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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Relationship dilemma: how do I get her to believe in me again?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - I'm currently trying to win back my ex girlfriend. She has a social anxiety disorder, and recently shut down and blew up on me (seriously yelled in person, screamed, cried, etc.) because of a few things I did. All of which was about a month ago. ...

I married through love and now it has backfired as he is still messaging the married woman he knew before me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - hey there, My name is senya and i am married for 1 year now.. And i am dating this same guy since 2 years... So basically we are together for 3 years.. My husband was dating a married lady before we meet.. she was married for 2 years when she...

Can I have a good life with my controlling man who also tells me lies?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Hi, The man I'm with is a liar, he lies frequently and sometimes over ridiculous things I never know what's real what's not. He was married and even lied about his exes age to me until divorce papers arrived and I seen her age. He's got a tem...

Ex showed up at a party where I was and then ignored me? What gives?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4675 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - My ex showed up at a club where he had to have known there was a 99-percent chance I'd be there.(It's my friend that was DJ'ing and hosting the party). He was NEVER part of the scene I'm in - in fact, I brought him to the first party when we start...

Gf lied and decieved me however has alot of underlying issues, should I stay?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my gf and i have gone through a very rough patch recently when i found out she had been lying to me for months and texting and talking with another man along with sending semi nude photos to him and telling the man she loved him and he her. i am not ...

Would you let him go if he were your Bf? And been together two years.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I'm not sure where to start. First off, I'm sorry if this post turns into a novel…I'll try my best to keep it short and simple. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years Its my boyfriends birthday soon and he wants to go clubbin for h...

My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...

Is there anyway I can reconnect with my husband and stop hurting him like I have?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I'm in need of some serious help... I've cheated on my husband and he found me online yesterday on a site and seen some comments some guys have made. When my husband confronted me on it he said he wasn't mad about the site in general, but he was mad ...

Ex is ruining my high school life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - Hey, Dearcupid. I'm really sorry about the length of this, but I desperately need some help. I broke up with my girlfriend of 26 months recently because she cheated on me THREE TIMES IN ONE NIGHT and still had the nerve to get angry at me for ...

IS my girlfriend cheating on me? I need women's advice!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - I just want to know if my girlfriend is cheating. we been together for some time but since we both in two different colleges we dont see each other as much but we do txt and talk on the phone. she recently sent me a picture and i noticed her butt is ...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

How do you go about talking to the "other" woman?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4760 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - How do you go about talking to the "other" woman? I am not a exploding/crazy person and I was thinking that I would talk to her calmly but what to say? I don't know how I would start. But I really do want her to know that she's talking to my ...

My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 4767 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...

The baby mama of my husband is making our lives a living nightmare!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Hi, Hope someone can help - i am going out of my mind. My husband of 17 yrs had an affair with a girl nearly half his age, bad enough but after he told me it was over he had to admit that she was pregnant. Now i am sure that in the beginning she di...

Married man is trying to break the no contact rule

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I have cut off a friendship with a married man because we are both attracted to each other and we both realized it should not go any further. We have had no contact for two months now. It has been hard but in that time, I have been trying to move on ...

Will we get together? And if not what should I do about being his "bit on the side"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Me and an old friend have started talking a lot more like we use too. We did stop talking for a bit because we both was busy. we have been flirting like we use too, however he is 2years older than me and he has a girlfriend. I do enjoy spending time ...

Boyfriend cheated on me and now I can't trust anyone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4773 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Why would he do that to me? what did I ever do to him:(? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought he loved me too. He was so sweet and so lovely but then he asked to go on a break and started acting weird. Then he broke up with me saying h...

He was cheating on me so we broke up, but then he contacted me again. Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - hi,i am 19 yrs girl.i was in a relationship to one guy.he is my senior in my college.i love him a lot.i was in a relation only for 1 month..i understood that he was cheating me.his friends told that.and i heard from his mouth that he was cheating ...

