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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Am I just a convenient arrangement for him? Or am I being over-sensitive and too demanding?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4767 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Am I just convenient? I have been dating a man for just over three months. He is 36, I am 34. At first everything seemed brilliant - he was attentive, complimentary and in constant contact. We were seeing each other for about two months before w...

Why does my boyfriend's behavior change every time his female cousin is around?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have a question if my boyfriend starts to act funny with me every time when female cousin of his comes around I mean to the point that he avoids my touch and doesn't wanna kiss me or he turns to see if she is in the room or watching him should I ...

How do you feel it is or isn't appropriate to express affection to your loved one around family?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4767 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I'm in a serious relationship for the first time in my life. Our families have never met or seen us together but they will soon. His family is very openly affectionate and so I wouldn't worry about sitting with an arm around him now and then or ...

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...

Are my concerns about my daughter's mental health valid? How do I suggest she get help? She wants a sex change for vocational reasons

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My 16 yr old daughter told us she wants a sex-change. She said it's the solution to all her problems - she wants to work in the motor industry or the logistics industry, and said both those industries aren't really accepting of women working ...

LDR--we were to get married but now he's always ill. I just don't see things happening

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - i'm gonna have to say sorry in advance cos this may be a long read. I'm 30. He's 31. We been in LDR for 3 years. Different countries. We met while he was working in my town for a few weeks. I was in a mess trying to end my then relationship. He was ...

Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...

Mom knows! Isn't she in the wrong for listening to my B/f and I 'dirty talk'on Facebook?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I've been seeing my boyfriend for a while, and we're sexually active. We're both 16, it's legal, I'm on the pill and we use condoms. Until today, neither of us had issues with our parents because we just hadn't told them. Today, my mom saw that ...

How do I assess his intentions without bringing up the word "commitment"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

29 October 2011 (?) - I met this chap and he likes me and I'm beginning to lower my guard and like him back. At first, I wasn't too keen only because of the fact that he's almost 7 years my junior. After we spoken and got to know each other I'm considering giving him a ...

Does he just want me to help him pay the bills???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - dear aunts. I have been with my partner for four years. Three years ago he proposed to me and it was like a dream come true. We had a rough time after that with him losing his home etc. I also suspected cheating although he never admitted it. I had ...

Does marriage need more than love? My B/f Mom scolded me for wanting financial stability, education completed too, before marriage.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - my boyfriends mom scolded me and blamed me because my boyfriend wants to get married before he finishes his education and i told him that i want to get married after he finishes his aeronautical engineering licence, because then he can fully ...

3 problems- money worries, my boyfriend who doesn't want to commit and my family who never visit or consider me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4770 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - hi sorry.. this is abit of a long one! I have 3 problems.. money worries, my non-commital boyfriend and my family who never visit or consider me! I live in a small house with my 17 yr old son and am finding life very hard! I came out of a lo...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

I need some help to cope with what's happening now

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...

What to do to stop feeling so lonely? I haven't felt like I've done something fun for a long time. It's getting me down.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4772 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - It's been a while since I've had a good conversation, it's been a while since I was sure I'd make plans and they would actually follow through. It's been a while since I've had this feel as I've started college. Everyone in my class is 2 years yo...

I want my wife back from this other man!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - My ex wife and I were together since we were 20. Got married at 21 and had our first kid at 23; each proceeding child is 1-3 years apart from the last. (We have 5 kids.) We got a divorce 4 years ago because, somewhere along the line, we stopped ...

Caught my soon to be ex-wife and daughter eaves dropping, did I over-react?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - hi i have a question do you guys think i over-reacted? i was having a very private conversation with my father about his wife and i guess she cheated on him with some younger man and they have 3 kids. my father was real upset like i never seen him ...

My boyfriend's brother is tagging along to our outings and now I don't want him for my 18th birthday party. How can I ask him not to come without sounding rude?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - Here's what happened the first time: My boyfriend was invited by me to my grandmother's halloween party for the family, so he can meet my family. So a few days before the party, he asked if his brother can tag along. He said he had to watch his brot...

