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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 10 months now and for the first 9 months or so everything was perfect but lately she seems to be pushing me away. I understand she is stressed due to her ex not paying the full child support and she works 40 hours a week then has to get her children and spend time with them. I try to help take the stress off her by taking care of some of her bills,watching her kids and just being there for her, give her massages,etc.I love her very much but its hard for me because for the first 9 months things were awesome and now I am a little hurt that she doesn't give me as much attention as she used to. I try to give her her space but its difficult when I miss her so much. Should I confront her or should I hold back in hopes that I don't say anything that pushes her away more? We have both said before in the past that we are the love of each others lives but I haven't heard things like that from her in a while. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Hi, I hate to say this...and it's going to be hard. Stop doing all of the nice things you are doing. Stop calling and give her a break. I don't care if you have to put your phone in the toliet...DONT CALL!!! She needs time.. and to be honest it sounds like you are being too nice! That can kill the relationship too.She is going to wonder were you are and what you're doing and she will call. Tell her you are busy...it will drive her crazy. But it's what you need to do. Give her at the very east two weeks. If you do not do give her space you're going to chase her away for good. If she doesnt try within that time...it was over anyway. Sorry... but Trust me and do what i'm telling you to do! I feel your pain...Good Luck!!
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