I took him to the clinic because I thought something was wrong with him sexually and now he wont talk to me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles. Okay i've been here before, asking a few questions, and i got wonderful and useful feedback. So now i'm back...same guy...different situation. Okay, so today, i wanted to take him, well the both of us to the clinic ...

Should I confront her husband and let him know what his wife has been doing with me for the last 2 years, or let nature take its course?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - well , where do i start , was working with this girl for a couple of years , we became the best of friends , would talk about every thing and any thing , she is married , im single , and has kids , i knew all this before any thing had happened , ...

Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...

Am I weird for not wanting to sleep around or cheat on my boyfriend? All my friends seem to be doing it!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Why are my friends doing this? am I weird to think is wrong? My friends say am boring and I should change my rules when it comes to guys. I've always been the kind of girl to only kiss a guy or have sex with a guy when we're in a relationsh...

Why do men have affairs despite not being ready to leave their partners?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Why do married men like to have affairs with other women, though they are by no means ready to leave their legal wives? What is this mentality? Don't they have any fear for the consequence? Don't they feel anything bad about other parties (both wife ...

I cheated on my BF with my FWB!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - I have this boyfriend. We have been together for three weeks. We had sex last week and we had planned in waiting longer to do it. But what happens happens. But now he says we can't do it again. But there is this other guy who I have been sleeping ...

I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex and I'm eaten up by guilt!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Im new to this "going to the internet for help" deal, But i am being tortured everyday and night and im in desperate need for help. :( So here's a little background info before i get into what i need to say. I dated a guy for 3 years ...

Should I tell my current girlfriend that I was seeing my ex when we first got together? I'm afraid she'll dump me too!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

25 October 2011 (M) - I have never told my current girlfriend of 10 months that I had a girlfriend before her and I always say that she’s my first love. My ex-girlfriend dumped me when she came to know that I was seeing this current girlfriend of mine behind her back...

I can't get over the emotional affair with a married man

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Hi everyone. I am having a really hard time getting over a married man. I am in an unhappy marriage and this is why I was vulnerable to him. He led me on and then disappeared from my life. I had true and deep feelings for him during our frien...

I found out my husband fathered another child! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4770 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I'm so confused. I've been married to my husband for nine years next month, and we have two boys together, who are five and three. We were a happy family up until last night when my husband told me that he'd fathered a child, another boy, with ano...

He's cheated and given me an STD! How do I confront him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - Hi everyone I have just found out my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me and now I have a std I really loved him but now he has been cheating on me I know I have to break up with him how do I bring this up to him I know he has been cheating ...

Boyfriends holiday visit without me, but the ex girlfriend will be around!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - Dear Cupid, My BF of almost a year is going home for the holidays without me (due to my work schedule). His ex is still hot for him and before me while they were broken up (3 years) they would hook up occasionally usually at the holidays. Sinc...

I regret the moment I cheated and am broken hearted, I need help from open minded people about what I can do now?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - Hello all please don't hate or judge me for this as i hate myself enough i need urgent advice here is the story: I had a ex for 8yrs and had two great kids the relationship broke down and i left but supported my kids i met a new girl who helped m...

He says he loves me very much, then says he would choose his wife over-how would you react?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4775 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I have been having a relationship with a married man for 5 yrs. I know he loves his wife and he won't leave her but he tells me at the same time he loves me very much and wants me and doesn't want to lose me. 2 days back, we had an argument abou...

I fear I only love my wife as a friend, and to make things worse I have cheated on her with my ex....who do I really want?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - I am in my mid 30's. I have been married for 18 months to a woman I have been with for several years. Our relationship is fine but I fear I only love her as a friend. We have no kids. We rarely have sex and when we do it feels very unatural. I ...

My biggest fear is being cheated on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I haven't had a boyfriend yet, but my greatest fear is being cheated on. I guess it's because growing up my dad cheated on my mom and even went as far as to introduce me to one of his mistresses. But my greatest fear is being cheated on and hur...

