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writes:Dear Cupid,Do you think it's possible for a man to fall out of love with a woman, and them fall back in love with her? My boyfriend and I have a house together and we've been having major problems. He's told me that he doesn't love me anymore, but says he might be able to fall back in love with me but he doesn't want the help of councilling. WE've been trying to sell our house but since winter is coming we have to hold off until spring so I am unable to afford a new place with two kids in the mean time. Any advice would be greatly apprechiated, Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): I know this is tough, but it's a bold statment to say I don't love you anymore. So he probably means just that, ask yourself are you really in love with him? I wouldn't try to force things and make it work because someone is always going to be unhappy in those situations. I think the fact that he says he might fall back in love with you is to lessen the guilt he feels for saying he doesn't love you anymore. And think about it he's giving you this hope that it might work out and you're investing feeling in that hope and he might not come around. Just be smart about it don't get your hopes up. I'm not saying it's not possible to fall back in love with someone, but just be prepared and don't try to change yourself to appeal to him more. The time period it takes to sell your house might allow you both to realize there is still something there. Good luck, I hope it works out.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 October 2009):
I wonder if he still does love you, but feels that everything in the world is just against him at the moment. You've been having major problems, your house isn't selling and it is probably very stressful for him (and you too). Sometimes men can confuse their feelings when they don't think about them. Sit him down and just keep on talking to him about why he feels this way. Ask him if there is too much stress, and see what he says. He has at least said something, which means he does want to fix it. All the best.
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