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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I realised my girlfriend has never really had much of an orgasm. She never expects one, and doesn’t really let me do much apart from normal sex until I cum. She is very passionate in making out etc. It’s got to a point I need to make her feel complete. Like I want to do more. Surely in 4 years if it hasn’t happened I need to introduce her to it. She experiences heightened sexual arousal and than it hurts her so usually asks me to finish. She can last around 15 mins. Is it normal? I feel like due to her low interest we are not doing it much. She has completely stopped giving head and seems to want sex if she knows I will ask. So I feel sorry for her so I don’t ask her. We are in love but just a tad lost on what to do. She is not kinky or into trying new things. I was happy with the basic but that’s lacking now.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 October 2019):
 "She is not kinky or into trying new things."
You will be very surprised to find out that she is, but maybe to afraid to express it to you. After all, you have exactly started her fire going right?
If you are relying on your penis alone to give her an orgasm, you will soon lose her. You have two hands, lips, a tongue, and an imagination for a reason. The penis should be used to finish off a woman, not to be the only tool used to give an orgasm.
A man's main pleasure zone is his penis. But a woman has several. If you know how to combine those, or how to master her favorite, oh you will see the kinky come out fast.
Spend less time using your little head, and spend more time inside her head learning what she needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2019): Sex and passion peaks, levels-off, and dips. Sometimes our sex-drives don't synchronize. Once in-awhile, our partners are unhappy with us; but aren't verbally-communicating to us what's on their minds.
Maybe she has assessed the relationship; and feels it's stagnant, and she feels it doesn't show any signs of going anywhere. while she's doing everything that is expected of a wife; with no signs that will ever happen in the near-future. If you've been together between 3-5 years; she's got something on her mind!
Sex even gets boring, routine, and predictable. Maybe not for you, perhaps it does for her.
She knows her body and what it needs. Try talking to her. Sometimes our mates only need gentle affection. Cuddling, massages, kisses, and caresses. Sometimes they enjoy extended-foreplay before penetration. It's also hard to tell your lover if their technique is a little awkward, or somewhat repetitious. When you're really horny, that's not much of a problem. When you need to be warmed-up, it might be!
I'm only speculating here, don't get upset!
You have no-way of knowing each and every-time she reaches orgasm. Some are intense, and some are quiet. Stop watching porn, it tends to raise unrealistic-expectations. It also turns-off your partner, if they're not into it; but only tolerate it because you are. She may not like making-love to you, if it mimics porn-sex. If she thinks your mind is on a porn video and not her, it ruins it for her. Some guys have to learn, all females don't dig the porn-thing!
If you're man enough to handle her answers. Ask her if there is anything wrong, or if there's something missing? Ask her if she is still happy with your relationship? Ask her if sex has become physically uncomfortable for her?
Stop guessing and open communication. Don't be afraid of what she may tell you.
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