Am I reading too much into this guy's behavior's?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4746 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I started getting weird vibes from a man at work. He is married with two kids. We work together and keep it professional. I noticed that when people are not looking, he will wink at me with a smile. He did this twice. If I need something that ...

I'm wondering if my b/f is cheating on me and don't know how to bring it up

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4777 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - I saw my boyfriends contact list on the chat platform we both use the other day (the friends lists can be public if you accept friend requests a certain way) and he has two female friends with a website name in their chat profiles. Their names ...

He's married and won't always pay attention to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - Im 22.. And I'm having sOme affair with a 31 yrs old married man.. He says that he is not happy because her wife is already 51 yrs old and he really wants a baby.. Which her wife can't give because of the age (unable to bear a child) he's just ...

My GF cheated. I forgave her, but since then she's been acting like she hates me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

23 October 2011 (M) - A few things my girlfriend doesn't like for me to ask "can I have a kiss?" We used to kiss all the time but now she says it is just getting annoying. "what are you doing?" She hates this question now before she would always let me know what's ...

B/f taking long time to answer texts, photo of girl on his phone, is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4777 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend 9 months we both still live with our parents (he's 21 I'm 18) I love him and he says he loves me and most of the time I do believe him but recently he has been taking ages to answer texts for example he use to text me ...

My friend's lover wouldn't give her money should she end things with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - My friend, who is married, but does not sleep with her husband, has had a 10 year sexual relationship with a male friend. She has talked with him every day by phone, exchanged emails, visited with him and his parents, and exchanged birthday and ...

Why is my husband calling me names and being so mean.? He's the one who has been secretly visiting and talking to my "friend"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 2 years, he's 41 and I'm 32. I had this friend, or so I thought she was. We were great friends, but we did hang out a few times. My husband and I started having some marital difficulties, and during that tim...

Do I become friends with my ex or do I move on?? or secretly wait for her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4773 days ago

22 October 2011 (M) - Its been about 3 months since I broke up with my girlfriend, we broke up because of past resentment, pent-up frustration and constant fighting (which was mostly started by me). I apologized to her and how my actions affected our relationship and ...

Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with...

I cheated with my boyfriend's friend, we broke it off but are now communicating again and I'm only happy when I'm talking to him! HELP!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - hey , i really need some advice, please dont judge me i feel bad enough about myself as it is back in may i fell for my boyfriend of three and a half years best mate lets just call him james, ive known james just as long as my partner who we will ...

I cheated on my boyfriend with my ex! Can this be fixed, or should I walk away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - i was in a really bad relationship on and off for about 6 years i moved states away to be with this guy and we eventually broke it off. i met up with an old friend that ive knows for a really long time and he was over seas for a few years and i ...

We just don't match sexually anymore. I still love him and feel that I'll marry him, but recently it's gotten worse.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4779 days ago

21 October 2011 (F) - Hello, I've been with my bf for over a year and we've talked about marriage and kids quite a lot. Problem is, when we first got together, he was not over his ex and we had some issues of him lying to me about contacting her and hiding emails/te...

I have my suspicions...is this woman he claims to be his 'sister' really his wife?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) - I have a guy for almost one year who lives with a woman in a single room whom he claims that the lady is his sister. There is a long distance between where he stays. He has been to my place twice and I've been to his place twice. My first time i ...

Army wives and girlfriends - do they ALL cheat when soldiers are deployed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4780 days ago

19 October 2011 (M) - I am in th army and I leave for deployment in less then 3 weeks. My current girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months, we have a great relationship. This will the first time either one of us will eb dating someone who is deployed. a few ...

How do I get over an affair I didn't want to end?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4768 days ago

19 October 2011 (F) - How do I move on with my life and forget him? We are both married. We work for the same company but different buildings. We had been having an affair for 10 years. I am currently unemployed and have been for a year due to an on the job injury. ...