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Archived questions from: October, 2012 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

She broke up with me because we are so different - Now she wants to try again, I need some advice.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M) - i have no idea what to do right now. my ex gf broke up with me and said we are just too different and doesn't see how we can work. which we are very different, i can't dispute that with her. we've had a lot of disagreements and fights that have come ...

This situation is a mess, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - Here's a triangle love story that soon enough is going to turn into a disaster.. There this guy let's call him(mark)and a girl(cindy) and me..so mark really liked me,and I wasn't aware of it but I very well knew that cindy liked mark cuz she conf...

Break up or stay with her? She's warned me that she may want to sleep with another guy, just randomly, in the future.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (M) - My girlfriend has told me that she thinks there will come a time when she wants to sleep with another guy just randomly. She said she doesn't know when. She said that she now considered us to be only slightly more than friends but wants to stil...

How can I get out of this confused mess that's happened since I split up with my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - im in a right mess split up with my ex. A few months back we occasionally slept together i recently found out he was dating this girl. I felt really hurt as he had slept with me two days before i found out. I went mad and messaged her to tell her ...

I don't think my ex will ever let me move on

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - its been 20 days i broke up with my verbally abusive ex, but he still keeps on messaging me goodnight and good morning text, he is saying that he has realised his mistake , now he can understand my importance. he keeps on calling me all of the ...

B/f broke up because of my good looks and what his friend said??

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - Hi everyone, It took me two days to even talk about this,cause I'm unable to wrap around what happened to me.. My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me yesterday for a reason sooo silly and immatur'ish' if I can say.. When he first met me,he was very...

When do you know it's the right time to break up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - When do you know when to break up? Me and my boyfriend have been together about 6 months, which might not sound very long, but its by far my most serious and long term relationship. Most of the time I'm so happy with him, but sometimes I feel like ...

How can I get my boyfriend back? My lies caused the break up. I lied because I knew he would not like the truth.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 3 years now, on and off. He has always complained about my lying but the thing is then I did it to protect him since I knew he wouldn't like the truth. I know now it was stupid of me. Everyt...

Could my hunch be right? Could he turn into a stuffy old man who doesn't know how to love life and enjoy life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - I have a new boyfriend and I feel really comfortable with him. But something bothers me. He does not seem to have many friends. Perhaps no close friends at all. He talk about work colleagues. It's as if he arrived in this world and never made ...

He acts like every little problem is doomsday. Is this relationship viable? For a long term future together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - I am losing feelings for my boyfriend. I am 44, he is 47. We have been dating for almost 2 years. He works too much and we hardly ever see each other. I keep telling myself that I'm getting used to it...but I'm not. I feel sorry for myself...

Dating for 2.5 years turning into a FWB relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4377 days ago

31 October 2012 (M) - Hi Agony Aunts, I've posted a few questions here as of late (some anonymous), My (now ex) girlfriend broke up with me just under 2 weeks ago saying that we are now on different levels in our lives but that she still loves me - but not sure if she'...

Do I help a friend? Or choose my ex and hope that she chooses me also?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F) - my ex girlfriend and i broke up about two weeks ago. we broke up for a lot of different reasons. we love each other but we are very different people with very different personalities and viewpoints. we have had talk of getting back together bu...

After 3 dates she broke up with me because she said I acted like I didin't like her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

30 October 2012 (M) - hi, this girl i have been seeing has just 'dumped' me, so i was wondering if you help me pleease cos im gutted! basicly i had 3 dates with her, they were all good, i enjoyed them, and she ses she enjoyed them too, and yesterday morning she just...

Why does he need to date one last girl before he can commit to me? Should I wait while he does this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

30 October 2012 (F) - Help me please ? I am devastated by the fact that the guy I am dating told me he needs meet one girl to be sure he really loves? The guy I date said he thinks he loves me and we have been seeing each other for 3 months now. We were making pla...

Is this normal that my persistent 45 year old Ex is chasing after me after a month of silence?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4390 days ago

30 October 2012 (F) - Dear all. Your thoughts please! In brief, My bf and i have had a rather hard work relationship. We were together for 16 months. Things got worse,and he kept ignoring me for up to 3 wks at a time. In the end he said it was ok. I was like,ok. Th...

I can't wait forever for my boyfriend to figure out what he wants!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4405 days ago

29 October 2012 (F) - My boyfriend of 8 months, and I had been fighting a lot, I got fed up with him over a situation, and told him our future seems foggy, and told him how miserable I had been feeling, and he retaliated with saying he needed to take a break. Well, we ...

