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writes: Hey everyone My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and we do fight occasionally. Yesterday however i accidentally blurted out "Fine go play your games that seems so precious to you" and I really didn't mean to say that. It's video games. .. I got annoyed all of a sudden because whenever he plays, he starts swearing and it's really stressful. I know this because we skype while he plays and like we wouldn't be talking, it's just me listening to his swearing =.= Anyways, I feel really bad that I said those words, I think I just got like annoyed for a moment there because I actually really wanted to skype talk with him.. You could put it this way that I got a little like jealous??? Hmm I feel so bad, such a horrible thing to say if I say so myself :( How do I apologise to my boyfriend??? Some opinions and advice would be lovely :) thanks xx
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 October 2014):
 I think HE should be apologizing to you for minding his videogames while he is supposed to talk / skype with you his Gf !
I know that someone in your age range won't see it this way , but that's the height of rude and it's not Ok ,either with swearing or not.
If you are Skyping , obviously you aren't living together ( not that you would anyway, at 13-15 ) so you don't have the excuse that you are always together anyway and you can hang out informally, each one still doing his own thing.
He should make up his mind, either he gives his full attention to you, as a polite person would do with any other interlocutor, and MORE so with his Gf- OR he chooses to play his video games; that would probably mean less time spent together ( virtually ) but better quality of said time.
You can apologize for snapping at him , if you wish , and for having used unkind words - BUT you should also be open and upfront about your LEGITIMATE wants and needs, like for his courtesy and his full attention.
In other words , the form of your complaont might have been slightly weong, but the CONTENT of it was very right. And I am afraid that if you don't understand that ,and quick too , you'll only invite more shoddy and " whatever " treatment by men in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2014): I think just say it like you said it here. Say something like: I'm sorry for snapping at you, sometimes It's nice to talk on Skype with you when your not playing the video games because the swearing at the games stresses me out! I like hanging out with you when you are playing sometimes but occasionally it would be nice to chat without the distraction!
Just keep it light hearted. To be honest, he might not have taken too much offence to it. Little arguments happen :)
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