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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six months. I'm 26 and he's 29. We see each other every weekend and text and call each other daily. Our relationship in general is wonderful and we have lots in common, however, since the beginning of our relationship he's had some trouble maintaining an erection during foreplay and sex. I've had four other sexual partners before we got together and they never had a problem in keeping it up. Also he finds it very hard to reach orgasm when we do have sex. At first he's very eager to please but that soon changes when he's trying to come. We have plenty of foreplay before hand and he even loses his erection when I give him oral. He has a foot fetish though and can get hard immediately by touching and kissing my feet. Recently he's told me that when we're having sex he thinks about all the porn he's watched to try and get off quicker. I know he's a fan of porn and I'm fine with that but he tries to turn our love making into some sort of sordid porno by imitating what he has watched, which doesn't do anything for me! I feel quite hurt that he thinks about porn when he's making love to me, although I haven't mentioned this to him. Am I just being silly for getting upset over that? I love him but I don't know if I want to be with someone who has porn on his brain all day every day, surely love making should just be about the two of us?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (21 October 2014):
I bet the root of the problem is too much porn. I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's known to sometimes cause sexual issues like ed among other things.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 October 2014):
 He has some sexual dysfunction which has nothing to do with you. It's either his health (physical or mental) or his brain got so desensitized that he needs a new and different stimuli each time. I don't want to be with someone like that either. Usually people with severe paraphernalia have issues that spill over to other aspects of the relationship.
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