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writes: Hey everyone,I'll keep this short. Basically, I have never been the sort of person that discusses my feelings or anything relationship related with my friends and family, there is no reason for it, I just don't like talking about it with people. I've never discussed any problems etc, I keep things to myself and deal with everything alone. Its who I am. But I've now returned to university for my second year and I've just found out that my mum feels like she's being left out because I don't tell her about relationships, my sexuality etc. But I don't tell anyone so its not just her. I feel kind of guilty for making her feel this way but its never been an issue for her before and she knows what I'm like. Is there a way for me to make her understand that she's not being left out without me having to sit down and tell her all this stuff? I love my mum with all my heart and soul and I tell her all the time, I tell her everything, but not my feelings and relationships. Everyone is just worried about me but there's nothing to worry about. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you.
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reader, TJ14  +, writes (30 October 2014):
anytime. well the letter is an awesome idea i had done something of that sort. dont worry give it some time and you will be all good. juat remember time heals everything, slowly but nevertheless heals it. i hope you are better. take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. I did attempt this about a week or so ago and found it really difficult, my mum listens, she's fantastic, but I found it hard to talk so I ended up writing her a letter, it sounds stupid but it got a few things across to her, things I know she'll want to know.
She came to see me for a day at the weekend and she tried to discuss a few things from the letter with me which was awkward but we managed, hopefully this will help her to understand. She's never really seen the actual struggle to speak the words before so it was an experience for her too.
And no, you're not crossing a line, everyone tells me the same thing, but it's difficult to change something you've done your whole life and something that makes you feel physically sick.
Thank you for answering :)
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reader, TJ14 +, writes (29 October 2014):
as females a mother will expect her daughter to tell stuff u know. and thats normal. but if u say that ur mom knows how u are probably she thought u guys would get closer as ur staying in uni and all. sit down with her or go out for dinner nd tell her explain to her once again and just try to tell her few things she might feel a bit better and as well as hear u out when u explain to her tht ur not a person who opens up easily.
p.s. i hope im not crossing any limit but dont bottle up ur feeling too much it will hurt u one day
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