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*eautyandbiscuits
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend alex for a long time now but for the last month or so hes been very distant. He wont answer my calls or texts but when i see him its amazing!!he takes me on road trips and long walks which i love but recently he wont answer the phone to me or text me back or even text me! i love him so much and i want things to go back to the way they were but i dont know how! i need some help as i dont wanna loose him but i think i am loosing him.please help
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reader, Accountable +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Aw, ok well firstly I wouldnt panic about the girl being there - just think about your boyfriend, is he really the sort of guy who would cheat? Try to stay calm and if he's still behaving like this in a week or so, ask him about it, in as non-accusatory way as you can! It could just be that he's worked himself into such a mood that all he wanted was to go out and relieve it with some guy friends, sometimes men just need that, and the girl was likely there just by chance. Don't let it get into your head :) xx
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits +, writes (23 October 2009):
Beautyandbiscuits is verified as being by the original poster of the question it hasnt. he wants to be alone right? then why is he out with mates and a girl? i dont even know if the girl is "with" him or with one of his mates but still he hasnt any time for me but he has tym for them
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reader, Accountable +, writes (23 October 2009):
Sounds like a good plan to me, i hope everything works out well for you guys, im sure it will with a bit of time! :) xx
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits +, writes (23 October 2009):
Beautyandbiscuits is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeahh! He just doesnt want to see me at the minute so I'm giving him space after 3 years I think he needs it lol! I know he will come back to me just in his own time! I'm going to lift the mood when he's feeling better just to show him life isn't always hard heehee!Thank's for ur great advice I rated it 5 both times!!
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reader, Accountable +, writes (22 October 2009):
Aw, that is a tough one.. perhaps it is best to just leave him to it for a while then, if you trust that he'll come back to you once things are sorted out? At least he knows that you're there if he needs you. Alternatively you could try to completely lift the mood - get him to do something fun with you, make him forget about his problems and remember how good he feels when you're both together; maybe whatever this problem is, he's just gotten way too stuck in his head about it, and needs to do something else to take his mind off it and get things in perspective?Its kind of hard to make suggestions without knowing the nature of his problems, but I'm sure you've found ways of dealing with this in the past, and you'll know what to do :) xx
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits +, writes (22 October 2009):
Beautyandbiscuits is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks accountable thats great advice...yeah i can think of a few things that may be on his mind but he tends to obsess over them and then gets angry if u try to interfer! i dont wana annoy him by always bein there! i wanna help but he said earlier that im being too obsessive and that he just wants to be alone and be by himself!
god its so complicated! xxx
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reader, Accountable +, writes (22 October 2009):
You said you've been together a long time so I assume you know each other well, can you think of anything thats going on in his life that might be stressing him out, or causing this distant behaviour? After so long you shouldnt be afraid of looking clingy, I imagine if you two have had a good and long relationship he sees you as his rock.. hes probably being distant because of something thats bothering him, and is not necesarily anything to do with you. I would go to his house and have a long talk with him - doesnt have to be too serious, just let him know that you feel he's changing towards you and would like to know why/how it can be made better :) it should be fine! good luck :) xx
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits +, writes (22 October 2009):
Beautyandbiscuits is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni could drive to his house (yeah im 18 in march i passed my test there in july =)) but i dont wanna annoy him u know i dont wanna be obsessive or clingy and i dunno if i should just give him time to think or whatever...
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits +, writes (22 October 2009):
Beautyandbiscuits is verified as being by the original poster of the questiongod believe me ive tried but he wont answer the fone or text me back. its so frustrating and its breaking my heart
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