Will there ever be a 'right' time to be a mom?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - Okay so I have a question about life regrets. I was thinking what would mine be right now if something was to happen to me? It came down to two things. Seeing the world and having a baby. I have done a good bit of the first! You see, havi...

My dad doesn't think he has much time left and wants to see me married with kids, am I ready for this? Should I talk to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - Please help and offer me your advice. What should or can I do? My dad spoke to me once about his death. He said he was afraid of never seeing his granchildren, really afraid. He said 'We don't make old blood' with a serious, sad face. (It means ...

My best friend doesn't understand my problems and I feel like I hate him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - This is something that's been troubling me for so long, and it's kept me swinging back and forth from anger, resentment, guilt, and jealousy. I'm a 17 year old girl, in my last year of school, and my closest friend in school is a boy I'll call 'A...

Is a tan a turn on? Guys and girls, your thoughts on whether tan lines are a turn off?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I personally think it's a bit shallow for one to complain about tan lines on their partner, but that being said, I'm one who loves to soak up the sun in summer and obviously when I'm by the pool or at the beach with my friends, I'm not going to be ...

Is it true that A Man can't win? Why does it seem that women are ALWAYS right? Feels like that to a guy !

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - We've all heard the saying that a man can't ever win. But no-one ever explains why! So, quite simply, here it is. Women make the rules. And even if the man makes the rules, Women enforce them. For example, Have you ever had a situation that spa...

Nearly 25, rare culture, education, job, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Hi, I recently had my 24 y/o bday a few months ago (I’m female). I have been feeling a bit down off/on since (realization I’m nearly 25) and not anywhere I expected to be. I’m just now finishing an Associates. Due to cultural reasons, my fa...

Spiders? Heights? I have a Phobia of statues! Any solutions or people with my Statues phobia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Oh hey its me again! Just an odd little qeustion, i have automonophobia and i was just updating my profile and wondered "hmmm i wonder if anyone else has it." So i thought id ask some of you lovely lot and wheather anyone has it. ...

I'm lost. I hate arguing with my mom. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - To start off with- I don't handle stress well. At all. I am full time college (wanting to take a year break) and full time work. I love my job, its easy, its full time, and its enjoyable. My parents force me to go to college. I want to move out...

Nightmare about my daughter is affecting my everyday life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Hi everyone, was wondering if somebody could help me, it's not a relationship question, it's a question about my 17-month-old daughter. But the problem could have something to do with my previous short-lived relationship which ended last month. For ...

Relationship has faded with my aunt, now it could happen with my cousin too! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - I have a cousin who's coming up for 2 year's old ill call him Jim. Like any cousins me and Jim have a really close relotionship hes a lovely little boy and i love him to peices. His mum (my aunt) brings him and his older sister (...

Am I blowing it out of proportion?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - What to do. My second Husband has issues accepting my kids for a long time. He has kids I give 100% to his. We have been all going out together and things have been better to the point I may be ready for us all to move in together. Last Sunday I had ...

I'm worried I will always feel like this! Does anyone have any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Hi Readers, I would really appreciate some advice please. I have a history of attracting the wrong type of man, despite the fact that I believe I have done a lot of work on myself to beat the Domestic Violence Cycle. I recently met a man at th...

Do I have another child or go to college?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Hi Everyone, Im having trouble making up my mind. Im 22 and married. I have a 2 year old son. Ive been thinking of going to college but lately ive been thinking of having another kid. Why? well because i want my kids to be around the same age. Im ...

Our son who has Asperger's syndrome is depressed because he thinks he's gay. How can we help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - For the past 2 weeks, our 23-year-old son, Simon* who has Asperger's syndrome has been acting differently - showing signs of angst/depression, smoking and drinking [soft drinks] to excess and putting on weight. We weren't sure why and asked him on...

I'm planning a big move to be with my boyfriend and my father is telling me it's the biggest mistake of my life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I'm planning on movine abroad and start living a life with my boyfriend. I'll be leaving in early spring, take 6 months to see how things go both work-wise and love-wise then, if things don't work out, get back here and get my old job back (already ...

