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Archived questions from: September, 2014 (see latest in Dating category)

Dating: Help and advice

I'm concerned about my new boyfriend going traveling with his sister!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I've been dating this lovely man for two months now and we're both very keen on each other and make time to see one another at least twice a week. He's 39 and I'm 36 and he's been single for two years. He's very close with his sister who is si...

So I like this guy, but I have a boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - So, I like this guy. A lot. And I think he might like me back! But the thing is, that I have a boyfriend already, and we are kind of growing apart. I never see him anymore, and I think we both just want space... Should I tell him that it isn't ...

Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ...

I am dating a guy 5 years younger than me and am afraid his friends are laughing behind our backs

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Recently I have started seeing a guy who is five years younger then me, he is 19, and I have just turned 24. I have known him a while, as my friend is in a relationship with his older brother, and things started up in the last few months. He i...

The 40 Year Old (Almost) Virgin

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3470 days ago

30 September 2014 (M) - Hey Aunties! I turned 41 years old this year and while I am not a virgin I am close! Back in college (1992-1993) I did have a gf that I had sex with for about 6 months but that has been the extent of my lifetime sexual activity. Women just aren'...

I have a boyfriend of 7 years but have fallen for another man!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Dear cupid,my heart is torn in two and I sincerely don't know what to do.I'm 28 years old and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7years now(I've been totally faithful to him) along the line he cheated twice but I forgave him, and ...

How can this guy just hang out with me and not feel what we have?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I'm a goner. Someone please help! I started seeing Mr X in June. We met online thru mutual friends (not dating site) at first he was very flirtatious and we talked a lot. It was a good flow. We went out and had a great time. No more then kissin...

Not interested in being his easy option. But do you think he'll think I led him on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid My brother in law recently tried match making me with a single friend of his! This guy started messaging me and things began to flow. He started off pleasant enough but the messages soon started to turn very flirtatious! He kn...

Will this man leave me alone now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3712 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have ...

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...

Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet ...

Am I weird for totally enjoying myself at a strip club with my Bf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I got drunk with my boyfriend of two years last Friday and suggested that we go to a strip club. It took him a while to come round to the idea but we eventually went. Well even when I was asking him I thought I'd probably end up getting jeal...

My Bf of 3 years still sees the friends he mixed with back when he did take illicit drugs. Is it wrong to expect him to cut ties with them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Here's the situation: I'm very anti-drug and when I met my bf of 3 years, he told me that he was a recovering addict, clean for the last 7 years and that he was over it. So I was fine with it. The problem is that he still hangs out with frien...

Are there major differences to how I touch a guy who is uncut versus cut? have never been with an uncut guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I've been on a few dates with this guy, who I am pretty interested in, and as we've went along, we've started to get a little hotter and heavier with every interaction. Well, I've wanted to maybe progress the makeout sessions to a handjob, but I fo...

Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could ju...

Would he ask me out if he isn't really interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - What is going on with this guy?. Someone I know is having an operation this week. He has cancer. He is in hospital at the moment. One of his friends sent me a text message yesterday saying that he hopes his operation will go well ,and I said I ...

I feel like guys don't want to talk to me unless I dumb myself down

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I can't keep a guy's interest after the first night, will someone ever stay around long enough? I meet a guy out in a pub or maybe a friend of a friend and I can hold their interest for the night but after a string of promises that I will get a te...

What makes a guy lose interest early on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Another men disappearing question..for the guys. What makes you lose interest in a woman before you have even gotten started?? I spent a little time with someone recently and liked him. He asked me out before and I did turn him down once but...

No second date after 3-4 weeks of texting and talking...should I give up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Last month, I met this guy online and we hit it off really well. I gave him my number, and we have been texting every day since … We went on one date, 3 weeks ago and it went great! All kinds of sparks, and he was very romantic and attentiv...

Is he really too scared to get attached or is that just an excuse?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi, this could be a long question so bare with me. Ive written about this previously. I had a 'thing' with my boss who is now my ex boss.I knew him before I worked there. Its very personal as to how we met earlier on this year i was attacked...

Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone whil...

Is there any other way to handle the situation considering how strict my parents are?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hello :) This guy really likes me and he even said "I love you" to me and I'm actually really into this guy. We started off really good friends and we found that we have a lot in common. We actually tried dating and it lasted for 7 months but a...

Has my GF moved on, or can I restart and save our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - Hey friends..my gf has been annoying me for the last few weeks. she has also been spending time with a new male friend, because i refused to have sex with her last time as i was not feeling well. Is she teasing me or something else?please do sugge...

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

Should I reconsider? And try to work things out with him? Or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3712 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hey all so my boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years. Here recently we broke up and he moved on. He took his new gf around his friends like 2 or 3 times. Well he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and decided he wants us to work thi...

I don't know how to get past this, and I'm not willing to stay in this relationship if he wants to keep her in his life.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - My fiance and I are together since our late teens, and before I met him a girl he wasn't even dating gave him oral sex. She is certainly not a pretty sight and I don't mean to be bitchy. He said he never felt anything for her, he just agreed to let ...

My (platonic) date to a wedding had to cancel. Should I invite the girl I've just started dating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I have a wedding to go to this upcoming weekend with a plus one, and as I've never had to go to a wedding before, so I'm not sure about proper etiquette about these things. I haven't been seeing anyone steadily and I've been in medical grad sch...

My older boyfriend said horrible things so I would call him! Do I end the relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is lovely sometimes. He is so loving, caring and has a good sense of humour, but he says horrible things sometimes and takes things too far. He really took it too far over the last couple of days. He was angry with me because I haven'...

