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writes:My boyfriend doesn't like to have the light on during sex. He prefers to turn it off and leave another room on so you can see a little but it's still dark. Does that mean that he's fantasizing about someone else during sex? I'm not self conscious about my body and nor is he. Isn't it a little strange? Reply to this Question
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reader, llifton +, writes (16 October 2013):
 I prefer it dark. It sets the mood!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2013): Not necessarily. I would say he may not be totally comfortably with his performance in the bedroom so that is why he may not want the light on. Or he lacks some self confidence and is nervous and does not want to appear clumsy.I know from my experience with my boyfriend he never fantasizes about sex with other women when we are having sex.He just tries hard to pay attention but may look like he might be in la la land. You have nothing to worry about here.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 October 2013):
 I doubt it's because he wants to fantasize about someone else.
More likely it's "mood-lightning" or because he's had a GF who didn't like the lights on.
Ask him?
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reader, Miss.Cupid +, writes (15 October 2013):
 I don't believe he fantasizes your someone else. Maybe he feels awkward having sex in the light. Is sex new to him?.because most people actual are more comfortable having sex in the dark then in the light. What you can do is have sex somewhere else and not the bedroom. Kitchen with lights on or shower just in case you still have those doubts. But someone wanting to have sex with just a little bit of lights is normal. Good luck
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