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Archived questions from: October, 2019 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

It seems impossible to satisfy her sexually and it's giving me second thoughts

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1874 days ago

31 October 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend of 8 months is unhappy with the amount of sex in our relationship. Tonight we had (in my opinion) a nice date and then had sex for 30 minutes ~ 1 hour and when I took her home, she just sat in pissed off silence the whole way (30 minute drive) until we got to her ... (294 words)

Is it normal to feel frustrated that my parents' expectations are getting in the way of my studies?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1877 days ago

30 October 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi everyone! I’m gonna try to keep this as short as possible. I’m conflicted about how I should feel towards this situation and such. So here it is; A little backstory: I’m 20 years old and in my final year of university. It’s a stressful time now as it’s my final year so we... (1129 words)

My boyfriend gets nasty when I don't do what he wants!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1873 days ago

30 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend gets nasty and angry if I don't spend the night staying over with him every weekend and refuses to come over to see me and take me out for the day because I wont do what he wants which is stayover and have sex all night and day. the reason I don't like it is once ... (184 words)

I took my boyfriend back and he hurt me physically

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1830 days ago

29 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - So here I am. I took him back after dumping him for emotional abuse. This time he told me that things were going to change. A week later he was back to his same verbal abuse. This time tho I stood up to him. His five year old daughter was screaming in my face most of the day. ... (303 words)

I have two interviews and am not sure what to wear or how to act.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1877 days ago

29 October 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - i have two interviews coming up in the week , one is a group interview and the other is just with the manager im assuming . they are both for a the same retail shop but in different areas . they are also both xmas temp positions. I would really like this vacancy because for ... (335 words)

Why does a guy have sex with 2 women in two sexual relationships? Has the first dropped the ball? Why is one not good enough?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1873 days ago

29 October 2019 (F) age 41-50 - I'd like to know why and how a man can have a sexual relationship with two different women concurrently? Why isn't one enough? Does that mean he isn't attracted enough to the first one? Or doesn't love her enough? Or she isn't satisfying him? He is holding onto BOTH. ... (114 words)

I have two dates and I'm not sure I want to go on a third, even though she is HOT!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1877 days ago

29 October 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - To start of Im a 24 year old male that hasnt been in a relationship for a long time. I still consider myself a kid at heart (or better yet immature). Ive recently went on two dates with a girl who asked me out and frankly I see no connection and she's 4 years older than me. I... (310 words)

Co worker body shames customers

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1878 days ago

28 October 2019 (F) age 41-50 - I began a part time job at a fast food place where my son works to earn extra money and to keep an eye on him. (He's mildly autistic and often misunderstood). This isn't the problem. The problem is my co-worker "Xena". Yesterday, a man came in and ordered the biggest meal... (354 words)

Husband’s Weight Gain and Lazy, Selfish Attitude is Ruining Our Marriage

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1872 days ago

28 October 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and I have been married a little over a year and it has been extremely difficult. When we were dating he was so sweet and so generous, I honestly never imagined we would ever be struggling like we are now. I expected a marriage where we share things equally... that ... (1068 words)

I know it in my gut that my husband is cheating but he tells me I am paranoid, insecure and imagining things!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1878 days ago

28 October 2019 (F) age 41-50 - I'm in a bad spot. Never thought I'd reach out online for help but I'm at the end of my rope. I have a strong gut feeling my husband of 5 years is cheating on me. Our relationship has been strained lately because of my anxiety. It's a doubled edged sword, you see, because alt... (810 words)

Trouble marriage health problems and I'm just wondering if I want to keep compromising

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1876 days ago

28 October 2019 (F) age 41-50 - Hi, I would appreciate very much your advice and an objective look at my current situation... I feel as if I am waking up from a dream and realizing that my reality isn't that rosy. Why now, you might ask...About two years ago I suddenly developed a very difficult form of... (1048 words)

3 guys are into me and I don't know what to do

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1876 days ago

28 October 2019 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm sixteen years old and my whole life I haven't really had a real crush, and I don't think anyone except one guy has actually liked me. This year, I have three guys that all seem to really like me. Guy #1: K I've known K for forever. His brother and my brother and good ... (380 words)

