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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Sex category)

Sex: Help and advice

Could it be smegma or semen? Or is it evidence of cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4041 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - this is a serious question if a man has a white powdery ring around his foreskin head does that mean he cheated and had sex? is that smegma? He is uncircumsized ....when he pulled back the skin I saw white clumpy stuff under the skin looks like ...

Should I have sex with my manager if he want to?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am 19 and I work part-time as a server. We have this kind of newish manager, he's 31, that started about 5-7 months ago. When he first started working there, I HATED him. I mean seriously disliked the guy. He was arrogant, rude, cocky an demanded ...

Should I feel this guilty about not being a virgin anymore? I'm 23 and I've slept with one person!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - Hi Aunts and Uncles, You all have given me great advice in the past, and I'm hoping you can help me again. I've been struggling with feelings of guilt over not being a virgin anymore. I'm 23 and I slept with my last (and only) boyfriend. In th...

He's a great guy, except for his sex drive

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am frustrated beyond belief and the worst part is, I will NEVER EVER cheat. My boyfriend (who is, admittedly, a very good guy) and I have been together almost 3.5 years. No engagement ring yet and he always claims it's money which I get because ...

Can I stop him sleeping with a new woman, Just this weekend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4044 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - Hi I hope you guys can give me some advice? Here's the story... Sorry it's so complicated. i came to this city to build a career and get over a bad break up.. i built my life up, had a fantastic high paid job i was very good at and got on br...

Has he stopped finding me sexually atrractive? What can I do to improve things in the bedroom?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - Im 22 and my boyfriends 23 we have been together for four years when we first got together we were having sex all the time but now its like he doesn't want to have sex with me ive tried sexy outfits and he just turns around and says what the point ...

Should I believe that he wants me for more than just sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - Hi, I am from Malaysia. I met a Persian guy online. We talked for few days and he came to meet me up. I kinda like him and we were in love fast, till now its like a month we are together. I dont know him well, yesterday I was asking him about his...

I'm becoming less attracted to my girlfriend though I love her. What's the solution?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4046 days ago

28 October 2013 (M) - I am a 23 years old guy, and I've been dating my girlfriend for a few months now. I've been alone for 5 years before I met her, and anything before her wasn't very serious, so I may as well say this is my first real relationship. She is 5 years ol...

We have sex but he never cums

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - My long distance boyfriend and I have recently started having sex, he has been to see me two weekends in the past month and a bit and both times we have engaged in sexual activities. He can 'get it up' and maintain and erection over me however he ...

I want to go slow -- are guys not willing to wait anymore?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

28 October 2013 (F) - I used to be in an very emotionally unhealthy relationship of five years which was my first one i was 19- and it lasted until i was 24. I finally left the abusive relationship and have taken three years to really recover and get my self to start ...

New relationship -- when do I tell her about my fetish?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

28 October 2013 (M) - hi i have fetish for satin/silk and only get aroused when a female is wearing satin preferably nightdresses , i am considering a new relationship with a female of similar age to me but how do i go about telling her of my liking of satin/silk , i do ...

We want to be more sexual but don't know how!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4036 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I want to get more sexual with my boyfriend We have tried to but neither of us know what we are doing we are both 18 and we neither of us are virgins but i don't know how to act sexy or anything please help...

I found a sex video on my boyfriend phone and it has just devastated me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

27 October 2013 (F) - I recently found a video on my boyfriend's old mobile phone of his ex giving him oral sex, and a few photos of her just in her underwear. I can't help feelings like he kept them because I'm not enough for him. I've never had much confiden...

What's the best sex toy for ldr?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

27 October 2013 (M) - hi dear aunts, im in a ldr and we love each other very much, however we miss a lot the phsical contact. on my last visit i jokingly told her i would send her "something to keep her company, something she could enjoy and think of me while im away... ...

How do I tell him I'm ready for him to enter "through the front door?"

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Hi, So I'm ready to have vaginal sex with my boyfriend. We've done oral and anal. Before him, I had only done oral so he was my first for the backdoor. I'm ready for him to enter through the front too haha The problem is that I'm not sure how...

Is asking your separated spouse for sex wrong, we were on very good terms

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4049 days ago

26 October 2013 (M) - My wife and I are separated for 4 years, it's a long story of infidelity on her part and neglect on my part. I have accepted the situation for what it is and to help keep peace in the family. We have 2 adult children. Recently she asked me to go ...

