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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

I want to break up but how to tell him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5496 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi,I can't raaly understand why I'm riting and asking you that question,but first time in my life I feel ansequre if the tnings that I am going to do are right.I have a boyfriend from a year ago.In the start was normal relationship.but now I just ...

Is he being clingy or am I just not used to a guy like this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5495 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Im loosing patience with my guy of 6 months. I was the one head over heels for him and had to step back cuz he was not ready. well now he is ready, askin me to move in for the last 3 months and i dont the feel the same as i did. He calls me allot...

Should I stay with Mr. Comfortable or try something new?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I started dating my fiance when i was in high school. He has been my first everything, and we've been together for almost 6 years. He is a great guy, very nice. But I find myself bored with him. The sex has never been good we've tried everything.. ...

Is there any way I can save this? Whatever I say is falling on deaf ears!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - (i posted a few days ago, but have reposted with extra details) my boyfriend of three years works very hard, and long hours. he has a son who lives with him, and money is tight. i also work but part time, i have three sons and we usually s...

Could he fall back in love with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Do you think it's possible for a man to fall out of love with a woman, and them fall back in love with her? My boyfriend and I have a house together and we've been having major problems. He's told me that he doesn't love me anymo...

Why is my ex stiff and formal? He's the one who dumped me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - My ex fiance broke my heart 9 months ago. We were together for 7 years, best friends, and VERY much in love, but one day he said he had an epiphany and couldn't be with me anymore (his family is very religious). He's 27 and I'm 29. We planned to ...

Is he trying to leave me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - i am 3 and half months pregnant and i have noticed that my boyfriend hasnt really wanted to have much to do with me anymore. he says it is my fault he is pulling away. is it really me that he is trying to leave?...

Desperatly wanting the love of my husband back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - My husband wanted to talk to me the other night about us. The other night he told me he loves me but is not in love with me anymore but I am his best friend the thing is i felt the same way but i do love him and want our marriage to work. Since our ...

How to erase the ex from my mind?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - hii so my ex boyfriend is a total jack ass. like he is extremly sick and mean. he used to like verbilly abuse me and he liked seeing me get hurtt. he would call me fat ugly and useless alll of the time. he even made me drop myy best friend for ...

Is he just usuing me now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - he asked me to treat him to dinner. unlike before he would never ask me for anything. is he not serious with me anymore? does that mean he doesn't love me anymore? I also occasionally give him load even sometimes he doesn't really seem to w...

LDR: feeling neglected!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Lately, I feel my boyfriend doesn't make an effort to talk to me. LDR. Even though he calls, but sometimes I feel he does it 'cause he thinks he has to since I complained about it before. Just recently, he slept over his friends house out of the ...

How do I know if this is going to work out? She's not dealing with some things because of a bereavement!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I usually don't do posting like this but I don't know who to turn to. I love my wife dearly but we don't seem to see things eye to eye. She believes I need therapy and have problems, she doesn't understand some of her behavior causes ...

Lack of sex is souring our relationship and I want my space, is this enough justification to break up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hi, So I'm in what seems to be a near-perfect (homosexual) relationship right now, my boyfriend and I are very attuned to each other, we are respectful, gentle, and loving, and this December will be 3 years. We marvel at how connected we are...

Did I ever mean anything to her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

22 October 2009 (M) - About 2 years ago I dated a woman who was just out of a 4 year relationship with a guy she was obsessed with, she was on the rebound, we dated for 5 months, she went back to him and I was heartbroken I was in love with her. To make matters worse , ...

I started wondering what else is out there. Is there something better? Is he the one for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - So I am lost and confused. I am 23 years old. I have been in a relationship with my current bf for almost 9 years now. I have never questioned our relationship before, but recently I couldn't help but wonder what else is out there, is there ...

How to get my boyfriend to be less distant?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend alex for a long time now but for the last month or so hes been very distant. He wont answer my calls or texts but when i see him its amazing!! he takes me on road trips and long walks which i love but recently he wont...

I love him so much but he is cold and I just can´t take it anymore!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - I know it´s quite long but please take time to read my post. For the past few days (weeks) my boyfriend has been acting weird , cold and doesn´t talk to me as often (right now doesn´t talk to me at all or approach me ,speaks to me only when I´m...