He said/she said Should the girlfriend worry about her boyfriend meeting up with a 19 year old to learn language?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1877 days ago

27 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, Background: my boyfriend has moved to my country to live with me. He does not speak the language here or have any local friends, so he is engaging in something called "language exchange". This is him meeting people who are interested to learn his native language,... (758 words)

Nowhere to relieve tension living in cramped quarters. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1879 days ago

26 October 2019 (M) age 18-21 - My mom, my three sisters and me live in the upstairs of our pastor's garage. People from our church built it into an apartment for us when they found out we were living in a family shelter. That was nice of them but it's got a real narrow kitchen and a tiny bathroom with just ... (99 words)

Should I take a stressful promotion to help pay off my debts or stay in a less stressful role and continue to struggle?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1879 days ago

26 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a work question rather than a relationship one but I’m hoping that’s ok. I have been working in my current role for about 2 years now. It is a very niche industry, in fact mine is the only company in Scotland that I could do this job in. Jobs like mine are very ha... (528 words)

Am I settling to accept deep compatibility and companionship and a medium level of sexual attraction?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1878 days ago

26 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I am looking for some advice. Basically, my question is how attracted do you need to be to your partner for a relationship to last? I’ve seen a lot of people asking questions about not being attracted at all versus intense passion, but what if it’s somewhere in the ... (491 words)

My husband's illness and depression has changed him. I just want him to come home

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1876 days ago

25 October 2019 (F) age 30-35 - Hi everyone! So I have been with my husband for nearly 10 years and married for nearly one year. After 2 months of marriage, he got diagnosed with a life changing, incurable condition which meant he was off work for 6 months. It completely turned his life upside down. A few ... (614 words)

Are we really friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1882 days ago

25 October 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - I’m soo confused I really need help! I’ve been talking to a long distance guy for a while. He challenges me really hard and normally I wouldn’t like that but there’s something when he does it I get mad but I still like it. He has more everything then me money, a house, ... (336 words)

My boyfriend of three years has a side chick and I just found out

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1870 days ago

25 October 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Yesterday I went out on a dinner with my boyfriend and his coworkers. His female asistant was absent. I recently started paying attention to his strange behavior, first he was watching how men stare at me, then started saying that everyone sees me and they don’t see a ring on ... (611 words)

Is there a way out without destroying several lives?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1658 days ago

25 October 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - My former college girlfriend, who I have never stopped loving, contacted me at the end of August. Said she had left her husband of five years and planned to divorce him. We spent Labor Day weekend together at my house. After the holiday, she decided that she owed it to her ... (528 words)

I want to shut the door on my affair for all the right reasons but can't seem to

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1881 days ago

25 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I know I’m going down the wrong path but I can’t find the strength to stop it. I had an affair that was on/off for 10 months with a former colleague. We were both married. I ended it both times it stopped. The second time I went as far as getting a new job. And we live far away ... (388 words)

Should I even try? He is not initiating contact

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1872 days ago

24 October 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So I need help. I met a guy and we went on a date after talking for a while. Date was good. We kiss but he wants to have sex in the back of the car and I told him I wanted to get to know him. But he licked my niple. And we spoke after that and everything was going ok. I told ... (318 words)

Advice for dating someone deployed in the military?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1680 days ago

24 October 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating just four months. We met online and before we met, he was very upfront and honest about him joining the Navy. He just left for a 7-week bootcamp which will be followed by a 24-week training. He plans to work in IT for the Navy. We had an ... (265 words)

I'm confused about where we stand even though she said she's not ready for anything serious

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1879 days ago

23 October 2019 (?) age 41-50 - when we first met but that all ended because it was basically my own doing. Recently we hooked up after talking for a few months. Everything just seemed right. We kissed held hands and I made a slight mistake in bringing up relationships. She said to me that she didn't ... (352 words)

On the first date she said she loved me, then made love to me and said she doesn't remember a thing.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1884 days ago

