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writes:I hsd been part of a group of people out and about patrolling anf one of the men had lent me suitcase but it took a bit of time to get it back to him simply because he didn't respond. I eventually contacted his wife to who agreed for me to drop them off. About five mins before I was due to drop it off at his house I got a text saying if I couldn't drop it off he would come round later. I said I was just on my way but via the supermarket. He responded quickly saying he just so happened to be going there as well and would meet me there. We met up and chatte, handed back the suitcase, gave me a hug and a kiss and said anytime I wanted to borrow it I could. When I bumped into two of the blokes from the group I told them what he did and said 'he doesn't seem to want me round his house' and they replied 'that's because your his bit on the side and he doesn't want you near his wife. I was a bit shocked and just said 'what'and then said ha ha. Assuming they were joking and that he doesn't see me like this as nothing is going on but may explain why he didn't want me round there.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 October 2019):
 You colleague is weird and if I were you I'd avoid spending ANY time around him alone (in social situation).
Maybe HE thinks YOU are into him.
Maybe the wife thinks there is something going on.
Maybe his home situation is not what he painted it to be so he doesn't want you or anyone from work showing up at his home.
Who knows? Well, in fact HE knows, so why not just ASK him what is up with his weird behavior?
And a suitcase is cheap, you could probably even find a decent USED one either online or a consignment/thrift store.
Overall, I'd leave this guy be, 1. he is married 2. he is weird or just very private.
And yes, I think the other fellas was joking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2019): They were obviously joking. A hug and a kiss was a bit-much, but all this ado about a briefcase?!!
Simple solution. Go purchase yourself a nice briefcase online. They're not that expensive. Don't go near his house, and stay faraway from your married-coworker.
Easy-peasy!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (20 October 2019):
 His mates could be winding you up, or they could know he has a crush on you. It doesn't really matter either way because, even if the latter is true, you would have more sense than to get involved with a married man, wouldn't you?
I have to agree with Aunty BimBim that there could be a whole host of reasons why he did not want you at his house. On top of all the ones she mentioned, perhaps, if he does have a crush on you, he just wanted to get you alone for a chat. I do wonder what he told his wife about you not turning up at the house, considering it was HER with whom you made the arrangement. Still, not important. He is married and there IS a wife. Be careful.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 October 2019):
 Could be any of many reasons, maybe the house is a bit run down, maybe his wife talks too much, maybe he is embarrassed about his address, maybe his drunk elderly dad lives with them and accosts any female visitors, maybe they have a big bitey dog, maybe the house stinks like cats, maybe the garden is a mess …..
The only person who knows for sure is him. How important is it for you to know the reason?
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