He cut me off suddenly....what did I do wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5096 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - he cut me off and i just dont know what i did wrong.. I dated this guy for a month,we always had a good time toghether and he said so himself, we were double dating alot with his friend and my friend which are now b/f and g/f...he was aff...

I'm upset that he said he tried to love me but couldn't. Am I not loveable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

21 October 2009 (M) - I am confused about something and lookign for other people's perspective. I'm gay, if that matters, and have just been dumped by my boyfriend of 4 months.I always wondered his true feelings for me, and it was upsetting me a great deal, so I asked...

Long distance disaster...is he over me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - ok, here is my story.... me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years now. we have grown up together since we were 15yrs old. we are eachothers 1st bf/gf...1st EVERYTHING! i am SO in love with this boy and i thought he would say the...

Is it really my fault he fell out of love with me? Where did this come from?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - I am 37 and have been married for 17 years with a 15 year old daughter. My husband had a breakdown 5 weeks ago and told me he didn't love me. Since then he has been to the doctors, one minute saying he doesn't know what he wants and saying he ...

It doesn't seem like a proper relationship anymore. Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 5 years and we now live together and have been living together since March. We were both so excited at first but now my feelings have started to change. We don't argue or anything like that but I ...

Is it possible to fall back in love again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - is it possible to fall back in love again, when fallen out of love whatever the circumstances? is there any hope at all? i would really appreciate the advice, or and comments, thanks....

I don't want to be in this relationship any longer, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - What should i do? I have been in a relationship for 3 years and out of the 3 most of it has been arguments over me cheating. I have not cheated and stayed true through out the relationship, now its to the point where i dont wanna be in this anymore. ...

Do lack of actions show lack of care?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - I have a question, if someone that claims he loves you but then never calls, writes, or does anything to initiate contact, do you back off???? Very confused and told that it is your not believing in the love or trusting that is the fault. But ...

He's turned cold in the marriage and I'm considering divorce...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I have been married to my husband for 4 years. When we met he was seperated from his wife and living with his parents and I was recently divorced from a marriage of 17 years. After getting involved with him I discover that he has some serious debt ...

Why has my husband stopped being affectionate with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I wonder why my husband stopped being affectionate with me. He never looks at me,or touching me. He also losing his erections,but no medical problems. I asked him why is that, but he says ,he loves me,and I have no reason to worry. But I do ...

Our Ldr feels awkward, I'm afraid to lose her. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - I've been in a LDR for 4 months now. She's older than me by a year, I won't disclose ages. Recently, my girlfriend said that she can't handle the distance because she worries too much. She wanted to take a break for a while. About an hour later, she ...

My girfriend is pregnant and treats me badly!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4361 days ago

16 October 2009 (M) - what should i do? im 27 my girlfriend is 23 i've been with this girl 3 years. somedays are easy some are hard. for my birthday i always get a card and kiss and told i love you but thats it i always say " your not gonna say happy bithday " an...

What would explain my husband's strange behavior and impotence?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - What can you do, if you have no way to find out what is causing your husband strange behavior, and impotence? I'm spending my last 4 years ,trying to find out why did he turned impotent, and why he seem to be much more distant ,he used to be. I...

Should I walk now or wait and see? She's not a puppy anymore.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (M) - She lives in Philadelphia, I in New York City. We spend 1 weekend together, Fri- Sun. We had some really intense love making sessions together. We both have been single and doing without. It was obvious to me, The problem is this, she tells me that ...

Was I taken for a ride by a younger woman I met online? I'm heartbroken..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (M) - I am a male approaching mid 30s and I met this young woman (early 20s) on an asian e-dating site about 5 months ago. We were just chatting and talking on/off until about 2 months ago, and that's when I started having some sexual relation with ...

He doesn't want to talk me, why is he being so distant...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5516 days ago

14 October 2009 (F) - I met this guy at a festival and we swapped msn's. He lives about 2 hours away and im going to uni next year so il be near him. Nothing happened between us, like not even kissed, but when we met we got on really well and we liked each other. The...