How can I get rid of my sex drive?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4047 days ago

26 October 2013 (M) - I'm a 26 year-old single male, and I'm sick of my sex drive. Absolutely, 100% sick of it. People talk about sex like it's one of the great joys of life, but as far as I can tell, it's more burden than blessing. I'm sick of thinking about sex all the ...

Male friend has changed behaviour since we hooked up. What's his problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4050 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Ok so I have a friend who is quite flirty and anyway we hooked up once a couple weeks but we don't like each other or anything. So anyway we used to talk like all the time but all of a sudden he just stopped replying to my messages and starts ...

Do men truly still value virginity or do they see it as something to run away from?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Do men truly still value virginity or do they see it as something to run away from? I'm going to be 21 soon and haven't even been kissed. My best guy friend who's a man whore tells me virginity sucks and romance is dead. He said he'd sleep with me ...

I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4050 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart. Basically, when we broke up, we made a stupid agreement to still have sex from time to time. I ended things because I got sick of ...

My period is due when I've arranged to see my fwb

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4050 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - I'm supposed to be going round to my fwb's place this weekend but I'm due my period within the next few days. If it hasn't arrived when I go round should I warn him I'm due on or not mention anything and just hope it doesn't? What do the guys ...

My vagina is very wet and it makes an irritating sound!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4051 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - I have a problem with my vagina,everytime when i have sex it becomes too wet and makes an irritating sound which makes me not to enjoy...

I don't feel sexually validated by my boyfriend and have found an online MM in another country who understands me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4051 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - Where do I start?! My problem seems so silly but it's got me so confused about what I want with my life. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We're perfectly suited in every way apart from he's just not horny! At all. I've tried so many th...

He's become distant, can I make him interested again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4051 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - I've known this guy for a few months and been very flirty, to the point of sending flirty texts etc. We both admitted to liking each other - however there were a few complications in our way. Anyway these complications got sorted. We started dating ...

I don't want to ruin our friendship over sex. Should I just come out and say it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4052 days ago

24 October 2013 (M) - There is a woman I used to work with that became a good friend, though we rarely see each other. We're both in our early 50's. I did some repair work on her home a few times. I am separated from my cheating liar wife, she is married. About a year ...

I just need to feel heard and loved without it being the lead up to sex sometimes. Advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4054 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, I'm looking for an outside perspective on my relationship with my boyfriend please? We have been together for 4 years but due to the fact he works evenings and I work 9-5 we can only see each other twice a week max for a couple of ...

I'm at a breaking point because of his rejections!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I know this question gets asked alot but I'm still confused about my situation. I'm head over heels in love with my boyfriend of over a year so was delighted when he asked me to move in with him recently. He's so caring and sweet to me he's the o...

He hasn't made a move in 6 months, why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I'm very much in love with him, I've had many boyfriends before but none that I felt so much love for like I do for him. I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship a couple years ...

What should I do? My boyfriend is not pleased I am not a virgin.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4056 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - my boyfriend asked me if i'm a virgin or not.i told him the truth,am not a virgin and he's not pleased at all because he's a virgin.what should i do?...

Why does it have to be complicated when we had a great time on our date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4057 days ago

19 October 2013 (?) - Okay so I went on a date with this guy I met him at a coffee shop and he looked really good. We had a nice time talking and laughing. Before we had met he came on really strong when we were texting each other. He would text me telling me how b...

Are girls turned off by an ugly penis??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

17 October 2013 (M) - I used to masturbate very much, and this caused my penis to have some dark spots on it. Because Iam tan, it appeared that the spots are post inflammatory hyperpigmentaion. Iam virgin, but had oral sex couples times before it happened. My question ...

We havent had sex and its been 3 months since we married

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - i m 24 year old and my husband is of 30 age . we have just complete 3 months from marriage and we didn't have sex yet?...

I want to be free and do as I please, Except he gets really jealous.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3649 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - I have no one to discuss this with and I'm hoping someone out there could help me out. Greatly appreciate it.. So this situation is mixing my emotions up a whole lot! So I've been with my boyfriend about 3months and things are going well! Except he ...

How do I respark his interest in our sex life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - So we have been together for 5 years. In the last two months, the thought of his mouth being on me in any way has become disgusting because he has begun dipping (which I have made clear that I absolutely despise.) He told me today on the phone when ...

