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Archived questions from: January, 2017 (see latest in Health category)

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I feel guilty and pathetic because I know there are people worse off than me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - Sorry if this sounds whiny, but I think I need some advice from some non judgemental people. Basically, to say my life hasn't turned out how I imagined it is an understatement. I've done nothing with it literally. I don't know why, but when I was ...

Is lack of length a problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, I am from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl in next 6 months I am worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.5 inch. When flaccid its about 3 to 3.5 inch varying. When I do some...

He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and th...

I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is causing me anxiety as he prefers drinking and socialising with his friends. I feel unsupported. How should I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - I'm 39 weeks pregnant and married for less than a year so we are pretty new. We are currently waiting for the D day and I'm extremely anxious as this is our first child. The problem is that he just isn't there for me. He prefers hanging out ...

How do I proceed with this situation? How do I process feeling unwanted if it doesn't work out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - There is somebody that I like who I am kind of friends with . We get on really well, have lots in common and laugh and joke a lot, as well as chatting when we go to the pub in a group etc. I've been on two holidays with him in a group. I wouldn't...

After 9 years together and 3 children our sex life remains bland. I love her. How can I find ways to interest her in oral sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - Hi, I'm 26 years old. I have a fiancé I've been with for 9 years who is also 26 years old. We have 3 beautiful kids together. My question today is, why won't my fiancé suck me off? I have literally tried everything but I cannot convince her to d...

How can I get the physical affection aspect re-started in our relationship? The cuddles have stopped.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm not sure what to do. My husband and I mostly have a great relationship, but for the last few months he seems to touch me only for sex. I like sex, but I'm starting to resent it and not want to have it when it seems to be the only...

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2674 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everythi...

My girlfriend is in hospital and her family are keeping me in the dark

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2847 days ago

28 January 2017 (M) - I have no idea what to do to deal with this situation. I have been with my girlfriend since 2011, she was 18 at the time we started. We have had a great relationship, typical ups and downs, but all in all great. Her family has never warmed up ...

I feel I am just not good enough for anything, its affecting my life and future!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - How do I get over this overwhelming feeling that I'm just not good enough? I'm going to be 18 this year and I'm just sick of always feeling this way about everything. 1) I'm the middle child in my family, and this may sound really cliqué but it's...

I don't know how to relax and be content in the moment.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. In the first few weeks, we had 2 minor communication mishaps, but it's generally been smooth sailing. My friends and family like him, and his like me. It's the first healthy relationship I'v...

I need help to face my fears so I can ask her out!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

28 January 2017 (M) - Hey ppl, I need some advice. I'll try to keep it short. I like a girl. I have a bad case of social anxiety. I think she used to like me too but think I've waited too long and she's loosing/lost interest.I get to see her once a week. Most times...

Our marriage is totally devoid of all physical contact!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - I am writing to you because I feel I have no one to tell. I have been married for 20 years to a woman who is the mother of my three children (19, 17 1nd 12). We haven't had sex since before the birth of our youngest child and its killing me. In f...

Could her actions in bathroom indicate that she cheated?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - My wife got really drunk last night and started a fight then went and douched her vag and left the bottle on the counter on accident. Now swears up and down she didn't cheat and says I'm in the wrong for accusing here. Any thoughts?...

Is my boyfriend pathetic? Or just stuck in his life at the moment?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Ok, so...my boyfriend's truck broke down this past summer and I got a car about two or three months after. He could have got another by now had he saved better but idk. He spends his money on weed mostly and his phone bill and car insurance bill ...

Suffering a workplace bully ringleader. How should I deal with this situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Hi, this is just a work related question but it's been bugging me for a while. I feel can't speak to anyone. I have been in my role nearly a year, I love my job, get on well with all my colleagues and I am learning so much. When I started I g...

Is my mother just hurting and taking it out on me? How do I accept that nobody loves me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2859 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - I'm not sure whether any of you have exactly gone through the same thing, but I feel alone in this, even though I may be irrational in thinking this and just overwhelmed by my feelings. Recently, my sibling (I'm not sure which gender specific...

Why would my husband delete his porn history, when it upsets me even more than the actual porn usage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - My husband deletes porn from his internet history so that it doesn't upset me. It's not that it upsets me a lot, I understand his reason for watching it is for quick release, usually his stress. And it's not ALL the time so... But I do sometimes g...

