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female
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26-29,
*oullessdemons
writes:i dated a boy for nine months, we broke up publicly in may 2014, however soon realising the mistake we had made and that we still loved each other.We tried to continue our relationship in secret. however one night he held a party, but he spent most of it in his room with a girl, who is widely known as easy. he broke up with me that night and a week later i found out he had cheated. the hurt to me was that this girl had been floating about for most of our relationship. and while he didnt like making promises to me in case he broke them, he promised me he would never get with this girl, obviously he broke that promise.now don't get me wrong - i hated him all summer, we made a pitiful attempt at trying to be friends but i was far too hurt and he was still with this girl. however by the end of summer they had ended because she cheated on him 6 times in a week (i told you she was easy). however me and him managed to rekindle a lovely friendship, albeit with a few hiccups, but we've grown to be each others best friend - we go shopping in the city together, we spend nights in with each other etc.however the problem arises, that im still in love with him. and one very drunk, drug fuelled night, we were at a friends and we kissed and then we had sex. this happened twice more during nights in at his (all within two weeks). then at a party, he brought a girl with him - the best friend of the girl he cheated on me with. while me and him weren't a thing, it really hurt me and he knew this. i swore i would never touch him again, but he's my weakness.the other day, we had been spending the day together. then it happened again, we kissed and then had sex. last night i stayed at his, nothing happened between us - i slept on the couch etc. recently, he started telling me his feelings, something he never used to do. he told me he had ended up really liking the girl he cheated on me with, but obviously that ended badly, and he had kissed her best friend at that party in an attempt to get over her which i can honestly understand. he says he doesn't like the girl much anymore, as he's began to realise how much trouble she is.why does he keep coming back to me though? we always fall back into each others arms and i dont know why. are we possibly meant to be together but we dont realise? please tell me what i should do.***please don't be cruel - i am aware i should stay away from him but im in love and if you saw us together you would see that there truly is something there. this has been adding to my pre existing depression and anxiety and i just need honest but kind advice***
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2014): You know the answer - stay away from him. He is using you for sex and an ego boost. It makes him feel like "The Man" knowing there's a woman, no matter how he treats her, who will jump right into bed with him.
The man whom you're in love with has a serious character flaw. It's best you cut off all contact with him now. Another bit of advice is to get tested for STDs. Non-promisuous people can contract an STD as well as a promiscuous person. This man is promiscuous and spent time with a promiscuous woman. Not judging their lifestyle, it's their business, but you need to make sure you're healthy.
You deserve a man who treats you with respect. Repeat that to yourself daily! You self-respect is more important than this so-called man.
Please don't think I am being cruel because I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear. Being cruel would be to advise you to continue a spending time with this person.
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