Should I have an affair with my married colleague?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - I recently ended up kissing a women I work with after a night out. It shouldn't be a problem, only she is married. We have always had great chemistry and she has made no secret of her liking me--I guess you could say she is a cougar or whatever. She ...

Should I be worried that my boyfriend doesn't want or need sex every night?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - My problem is that my boyfriend and I just recently. Intimate. He loves to kiss and cuddle with me and he loves so much to do oral on me.. but that's as far as it goes. He says he's just a guy who doesn't need to have sex every night that pleasing ...

My boyfriend doesn't like to have the light on during sex. Is he fantasizing about someone else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend doesn't like to have the light on during sex. He prefers to turn it off and leave another room on so you can see a little but it's still dark. Does that mean that he's fantasizing about someone else during sex? I'm not self conscious ...

If you tell your lover what you need and they don't even make an effort to hear you is it time to leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 3 years is not demonstrative about his feelings for me. I like getting the occasional text or phone call, especially when I am ill or he knows I am having a tough time. I have tried calmly telling him how I feel. That intimacy to...

I'm in love with her but I'm afraid she'll find someone else when she's in college!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4061 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - Hi there. This is pretty long and I do apologize but time is running out and I need guidance. No judgments, I already get enough of that from my old man. I'm 23 years old, desperate, and have been in love with my neighbor (who is a 23 year old ...

Do men really think about sex every 7 seconds?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - Hey ladies, just have a question... I have heard so many times that men think about sex every 7 seconds. Is this an exaggeration? Also, a second question I have is, I think about sex all the time even though I don't get much pleasure out of ...

I feel like there's competition and I'll never be good enough for my boyfriend.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have a mutual friend who is really slim, pretty and fun. I've known her all my life and my boyfriend met her through high school. Last week I was in an awful mood and all I wanted was for him to come and see me so I text him...

Can you sue someone for giving you an STD?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

13 October 2013 (F) - Can you sue someone for giving you an STD? My ex boyfriend has contacted me, to say that he recently ejaculated blood and that if he has an STD he will be suing me. I haven't had a check-up for a few months, but last time I went to the doctors ...

Is giving in to one's neurosis satisfying?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

12 October 2013 (M) - I have had a fantasy of being completely dominated in a bedroom by an attractive woman. In my case, completely means bondage, strap on, lack of power, discomfort, but not necessarily aggression or pain. I've always been curious but never had gu...

We have a 20 year old difference. Don't know if there is any point in starting things again.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - Hi, I was seeing a much younger guy casually for the last 8 months. We were really just sleeping together. I had just come out of a relationship and he was very inexperienced so we decided to try not to get too involved. He finished things ...

Pregnant by current boyfriend but still have feelings for my ex. Should I keep the baby or give it up for adoption?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - So I was 14 and a freshman in highschool, and I had made really good friends with a guy (we'll call him Sam) while I was dating (Max). Max heard a rumor that I was a sleep around and just started to ignore me. I was hurt and ended it with him, and ...

I denied a guy orgasm and now I feel bad. What should I Do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

12 October 2013 (F) - I am an 18 year old girl with an intense foot fetish. I am aroused by other girl's feet, but I'm not a lesbian, as in I still enjoy sex with males. I also get extremely turned on when someone licks the soles of my feet. So recently I was out with ...

I don't like it and insinutated he should find a new 'soul mate'

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

11 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend lately has been saying he wants to get more serious, I'm his soulmate etc. We've been together a year and a half. The other night we were really drunk and he entered me from behind. It really hurt and I hated it. But I always told him ...

Are we going somewhere or is this just casual sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

10 October 2013 (F) - i dated a guy for a few months and than things got complicated and we broke up , but i miss him and he says he wants to be good friends that that is better than strangers but we've been hanging out again and we just can't resist each other we ...

My friend probably gave her one-night-stand guy chlamydia (he doesn't know it might be from her) and now I'm dating this guy. How do I ask him to get checked without exposing my friend?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

9 October 2013 (F) - Hi all, I'm in a sticky situation! Straight to the point, I started university 18 months ago and quickly became good friends with a girl on my course. Since then we have been like best friends, we clicked instantly. She happens to be a girl ...

I'm a teen mom stuck in a horrible relationship and I think I could be pregnant again just 10 months after the first baby!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

8 October 2013 (F) - So basically I'm gonna try to make this short . I had a baby 10 months ago, I was 17 . The father of the baby he seemed to change (started being responsible, save money for our life together..etc) Now, everythings messed up again he's slightly...