Did my words really crush his wish to marry me? Or was he looking for an excuse to break up, and blame me, for his own reasons?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - I met a guy on dating site he is from Europe and I'm from Africa. We met in person 3 times, he met my family twice and its been 19 months since we are in a relationship. Before 4 months he gave me an engagement ring and I accept we have differe...

What's the purpose of relationships when all it does is give someone power to hurt you?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

24 January 2017 (M) - Three years ago I was dating someone and it ended very horribly. She left me for another guy and it left me distressed beyond anything I had ever felt. I treated her with respect, listened to her when she spoke, and did what I thought was love her...

I'm terrified of getting my blood work done and it's crippling me emotionally. I can't function anymore!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I really need help. I don't know how I am ever going to do this? I do blood work every year as part of an annual physical. It has been awhile since I've done it. I have been putting it off since last August because I am deathly afraid there is ...

When should I tell this guy about my health problems?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I've got a couple of health conditions that impact day to day life, one with my breathing and one to do nerve damage causing a lot of pain. I've started seeing a new guy and don't know when I should bring these things up in conversation, like should ...

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2864 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

We need couples counselling but all his nit-picking is wearing me down. How should I handle this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

22 January 2017 (F) - I live with my (16 years older) boyfriend. We've been together for a few years, but we're not married yet and I'm pretty sure I know why we haven't taken that step yet. He has openly stated that he's concerned about my absent-mindedness and ...

Due to see a dentist soon and feeling anxious about that. But will the dentist be disgusted about state of my teeth?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

22 January 2017 (F) - I won't go into much detail about my childhood but I wasn't the best for dental hygiene and due to other circumstances which I won't discuss, it's gotten really bad and my mouth is horrible. I want to get it all sorted out and have a winning s...

How can I tell him that I suffer anxiety without making it sound like an excuse for needy behaviour?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2865 days ago

22 January 2017 (?) - Hi everyone, I suffer from anxiety, and I've suffered it for a fair few years. I've had a boyfriend now for a few months. I haven't told him yet. So when I get anxious I tend to text him quite a bit and I've noticed that his texts are becoming l...

Inside I can be calm and logical, yet I cry too much. Any suggestions on how to control my reactions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2866 days ago

20 January 2017 (F) - I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 27. He's my first serious relationship since college and for some reason, I cry all the time which I've never done before. We have a great relationship but when there's even a slight issue, I cry. I don't cry on purpose...

I'm starting to miss him. Was leaving the best option? How do I heal from being a victim in an emotionally abusive relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2866 days ago

20 January 2017 (F) - Hello, After Christmas (2016) I left my partner, as I came to realise I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. It was slowly wearing me down and I started to get ill; for the first time in nearly 20 years, my eczema came back and spread all...

Should I support my ex? I feel angry and ashamed of succumbing to his desperation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - My ex and I were together for 2 years but in the end it became unhealthy and toxic. He became verbally abusive and was flirting online with other girls which made me depressed and anxious. In the end I had to go ‘no contact’ in an attempt to get ...

Am I right or is my flu messing with my mind?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - First of all, I have the flu. Anyway, I was seeing a man, and out of the blue he broke up with me. I said ok. We had only been seeing each other for a month. Then he begged me to give him another chance, for two weeks non-stop. I give him another ...

Retroactive jealousy on my part. Plus why would she go and look for another dom given everything that has happened?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1203 days ago

19 January 2017 (M) - Hi Folks, First off, let me say hi as I am new here! Please excuse this long message but I need to try to explain my feelings and also explain some of what has been said. My problem is with retroactive jealousy over my girlfriends past. ...

She has no problems trying to crush my ego. NOW she says I'm bad in bed. How should I respond to her insults about lovemaking?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2775 days ago

18 January 2017 (M) - My girlfriend completely criticized my sex. Said I suck in bed when she's been wanting me for 3 years saying that no one knows her body like me and she never felt this good before and blah blah blah. But as soon as she gets mad at me that complet...

Is there any way I can change his perceptions about me? How should or could I attract him back to me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

18 January 2017 (F) - Its been 50 days. My boyfriend broke up with me.. It was all my fault. Its been 2 years. For 1 year we were together when i was working ..but from last 1 year we are in long distance. I live with my parents and i am jobless. My career is ...

Is he using me? He's spending more time with his ex than he spends with me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

18 January 2017 (F) - I'm going out with this bloke on and off for over a year now, but what gets to me is he spends most off his time at his ex's house. He says he's there for kids but half of the time the children are not there. He leaves at 8:00 in morning and ...