Should I worry if he doesn't want to see me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5516 days ago

14 October 2009 (F) - I have been dating a guy for 8 months now; We saw each other every weekend and things were going great. He has been very slow with work and seems very down lately. I think he is pulling back a bit and doesn't seem like he is "so into me" as much. ...

How can I get back the attention she used to give me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5516 days ago

14 October 2009 (M) - Hi, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 10 months now and for the first 9 months or so everything was perfect but lately she seems to be pushing me away. I understand she is stressed due to her ex not paying the full child suppo...

Will she give me another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5516 days ago

14 October 2009 (M) - hi everyone and thanks agin for the help. ok i finally got to talk to my ex after 13 days away from her.mind you i did most of the talking. i did alot of thinking during my time without her.i figured my faults out and what i was doing wrong in the ...

How do I get out of this abusive situation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

13 October 2009 (F) - ok so ive been with my boyfriend for about 18 months. we have a 6 week old daughter together. he has: called me every name you could imagine - slut, whore, bitch, skank.. etc. has compared me to his ex girlfriend stating how she was so much more...

Should I go back to the person I first liked? Do I even like him anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - I went on a group trip to Colorado and grew very close to a guy on that trip, who was 2 years younger than me. I started to like him a lot, but people got in the middle and when he asked if I liked him, I said no because I knew he wasn't ready to be ...

Is he an alcoholic? And if he is, what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - hi I am worried about my bf of two years. He drinks alcohol alot but I don't know whether I should class him as an addict. sometimes he'll go for weeks without drinking but others he drinks every night of the week and even when he has hardly ...

Should I give her space or give into her commitment standards?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5407 days ago

12 October 2009 (M) - Hi All, Ok, here is my problem... I was in a relationship for a over a year. She has a son and was never really happy with the level of commitment I gave. I wanted to take things slowly and she wanted me to move in. She broke it off 3 or 4 weeks...

I'm in love with his best friend, so what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

12 October 2009 (F) - hello, i am having a little bit of trouble.. i am going out with someone, but there is someone else i love, who is my boyfriend's best friend. i dont know what to do! i meen, i sort of love the person im going out with now, but i like the other g...

My ex is confusing me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - me and my ex broke up a couple months ago after she cheated on me with the same guy she left to be with me. Over time I forgave her and tried to be friends. We would text each other every now and then. A few weeks ago she texts me and says she made ...

I'll always be thinking that it could have been me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've just found out that the love of my life will be moving back to my hometown in a few months.... with his fiancée! I'll have to tell you guys a little bit of our history so you'll understand the situation I'm in - right now I'm terrible unhappy...

I broke up with him because he is a mama's boy, but now I want him back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - please help! I am so confuse now. I been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we love each other so much.(I mean I do love him so much). But I broke up with him yesterday.We live in Puerto Rico and yesterday I move back in Arizona with my parents.But I ...

Am I being abused?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I recently broke up with my boyfriend. Things in the relationship were fine at first but then he started acting very strange. He started getting very jealous whenever I would hang out with male friends but said that it was because he was afraid of ...

She tells me she loves me and I love her too, but lack of affection and sex is really getting to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5501 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - So I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months. We are both 20 and are in college. The relationship started great, we used to spend alot of time together, sex was offered/given/recieved a hefty amount, and we both lost our ...

What can I do to feel a spark and passion again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I'm in a 6year lesbian relationship and I have an 8yr old from a previous relationship... we also have a 7month which we conceived with infertiltiy treatment... I love being a family but I'm bored and my feeling are not as strong as before.. what ...

How do I dump him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4860 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...

Why do I find it so hard to sustain relationships?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Why do I find it so hard to sustain relationships? I have been with a man I have known for over 20 years but relationship for 9 and we can not move the relationship on. I want to get married. I have three children. One of his. But we do not ...

Why do I attract pieces of shit?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 October 2009 (F) - WHY DO I ATTRACT PIECES OF SHIT? I'm having a total break-down! I've been reflection on stuff and I want to scream...........is it me? what am i doing wrong? here's the story: I was with my ex for 13 years!!!(hs bf). He did NOTHING! I went ...