Why did my boyfriend start acting so strangely?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4405 days ago

29 October 2012 (F) - Dear Cupids, This may be a bit of a long one so I am sorry in advance. My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me yesterday due to the fact he had "fallen out of love with me" - The funny thing is the week before we were loves young dream... w...

What can I do? I'm devastated after an unanticipated breakup

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

29 October 2012 (F) - Hi I am new here. I was with my ex for two years I thought we were so happy he was the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes we had arguments and it got really tough then he lost his job and I was paying for everything we had a flat in the end we ...

This is a very bad situation, but who do I choose ? And how do I solve this problem?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

29 October 2012 (M) - ok, worst situation ever. the type that makes a man not feel like a man. ill try to keep this extra short.. this all started 2 and a half years ago. at the time i had been with my girlfriend for seven years. we fought all the time. arguing. s...

She broke up with me saying she felt smothered! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

28 October 2012 (M) - Ive been dating a girl for the past 6 months (2 of which i just courted her). She never has boyfriends or even hookups and i had very strong feelings for her so i took things slow. Shortly after, she lost her job/apt so i had her move in with me. ...

How can I encourage a girl to love me again? Because she hates me now

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

28 October 2012 (M) - there was a girl she loved me but i broke her heart. She told me her secrets and i told only my best friend. He told her. i love her so much and she hates me now i tried to talk to her but she dont want to talk to me now i said sorry to her and...

Should I be emotionally drained from a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - I just shut out my boyfriend .....I have gone completely silent ...because I am tired. ..I am tired of giving ....all my energy is well spent ....his a very needy emotional demanding person and before I wouldn't mind listening, giving, helping, ...

I texed him when I was drunk and now I'm really embarrassed. Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4406 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - Damn!! I feel like a complete idiot. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks everything seemed great etc. And then last week he calls it off saying it's not me it's him and he needs to do things, like work gym. So I was like what the heck? Bu...

Is telling the truth one option? How do I get out of this tangled web of lies that I created? My Imaginary Gay Boyfriend is causing problems with my ex and I

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

28 October 2012 (M) - Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive. Firstly let me just say that I am a really honest guy, who doesn't normally lie (truth) (Hard to believe when you hear my story). But one lie I told recently has snowballed into ...

She thinks I'm telling lies. So many misunderstandings. How do I convince her that I am the one telling the truth?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4395 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - i posted a question a couple weeks back and got some good feedback. i wanted to see if i couldn't get a few more opinions and elaborate on the most recent happenings. about six weeks ago, my girlfriend had asked to use my phone to look something u...

What can I do? My love has faded. I don't know how to break up with him. And I cry just thinking about breaking up.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - I need help..I've fallen out of love with my boyfriend. Been together for six months..i thought he couldn't handle commitment, and that he only wanted sex but he seems to put more effort into the relationship and i can see that he's really changing ...

I'm confused, because after 3 months she says she only wants to be friends. Why? is it just stress that's made this happen?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

28 October 2012 (M) - I met a girl online. We talked on the site for over a month before she gave me her number Then after that, we texted and talked on the phone for 2 weeks before we went on a date. Sense then, we've gone out everyweekend for 2 months, sometimes tw...

Does he actually not like me and is he showing me that by pretty much ignoring me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) - I dated a guy for several months, we broke up for 6 months and I saw him again and we reconnected. It was what seemed a fresh start where we talked about how we hoped to have a future together. But he is in the military and got stationed on the...

I do love him... but do I love him enough to be with him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4393 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - I'm so depressed and have no zest for living anymore. I just feel so alone and stupid.... I'm 22 years old, and i recently broke up with my bf (28) after 2 and half years. My bf/ex was working in the states alone for the whole of our relationshi...

Has my boyfriend really changed?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - I have had a rocky 8 months to say the least, with my first ever boyfriend and now i'm just wondering has he really changed? I first met my boyfriend when i went back to school after missing a year, i was sent to learning support ...

I feel as if I've lost myself . I love him but I've changed. how do I tell him I need "time out" without hurting him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years. We love each other and all, but we've broken up and made up numerous times. I feel I've changed drastically from being the fun girl to being the obsessed girlfriend. I feel as if I...

How can I move on from my very loved ex? We broke up because he could not commit

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - Hi there, Me and my newly ex boyfriend broke up a week ago because he decided he didn't have enough time in his life to commit so me and engage in a serious relationship that I really wanted, so we ended. We are still very much caring about eac...

She was the ONE. I'm still getting over our break-up. I would love to hear your thoughts on my issues please?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

27 October 2012 (M) - It's been almost three years since we first broke up. About two years since we actually spoke to each other even though we were hanging out within 5 feet at a friends about a year ago and still didn't actually speak. I don't know a lot obviously,...