23 October 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Would love ya’lls thoughts on the following story. This is part one of 2. I’m currently feeling drained and completely destroyed by a woman. Please help me decipher the type of woman she is and where I went wrong. Me: 38yrs old, above average in looks, successful, cultu... (834 words)

Why does my boyfriend lie about his sister?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1885 days ago

22 October 2019 (F) age 26-29 - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and he told me all the time that he's the only child of his mom, and I recently found out that he has a sister that he never told me about because until recently he was so upset and he had to tell me about this thing that he has been ... (464 words)

What is going on? I don't want to be the first one to bring it up.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1885 days ago

22 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't understand what is going on between my friend and I. We have been friends for almost a year, but we fight a lot every week when it comes to misunderstandings over text. I always end up coming to him and we talk again (mainly 'cause when we fight I'm the rash one that ... (276 words)

What can I offer that porn doesn’t when porn offer endless variety

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1884 days ago

21 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I know this may seem trivial to many people but I have struggled with the issue of men and porn for many years . I have no problem with my partner noticing someone attractive we all do that but when I’m with a man and he feels the need to master bate to other women I really ... (198 words)

Accidentally held up an Ambulance and can’t forgive myself!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1885 days ago

20 October 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Tifu accidentally held up an ambulance Accidentally held up an ambulance, feel awful So today as a fairly new driver, I was driving along in the left hand lane, in rush hour. traffic in the right lane queued up at some temporary lights that only let one way traffic through... (305 words)

Why is my former co worker being like this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1887 days ago

20 October 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - became friends with a co worker at work who I like. she talked to me quite a lot and the conversations seem to flow well. I was sad to hear she was going after three months of being with the company. was in kitchen making a tea and said to her, was sorry she was leaving and ... (206 words)

I want to tell my boyfriend how my past has affected me as to who I am but I don't know where to start

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1887 days ago

19 October 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey there, I have been with my current partner now for coming on to 8 months, he treats me very well and I am very much in love with him He has opened up to me before about the way he feels and some personal things he has had to deal with before, and I love that he has the ... (286 words)

How should I react and be around him when I go to his classes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1887 days ago

19 October 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi Cupid I have a crush on a guy at my local gym, he’s a personal trainer and I attend his exercise classes. He’s kind, friendly and warm and easy to talk to. The last 3 months, I’ve been maintaining eye contact with him, we both smile at each other, when I walk into ... (750 words)

I'm a grown man and yet my mother controls my life. Help

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1884 days ago

19 October 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - My mother hit me, threatened me, and made me break up with my girlfriend after one day. Here's what happened: Throughout my entire life my mother has disapproved of any women that I choose to bring in it. I know now that she is a classic example of a divorced narcissistic mot... (1178 words)

Why didnt my colleague want me going to his house?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1885 days ago

19 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I hsd been part of a group of people out and about patrolling anf one of the men had lent me suitcase but it took a bit of time to get it back to him simply because he didn't respond. I eventually contacted his wife to who agreed for me to drop them off. About five mins ... (237 words)

We broke up but I suspect my ex is depressed. Should I do anything?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1885 days ago

19 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - My partner left me a few months ago saying she didn't feel 'in love' any more. She said she didn't know why but some feeling waas missing for her. It hurt. A lot. We have stayed friends however and increasingly I have come to suspect that she is very depressed and is feeling ... (98 words)

My partner says we should be having sex 4 times a day

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1887 days ago

18 October 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - My partner of 11 yrs told me we should be having sex four times a day. I don't think that's very realistic. Is it time to release him to seek other people who want to spend the time he wants in sexual activity?... (45 words)

My LDR boyfriend's messages gave me the impression he doesn't care. I don't know where to go from here

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1888 days ago

18 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in a long distance situation shop with a man for almost 3 months. Before he went away we were seeing each other in person for 6 weeks. He said he was going away for 2 weeks and he has been away for almost 3 months. We have not had any discussions about the status of ... (689 words)

what do you do when your partner doesn’t make your children and partner a priority

