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writes:Im 22.. And I'm having sOme affair with a 31 yrs old married man.. He says that he is not happy because her wife is already 51 yrs old and he really wants a baby.. Which her wife can't give because of the age (unable to bear a child) he's just staying with his wife for citizenship and visa... My problem is... He's not giving all the attentions to me coz he is married.. He texts me but sometimes doesnt reply.. He calls but sometimes he won't.. And whenever I asked why.. He'll simply tells me.."you know my situation right?" but for me I'm not comfortable with it.... What would I do? If I'm asking if he wants a no strings attached relationship,,, he simply says.. R u nuts??!! No way...But obviously it is.... What should u do? Pls help
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reader, stressedandtired  +, writes (24 October 2011):
 I am in a relationship with a married man and feel what you are feeling. I want more attention but I cannot get it. You didn't mention if you'd fallen if love with this guy so my advice is, if you haven't, run like the wind. I'm in love with a married man and I wish I had not ever met this guy. What you have to look forward to is always being lonely until he can get away from his wife. My MM says he loves me and gives me anything I want but what I want the most is for him to give me more time and attention and I know that won't happen. He tells me so many lies I don't know what to believe anymore. I've learned not to believe anything. I don't believe the things he says about his wife anymore. I don't believe he'll show up when he says he's on his way and I don't believe he'll call when he says he will. If you can bare to start seeing other people you should do it. I wish I could but I can't even stand to think about anyone but him. This has been going on for over a year and all I do is feel pain. Please don't let this be you. Get out before it's too late!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): What an amazing guy! He lies to a woman to get citizenship and a visa. Gee, I wonder if he could be lying to you to get something else he wants?Why would you want to be with this boy? Surely you could do much better!He is not paying attention to you because he plays women to get what he wants. He probably is looking for his best options and you may not be the only "other woman" in his life.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 look at the facts ...
married to an older woman purely for visa
messing around with you and wants to get you pregnant presumably?
lying to her
picking up and dropping you whenever it suits
all this tells me that he is NOT a good person. you say it is obvious to you that he is using you for no strings sex, so why do you ask him? of course he is gonna deny it. wise up. if you want all the attention go and get a SINGLE man instead
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 A no strings attached relationship simply means that you have no control over when he calls, or if he ever would, and you can't complain. He feels guilty that he is lying to his wife, but then turn the blame on you, making you think it's your idea to start the affair. If he wants a visa there are other ways around it. Marrying a barren woman is a sure way to trap himself. I won't trust what he said and just drop him. He's probably not thinking about you now. So don't think about him.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (23 October 2011):
 Hi,Whatever excuses he's giving you regarding his marriage, something makes me believe he's not being completely honest with you. You are so young, why don't you just end this unhealthy relationship, and find someone that truly deserve you? I am sure you won't have problems meeting a new guy, that will give you all the attention you deserve. He doesn't call you, won't reply to your text? It's horrible feeling this way, wait for someone... Don't you want somebody that can give you all the time you deserve? Specially right now, holidays are coming, are you ok being alone? Everybody are out there enjoying life, having fun on the weekends... Don't you want to have someone to talk everyday? Talk about your day, have dinner together, watch a movie, someone you can call or text whenever you feel like? Someone that is yours only? Sorry if this is not the answer you were expecting, but I am just trying to help, like I said, you are so young, relationships are supposed to be fun, sharing a life together... I know you don't choose who to love, it's hard to leave when you do have feelings fo someone, but I believe that you are not happy, you deserve so much more than this....Hope you can make the right decision, and find happiness. Good luck
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