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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met 2 gypuys round about the same time 2 months ago and having been seeing them both for the past 2 months. I haven't told either of them that I'm seeing someone else and i don't know if either of them are seeing anyone else.I can't quite decide between the 2 but feel guilty for seeing them both and feel like I need to let one go. Guy number 1 I get on better with but after our third date he wanted to take me home with him to spend the night whereas guy number 2 that hasn't even come up yet. He is happy just spending time getting to know me. I feel more of a connection with guy number 1 but have the thought at the back of my mind that he will easily take a girl home with him. Am I paranoid to think he is less likely to be faithful than guy number 2? I don't want to string either if them along but can't seem to choose guy number 1 because of that niggling thought. Are guys who don't wait to take a girl home more likely to cheat? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2014): I think you should trust your gut. Don't dump guy 2 for guy 1 yet if you feel he is not relationship material. Not sure if his rushed intimacy is a red flag for cheating or not, but it doesn't sound like he is as serious as the other guy about a real relationship, maybe he just wants friends with benefits.Of course, you can continue for a while to date both men, and see if your feelings change at all. So far neither of them have asked you to be exclusive with them right? Personally, I think you sound like you are a bit more comfortable with dating the 2nd guy, who is not asking to get physical right away, and it does sound like he would be a better bet for a long term relationship. But you are a bit more attracted to guy 1. Looks are temporary, but personality is forever.
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