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anonymous
writes:he asked me to treat him to dinner.unlike before he would never ask me for anything.is he not serious with me anymore?does that mean he doesn't love me anymore? I also occasionally give him load even sometimes he doesn't really seem to want to talk to me or communicate with me even if he's phone is loaded.I'm the one who calls because he says he doesn't have any money and I understand because he came from a poor family and all that maybe he's investing he's money on something else, but he now has a stable job. I'm so confused.why did he suddenly change? did he's expectations of me changed? is he just using me now? I love him but he changed a lot. he doesn't ask me to stay for a while with him anymore and ignores me most of the time.I asked him if he doesn't want to continue anymore with the relationship he said of course he wants us to still be together and that he still loves me but I don't really see it neither feel it anymore.
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reader, fairytail  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 Oh god girl you can do so much better for yourself...
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reader, crazychick  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Were things the other way around when you first started dating?... was it him making more effort and paying for things?... if so, this may be the problem. If he felt like he was making all the effort he could've started to resent it and feel like it's your turn now. This doesnt mean he doent love you or wants to break up, he's just fed up. If you were both making the effort, but he's just stopped, it may just be that the 'honeymoon period' is over. When you first start dating someone, you always go that extra mile and make the extra effort, but the longer you date, the less you try.You should have a really thorough talk with him, if you both still want to be together, you should both make more effort. Suprise each other, get little gifts or cards, set days where you treat each other to a meal or night out. Once you both start to feel more appreciated, you'll soon be back on track. :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 October 2009):
I'm sorry, but it does not take that much to buy credit or a phone. Also, to ask you to treat him to dinner is not a good sign. I think he might be using you, so stop paying for him and insist that you both pay half, and insist that you both share communication. Do not be used.
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