He did things with three different girls, but only told me there was two. Should I trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4407 days ago

27 October 2012 (F) - I got back with my boyfriend two months ago after breaking up with him due to are relationship just being a real mess. We broke up for about a month before getting back together but during that month we both made mistakes and just moved on too quic...

Is this just a rebound move on my part, considering I only just broke up with my Gf?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

26 October 2012 (M) - Hey- This may be a bit silly, but I was just wondering and I wanted to know what everyone thought. My girlfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me out of nowhere about a month ago (there was distance, and a lot of outside circumstanc...

I didn't cheat. How do I convince her? She will not talk to me, so what can I do?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

26 October 2012 (?) - My girlfriend of two years left me because she thinks I cheated on her But I didn't ... I tried to talk to her, to tell her the truth, but she will not talk to me at all. Seh has blocked me from her phone ... I'm soo. Soo in love with her my hear...

She belittles me in public. Should I stay friends with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

26 October 2012 (M) - My girl friend is from a richer home than me. i'm broke she can't assist me financially. When ever we are out for an outing and we happen to get into one dissagreement or the other,she tends to talk too recklessly and shout at me on the top of he...

My ex is pleading for me to come back. How do I tell him I've fallen in love with another?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

26 October 2012 (F) - Ok so I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 and a half years about a month ago. I just didn't feel like I was in love anymore and I want to feel this way and be happy/not miserable for the rest of my life. We had two dogs and lived together in a fairly ...

Twelve years together. But now his porn addiction has taken a nasty turn for the worse. Should I dump him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - My man friend (been together 12 years) has a porn addiction. In the last 6 months..he's given out his phone number so these nasty ladies can contact him by text. He say's it's just a game. The other day I looked at his history and discover...

How do I learn to trust him? And how many second chances should I be giving out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - First off the last year and a bit I've been on and off with this guy (j). More off than on to be honest. We started seeing each other in September and it finished early November. But in that time I fell in love with him, and I've been through ...

Do I keep hoping we will reconcile...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - I split up with my boyfriend after a year together. He said we should just be friends and that he feels we rushed things as we both had marriage in our minds. He feels we have nothing in common and that we arent compatible. However, he says he ...

How do I heal the relationship? Do I love too deeply?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4377 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - I have been with my bf for 21 months - nearly two years. We have a beautiful 1 year old son together. I have two kids at home with me so two toddlers. Last night though, out of nowhere he turned around and told me he fell out of love with me ove...

Help! I'm scared. This girl in our group already took over one girl's Bf. Now what can I do? Because I think she's after my Bf.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - Hello:) Thanks in advance for your time:) I'm in a relationship, which is going well, and we are both in the same friendship group. All his guy mates, and all my girl mates are all mates! haha, but there is one problem. One of my girl mates...

He blocks me out. Yet I do everything for him and his children. Is it time to stop being so giving? or break up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - I met him about 4 years ago. 2 years ago we finally got together after both being in love with each other for about a year. He is about 10 years older than me and has a few kids. At the start things were perfect. He was so in love with...

Do I need professional help? I STILL can't get my ex brother-in-law out of my mind!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4410 days ago

25 October 2012 (F) - Can't get ex brother-in-law out of my mind! I'm going to try and make a long story short! I'm still attracted to and in love with my ex brother in law and I can't get him out of my mind! It's driving me crazy! We has sex one time, and use ...

Do I stay and hope he can contain his love of gambling? Or do I go?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - me and boyfriend have been together a year, we now live together and i love him very much. i have a daughter from a previous relationship who he is great with. the problem is he likes to gamble, hes currently awaiting his date to join the army, s...

I am concerned for my Bi-polar Bf. Our last meeting was acrimonious. Should I go to see him or wait for him to make contact?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - I'm so upset. My boyfriend has bipolar disorder, and he gets really nasty sometimes when he has drunk alcohol. He had a few drinks today, even though he told me that he wasn't going to get drunk. He also told me that he wasn't going to see his...

Should I wait around for him... or move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - I am 23 years old and I have two children. A son 3 and a daughter 1. My son's biological father died when he was six months old and my daughter's father has raised him ever since he was little. So that's his Daddy. We had been together for almost f...

I've decided to finish it but how do I tell him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) - Update http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-is-renting-out-spare-room-to-another.html his flatmate moved in and they went out together to celebrate as it has solved both their money troubles , i didnt get invited and he never said about ...

Girlfriend of 3 years has confused feeling between me and another...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

24 October 2012 (M) - My girlfriend and I had been together for 3 years, it has been the best 3 years of my life, we have conquered every kind of task possible. we even had to do the long distance thing for about year because she went to school elsewhere. we had fought ...