Married recently. Are these marriage problems happening too soon?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

18 January 2017 (F) - My husband and I just got married about a month ago, unfortunately we can't live together because neither of us have a job at the moment. Although we are looking. We see each once or twice a month. We text everyday and FaceTime, but now all of s...

Do good relationships go through this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

18 January 2017 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. From the moment I met him I felt that he was the one I would marry. We have been through a lot in the last year. My Nan got cancer (she is okay now), my Grandfather passed away, and I was ...

How can I find out if I am fertile ... or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2870 days ago

17 January 2017 (M) - dear cupid im worried about my fertility im 35 years old mals i dated a lady 28 year for 3 years relationzhip.staying together.she got preg and i went for dna with her and found that im not the farther.it happened to me on past i get a girlfriend ...

I live at home and my Mum won't let me clean it up, its a biohazard mess!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2861 days ago

16 January 2017 (F) - It's a long story, but I got laid off from my job last year and I live at home with my mom. I feel like I've failed at life and this wasn't how I thought I would turn out, but this is just background information. What's going on is that I'm ...

Logically I know it doesn't matter, but I am struggling with my Girlfriend's past!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2869 days ago

16 January 2017 (M) - I know a lot of you are going to say this is just another guy with hang-ups and insecurities suffering from hypocritical retrospective jealousy – and to a certain extent you may be right – but I really am desperate to fix this (fix myself?), so ...

Is she his EX? Is my BF being honest to me? He seems very emotionally connected to his woman he says he is helping due to the woman's health issues

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2869 days ago

16 January 2017 (F) - About almost TWO years ago, my boyfriend who is 37 years old asked me (28 years old) to do him a favour and to please call his female ”friend” (27 years old) to give her an address (which I looked up and it happened to be of a lawyer as far as I can ...

I'm panicking my boyfriend will cheat on a guy's trip to Cuba. How should I respond or act in this situation?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 2861 days ago

16 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...

He ignores me. Feel like I'm walking on egg shells. Is there any hope for this troubled relationship? What should I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2871 days ago

15 January 2017 (F) - What should I do about this relationship?. I will just tell you what happened recently. I have been with my boyfriend just over a year. There have been a lot of times where we have argued. He has a very short fuse. I feel like I am walking on eg...

I think I am pregnant and the dad has disappeared.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2870 days ago

15 January 2017 (F) - Well. I met a guy months ago. We went out 3 times. At the 2nd one we had sex. I was the one who brought the sexual topic to the conversation. After sex we had sex once more. And the condom didn't work. I think I'm probably pregnant. He started ...

I asked before and followed advise but nothing works

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2871 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - I have written here before asking for advice and I tried to take th advice but I'm still feeling the urge and fighting so hard to be happy - I can't seem to get over my ex- it's been close to a year - it was a short relationship and he wasn't let's ...

I feel ill for cheating on my boyfriend.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2871 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - I am currently feeling physically ill for cheating on my boyfriend and I would love some advice on what to do. Me and this other guy did not sleep together just hung out for the day and made out a bit.I am feeling incredibly bad for him as I didn't ...

My boyfriend says I can't leave him because he's planned the next 5 years around me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2871 days ago

13 January 2017 (F) - Have I fallen out of love with him or am i just depressed? Recently i can't bring myself to say i love you to my boyfriend. We have been friends for 3 years and have dated since last May. In October i felt the same way as i do now just feeling dow...

My father told me to stop eating

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2875 days ago

12 January 2017 (F) - Ever since I was young, I had problems with my weight. But, my height always masked it. When I was 14 I got "sick" and I overall stopped eating and from 14-16 I was healthy/ a little underweight. From ages 17-19 I was a healthy weight. Now at 20 I ...

He told me "nothing happened" when he went for a massage and I don't whether to believe him or not. What do you think?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2869 days ago

12 January 2017 (F) - My partner went to one only ones I been with him for 12 years have 4 daughters and the youngest one is only 3 months old I noticed with our sexual relationship I will have sex with him 3 times a week with my choosing and normally it's all the time...

Need to reset my compass when it comes to men

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2874 days ago

11 January 2017 (F) - Dear all All of my life I have struggled with self-acceptance issues. I tried hard to work on my self-esteem and confidence. I'm pretty confident at the current time but the thing is every time anyone approaches me in an intimate way I find myself p...