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writes:We're from the same city, we go to the same university in a different country, I'm a freshman, he's a senior. We started talking back in May, after I got accepted to this university. We live really close to each other back home, so we went out quite a bit during the summer. Our relationship was purely platonic, we talked, we laughed, we acted just like friends. Now we've been in university for a month, and we've been talking more and more, eating together, partying together, hanging out around campus. Yesterday we were watching a show in his room, and we were lying on his bed, and our legs and arms were touching, and I got this weird fuzzy feeling. I feel like I'm falling for him, but at the same time we talk about things like which girls he thinks are hot, which guys I think are cute. He has plenty of experience with dating, whereas I've only had two boyfriends throughout high school.Do you think this could go anywhere? Next time I'm in his dorm, should I try something like holding his hand? Or is he the one who is supposed to make the first move? Is he just being friendly and would doing something like that make the friendship totally awkward? We get along really well and I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship, but at the same time I want to know if this is going somewhere.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 September 2014):
 Don't do it IN HIS DORM! No way! I know it was an opportunity, but what message are you trying to portray?
If you're interested in him in terms of you falling for him and you're wanting a possible relationship with him, then making moves in his room is a NO GO, because the message you're going to give him is that you're horny and want a quick shaft in his bed. Not a good way to start a relationship, not to mention if he's not interested in you, it would become 100x more awkward for him in his own room. Not only that, but say he's not really into you, but he decides that since you're offering yourself to him physically (he could take it like that if your first display of interest is physical), he'll seize the opportunity, sleep with you, and then it would really get complicated, because his having sex with you spontaneously in his dorm wouldn't mean he was interested in you for a relationship.
No, ask him out if you want to, or at the very least, take a walk with him outside or meet him OUTSIDE of a dorm room and tell him you're interested in him to get to know him better. See what I mean??
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reader, Melons666  +, writes (28 September 2014):
Hello there, You and your friend have known each other for a while, so if you admitting your feelings for him - and turning you down - is going to ruin your friendship, then you wern't strong friends. There is however a chance that he could feel the same, you know him well enough to know what type of girl he likes? Does it fit your description? Maybe he does like you? maybe he doesn't? But there is only one way you're going to find out my dear...
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