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anonymous
writes: hi i have fetish for satin/silk and only get aroused when a female is wearing satin preferably nightdresses , i am considering a new relationship with a female of similar age to me but how do i go about telling her of my liking of satin/silk , i do not want to put her off me but would be afraid to attempt anything sexual as it could lead to embarrassment regards ian Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 October 2013):
I"m with Cindy Cares... the fetish itself is tame compared to some... the concern... that you say you CAN'T perform without it... that's worrisome.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (28 October 2013):
As fetishes go, I'd say yours is pretty tame- sort of nice, in fact ! Lavish her with gifts of nice silk camisoles, satin nighgowns and robes, etc.... I don't think she will be displeased or reluctant to cooperate.
Although, I find it a little worrisome nevertheless. You don't say that with a satin wrapped woman sex is hotter , better or wilder. You say you CAN'T perform in lack of it - isn't that very limiting ? And it does create problems with women. Although yours is easy to indulge because it does not entail anything painful or shocking or complicated,- plus she maybe gets some cool new lingerie in the bargain- as another poster pointed out, it's not nice she has to feel you are not attracted to her, just to the fabros. It becomes a downer eventually.
Isn't there any way you could re-train yourself - seeking professional help or something- to, at least occasionally also enjoy sex without the silk trimmings ?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 October 2013):
Satin/silk is a pretty "tame" fetish so I wouldn't really worry too much about it.
IF you are sexually active have you thought about satin sheets? But I would bring it up if you two are active and talking about likes/dislikes/fantasies.
Most women wouldn't mind wearing silk/satin to bed.
And I agree, you need to work on being able to get aroused without her wearing it, because a woman also likes that the sex is about THEM (and you) not the satin.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 October 2013):
Honestly, there's a lot worse fetishes you could have--I don't think this one is that big of a deal. Just be honest with her, she shouldn't have a problem with it, at least I wouldn't think. But I do think you should do whatever you can so that you can be aroused without satin/silk.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (28 October 2013):
I don't know the answer to that, but maybe you need to try and rid yourself of a fetishes that makes functioning without it impossible...
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