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writes:I am confused about something and lookign for other people's perspective.I'm gay, if that matters, and have just been dumped by my boyfriend of 4 months.I always wondered his true feelings for me, and it was upsetting me a great deal, so I asked him why he ended it.He told me that he 'tried to love me' and couldn't. This has left me really upset. What does it mean? Am I not loveable? Am I hideously ugly? What did I do wrong? I can't work out what it is if someone was actually 'trying' to love me and still couldn't, then what could be wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): The majority of people really do not get (understand) love.
Love is not a feeling. It isn't something that you make yourself feel for someone else. Love is a conscious DECISION to be a person worthy of love. It involves committment and putting the needs of your partner above your own.
Love is something a person has to be capable of, your ex was telling you that he is not capable of loving any one let alone you. He doesn't want to be a person worthy of love either, he can't commit, he can't put you first and he doesn't want to.
This is not about you, this is about him and his ability to love. Love is action, It is a verb, not a noun, he simply is not a loving person.
Never let someone else define you. Of course you are lovable. God doesn't make junk.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 October 2009):
 Your ex is very shallow and narrow minded.
Whose he to say you cannot be loved? He's not judge or jury.
What your ex means is he is not capable of loving himself so he cannot love you.
I am sure you are loveable to THE RIGHT PERSON not to a narrow minded selfish guy like your ex.
He's the loser in all this not you.
Your perfect and loveable as you are, dont change for anybody.
Hope things work out and goodluck!
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