT send anyone a message like that ever.
If you like him then say you have feelings for him
If you just want to go down on him maybe it's best to find someone else because you might ruin the friendship you have
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 October 2014):
Jesus Christ, have some tact!
If you want to come out to him then do so, but don't do it by saying "Hey you should let me suck your sick that's totally not gay, but don't tell anyone."
What a disaster of a text that would be. Come out (he'll probably tell someone though, that's a hard secret to keep), and after you come out see how he reacts.
Wanting to get a bj from another guy absolutely means you're not entirely straight. I'm not the least bit homophobic, but pretty much the last thing I want is a by from another guy, even if he was the bj champion of the world.
So unless your friend is already curious your sales pitch won't do a think to change that. It will only make you look bad.
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