Should I go to a family party, or the fan party for my favourite band that wont happen again until the year after?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I'm not sure which party to go to next march,as they are both on the same weekend.one is a fan party for my favourite band in london,and the other is a party for my aunt and uncle's 50th wedding anniversary.i went to another fan party for the band ...

Why should I stay with a guy whose mom truly doesn't like me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - Why should I stay with a guy whose mom doesn't like me? I'm getting so fed up with everything, if I been with her son for 2 yrs why does she still sit there and acts like a bitch with me ? I never cheated on him or anything. Okay yes we have our ...

My boyfriend is flirting with transmen

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - I'm 25, my boyfriend's 27, we've been together for over 5 years, lived together in our own home for 2 years now. We have a young daughter as well - he's the father, I'm not a single mum etc. - she was born out of wedlock to be technical. In the la...

It irritates me that my sister in law won't go to my church but instead goes to her own

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - Hi guys. I am staying with my sister-in-law. when she first came to live with us, she would go with me to my church. then all of a sudden she decided to go to her own church on a different day. why do i feel undermined and irritated by it?is it ...

Life passing by. How do I cope with Mom pressure?. I hate she's constantly reminding me I'm getting older and less wannted

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - I'm about to turn 25 and i'm having a quarter life crisis. Every other aspect of my life is good. I'm graduating from grad school soon, I have a great job that I love. The only thing that is going wrong is my lack of a love life. I want marriag...

His Mom and us! How do I talk to him about this? How can we make this situation better

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Hello all! Any advice is much appreciated. My boyfriend is 21 (soon to be 22) and I am 20, respectively. We have been dating for nearly five months. I care about him a lot and truly love him but we have been hitting some stumbling blocks lately. T...

Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with...

How do I deal with or even support my daughter when her partner does everything to alienate her from us?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

22 October 2011 (M) - I am in my early sixties, happily married. My daughter lives in Ireland and is a single mother even if she lives with her partner. They are both unemployed. How do you deal with your daughter's partner when he shows signs of personality disorder...

I know he wants to be with his son but shouldn't he be with me too?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Im in a difficult situation, ive been with my boyfriend nearly a yr hes has a son and I have a daughter! He has his son every wkend and my daughter goes to her dads every other wkend! The thing is he pretty much lives with all wk then every wk end ...

My ex will not leave me alone. And I'm afraid I'm letting things move too fast in my new relationship. Is my new relationship the answer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4778 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months a month and a half ago. I guess you could say... I fell out of love. I was miserable, unhappy. Kisses and hugs felt... absolutely empty. I wanted to stay to make him happy but I started reverting back to ...

I am in a slump and sick of being single. Where should I look to find a woman I want to share my life with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

22 October 2011 (M) - I'm sick of being single. I'm 33, I have no children, I have a job I hate, I have a home that still needs several grand in work to finish it. I've taken an almost 1 year sebatical from dating. I've learned that I went after women that needed take...

I want to be fair. Do I yell at them or talk to the school counselor on monday?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Is this normal, or have they crossed the line? I write this while my tears are still as fresh as the memories itself.. Yesterday, I was told "if you keep talking back, you wont have computer priveledges tomorrow" I wasn't talking back...

I don't want my father at my wedding. But he's said "i had better be invited".

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Im gettin married next year and while everything is perfect in the sence that im marrying the love of my life, I hav a huge problem concerning my father. Its a long story so i'll explain best i can my father suffers from a mental illness and also...

I suspect my son is gay and is going to move away because he doesn't want us to know

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - My son is 30 and for a few year I've suspected he might be gay. As far as I'm aware he hasn't had a girl friend and the friends he seems to be close to have always been mixed sex couples. He has women friends but no relationship that I'm aware of. ...

I want to be a partner, not a mother or a sounding board

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4778 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - I am 43 and am dating a 46 year old man for 9 months. We are both divorced (5 years and 10 years) and both have kids. I have really been enjoying getting to know him. When we first met, he had just moved from a rental house into a house he had ...

How shall I approach my mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - Dear girlfriends, could you give me some useful hints how to tackle the following situation:¨ I am 47, a mother of two children, 19 and 22 years. I left my husband four years ago, it turned out he has been unfaithful to me from the very beginnin...