I've grown attached to his persoality, but his appearance puts me off

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - Hi there guys :), I was hoping that someone could help me out on here, as I am in abit of a situation Over 14 Months ago, I met this guy. I just got over a nasty breakup , so wasnt looking for any relationship.We were just friends. We clicked...

Do you think this could go anywhere? Should I try holding his hand? Or is he the one who is supposed to make the first move?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - We're from the same city, we go to the same university in a different country, I'm a freshman, he's a senior. We started talking back in May, after I got accepted to this university. We live really close to each other back home, so we went out quite ...

I'm falling for him but I don't think he's over his ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3713 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - Okay, so the last time i was in a committed relationship I was 16 and it ended in a disastrous manner my partner ended things abruptly left me wondering what went wrong which I later discovered was the consequence of him cheating on me with multiple ...

Why does she keep sending mixed messages?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

28 September 2014 (M) - I have fallen in love with a women 6 hours from me. She has told me how much she loves me and when I asked her to move here with me in my home, she said she cannot due to her girls. She said she cannot have what she wants right now. Then she goes...

My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money! How can I change his opinion of me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money and I don't know how to change how to change his mind. He is 22 and I'm 21. I think I'm ok at handling money. Not great but ok. I constantly have not much money because I'm living on a student loan but I ...

After cheating, does he really want our relationship to work?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, just a quick question. I want your views on cheating. Not a one night stand, a full on affair over a period of weeks. The affair was called off before I found out, apparently they mutually agreed that this was not fair and could n...

Am I going for the wrong men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Hi. I am 37, 2 kids, recently divorced, fairly attractive, some men say very hot. My problem is that men get attracted though the ones I like haven't stayed. One fell for me at an office meal and after he bedded me, realised I was more senior and ...

Please help me! Is my fiancé abusing me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - So my fiancé thinks that its okay to look at girls who are way skinnier than me and then gets mad when a guy looks at me in a good way. He consistantly will do this right in front of me then tells me that im an attention whore and wants me to wear...

He thought I was clingy; can he ever change his opinion?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I am talking to a guy and things were going well. We see each other a lot but I would text him a lot too. He told me that he thought I might be kinda clingy. It wasn't my intention but I may have over done it with the texting. We seemed to have ...

Is he making enough effort in this LDR? He is reluctant to visit me. Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3714 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I go to the school about an hour and half from where my boyfriend (of two years) goes to school. Recently I've been getting more and more frustrated with the amount of traveling I have to do to see him. I've traveled to see him 4 times now and he ...

Why are people trying to match make? I enjoy flirting and dating but no exclusively. But don't want to be available for sex. Is that so difficult?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Please help me! I am so sick of people trying to play match maker but every group of friends I've had and even random co workers and relatives and people I go to church with are always trying HARD to set me up with someone. I have had a lot ...

He's moving to another country. How do I handle losing the love of my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - So this is a really heartbreaking time for me. My OH and I have been together for almost 3 years. It was an epic love affair like in the movies, we really "get" one another and we have been through hell and back many times but we survived it all.We ...

The girl I'm dating lost weight and now I don't find her as attractive!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

26 September 2014 (M) - Dear Agony Aunt, I am writing to ask your advice on a difficult situation. I have recently begun a new relationship and we have been going out for about 2 months. When I first started seeing this girl, she was quite chubby and curvaceous, ...

My 9 years older than me boyfriend wants to settle down have a baby and I'm not ready yet. How do I tell him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3714 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend really wants us to start trying for a baby within the next few months but I don't feel ready for a child yet, even though I adore my step daughter and love spending time with her. It's just such a commitment, and I don't think I am ...

I want to date its been 13 years but I don't want to be hurt!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Dear cupid, I am a single mature woman my children are grown I want a relationship but I been through so much with men that did not deserve me til I don't know whether I'm going or coming .My son thinks I should leave life alone because he have ...

Do I send the sexy bank teller a message? He gave me his cell phone number

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Hello Everyone, Every Friday after work I go to the local/closest bank to my job to deposit my check. I've been going there since a few months before the summer up until this day. There is this guy working there(teller) who I think is cute. W...

What should I do about my secret obsession?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

25 September 2014 (M) - I can't get this girl out of my head. I've known her years and we talk now and then. I have a girlfriend who I really like but I know isn't 'the one'. I think about this other girl constantly and replay our conversations over in my head. I don't ...

I feel like my gf is better friends with my roommate than she is with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

25 September 2014 (M) - I'm currently in a relationship that started 3 months ago. She and I spend a lot of time together and we already feel very strongly about each other. She is over my place a lot and she has become good friends with my roommate. The three of us hang...

After 7 years together if he's not ready for the next step will he ever be?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years officially. We met at 15 years old and have been happy ever since. As we met in school we have the same group of friends and regulaly go out as a big group. Me and my partner rarely if never argue we are ...

How does a guy get over a fear of rejection for good?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3715 days ago

25 September 2014 (?) - How does a guy get over a fear of rejection for good? Ive dates three girls, one for two years, and the other two for two dates each. Asking them out was a huge thing in my mind. When I did I felt good, but I am really unsatisfied with how I do ...

Is he interested? polite? I'm confused!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - we hooked up on 2 occasions he spent the night we were drunk nothing happened just kissed and cuddled but i asked him to an event and he happily said yes, he then cancelled saying he was poorly and i never heard from him since. today i mailed him ...