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1889 days ago

17 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone what do you do when your partner doesn’t make your children and partner a priority we split up for 3 month then we ended up getting back together because he promised things would change he has been working 7 days a week and he doesn’t need to he promised me we ... (196 words)

My girlfriend has never had an orgasm in 4 years!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1887 days ago

17 October 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I realised my girlfriend has never really had much of an orgasm. She never expects one, and doesn’t really let me do much apart from normal sex until I cum. She is very passionate in making out etc. It’s got to a point I need to make her feel complete. Like I want to do mor... (178 words)

My husband wants to end our marriage and I'm scared

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1884 days ago

17 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid I'm married to my husband for 2 years and we dated 2 years prior marriage. My family is different country and my husband had never met them in person. Yesterday we were having conversation and he told me he does not want to.meet my parents and he does not want to ... (207 words)

I'm worried about going to the spa with my husband since he's so into porn

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1875 days ago

17 October 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been married 23 and have had a lot of trust problems with my husband. he as looked at porn for years and i have found dating sites on his phone. i myself have cheated due to me feeling i was not good enough for him and i would never have a body like the porn stars have. ... (456 words)

New boyfriend friends with former FWB

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1888 days ago

17 October 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - Am I overreacting to be upset that new boyfriend still friends with older FWB lover? He told me they started having sex after he split from ex-wife. But once he wanted to meet up with me, he told her they would have to be friends and she agreed. Now they meet once a week for ... (84 words)

I'm upset that I'm feeling hesitant, has anyone else experienced this?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1889 days ago

16 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I've come here for help when my heart has been broken and always appreciated the thoughtful, insightful responses complete strangers have given me. My question today is about a personal issue I have in moving forward with a great guy. I've been seeing a friend of a frie... (344 words)

Why would my ex lie and tell me he had no family when he did?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1891 days ago

16 October 2019 (F) age 26-29 - I dated my ex for about a year, it was a year full of ups and downs, tiring for me mentally. We always had alot of problems, but i was naive enough to be manipulated by him because he's my first boyfriend. Basically, when i first met him, he told me that he doesn't have any ... (347 words)

Should I ask my brother in law why he refuses to go on vacations with our family?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1890 days ago

16 October 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - My brother-in-law, Sean, is extremely close to his nieces and nephew (his brother and I are the parents of his oldest niece and nephew). He takes them to all the fun places (the Aquarium, the zoo, Chuck E Cheese, different parks, the movie theater, est.). We have asked him t... (169 words)

Why am I so anxious about dating my g/f. I'm starting to think I have a commitment phobia

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1878 days ago

15 October 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - Last night I asked a girl that I like very much and have very strong feelings for to be my girlfriend. In spanish we have a great interim between liking and loving called "te quiero mucho". That's where we are right now. We've been seeing each other on and off for the past... (426 words)

Why do I keep getting nightmares about my abusive ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1893 days ago

15 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I keep getting nightmares about my abusive ex and I wonder why. A little background: we dated for about two years during which he was awfully possessive, totally psycho, verbally and physically abusive and had a huge complex regarding his looks and his finances. The on... (218 words)

My future mother in law is irresponsible, especially with money.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1891 days ago

15 October 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in a consistent relationship for 8 years (on and off for the first 2 years if you count them then 10 years in total). And engaged for 4 with our wedding in 2 years time. Over the past couple of years we've had nothing but issues with his mum. Some of these issues ... (891 words)

His expectations have me confused and wondering about him! Any advice appreciated!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1890 days ago

15 October 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello and thanks So my man has been confusing me a lot. We visit each other 3 times per year we in a LDR for approximately 3 years. I love him but I see many different shades to him. He’s impatient, demanding and has a temper. He also expects things which I’m not fond of ... (317 words)

Does anybody know any where I can go for help with mental health?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1893 days ago

14 October 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Does anybody know any where I can go for mental health help. I don’t like talking to GPs, they are so busy, it’s not relaxing to tell your life problems in 10 min slot especially when I feel they want to get rid of me. Speaking to friends doesn’t help, as they don’t under... (300 words)