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writes:Hey, Dearcupid. I'm really sorry about the length of this, but I desperately need some help.I broke up with my girlfriend of 26 months recently because she cheated on me THREE TIMES IN ONE NIGHT and still had the nerve to get angry at me for being really, really hurt and mad at what she did..and she's been making my life absolute hell ever since.So basically..my ex went to a party with her friend and ended up getting ridiculously drunk and hooking up with 3 different people, one being a girl, one being one of my really good mates, and the other being a 20 year old. I found out after overhearing it in a conversation with her and her friend at school and she was yelling at me because I was very, very angry with her, with her saying "I was going to tell you, I was!!!!" when all she's ever done is lie to me over, and over, and over again.I then broke up with her and she went around school talking bad things behind my back to ALL her friends (who are mine too; we're in the same circle of mates) and those ex-friends of mine then started posting and saying horrible things about and to me over Facebook and at school to me.I then found out from one of my mates that she told her best friend that she was going to sleep with two of my REALLY good mates (of whom I grew up with) and she told me I'm "taking it out of context like an idiot".She's effectively ruining my high school life and I've lost SO many friends because of her actions. I feel sad all the time and down and all she does is sneer, smirk, and say bad things to and about me to everyone. I don't know what to do about this anymore. All I want to do is TRY and move on but I can't because something SHE'S stirred up is always up in my face. Is there ANYTHING AT ALL I can do that doesn't involve changing schools? Please help!!! :(
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reader, Vaeys +, writes (28 December 2012):
Vaeys is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've finished High School now, It's all over and done with so the school can do nothing, not they did anyway when I went to the principal about as apparently she played Victim and her mum went up to the school principal and told her how much of a "horrible person I am"It's all over and finished with now..I just don't know what to do with n my life or anything in general because of her.
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reader, Rozet  +, writes (7 November 2011):
 I'm really sorry your ex is basically ruining your life and hurting you. The best thing to do right now is to inform an adult that you trust and you know will help you with this situation. I have once been in your shoes and I know it feels like hell. Your probably thinking you should get even with her or so (I tried getting even with my ex-friend that was ruining my high school life)but don't. I did and all I did was add more fire to hers. Your ex has serious issues and needs to stop dissing you to make her seem "cooler" or of course she could just be angry that you dumped her. Also ignore her, act like she ain't worth nothin and don't even look at her. Moving on will be hard since your ex is always up in your face but if you really think about it, all she wants is attention from you. Don't you think so? So tell your counsler,parents,teacher,principle, or anyone else you trust and I assure you they will take care of it. Don't be terrified of telling this issue to them like I was! They will stop it one way or another for bulling is now a huge issue in the whole world and many are trying to prevent it. Good luck (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): Tell the Principal and your parents. That is ridiculous. I have been through something like this and no one should ever have to go through this. Also print off things on fb if possible because then you have evidence if anything is ever said to you that hurts. I would definetly never say anything back because that makes you just as bad as they are. Goodluck takecare.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 October 2011):
Actually, there might be. In England, cyber bullying has now become something that the police usually have to get involved in. So if they are posting things over the internet about you that are lies and such, I would speak to your parents and your headteacher and see if you can get those people seriously punished. If your school has a bullying policy, they should deal with this in a pretty harsh manner.
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