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51-59,
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writes:We met roughly 2 1/2 years ago. I do not know if I should let her go or persue her and just need some advice. Throughout- this time I think she was trying to hint at me she liked me but I never picked up on it. Actually my daughter did before me... Now what brought her into our life has passed. She helped me with the process and she would be at our house for 3-4 hrs and we talked like every two weeks. During the last visits she did not verbally tell me she liked me but she came on to me and we almost kissed before my little girl walked in. The last few times the attraction grew- I never physically acted on it... ( I wanted too) However, the fear I had held me at bay. You see - there is a bigger issue that involves my girl and even though what brought her into our lives is resolved a additional issue is there and she will be called in to talk about it.. My fear of her getting placed in harms way and ruining her career then in return her hating me because of that flooded my mind. I called one day and told her that it wasn't a matter of me liking or wanting something that I was worried and explained that what would she think of me if I didn't care enough to think of the consciousness, what would she think of me then.. I heard her say "I see" and the she said "I am not going anywhere".Because my daughter picked out a nice necklace we ordered it in.She came out and through-out this time told me at least 50 times to keep in contact. As well as we talked and she basically told me my daughter is like me brave and places others before herself. She also said that I made it very clear what I wanted - which I was scared that she wasn't getting it. When she left she hugged me and squeezed me and again said I mean it keep in contact with me. I emailed her the next day thanking her for coming and giving her and insight on what her necklace meant, and I thought it was fitting my daughter picked that choice.I waited about three weeks from that point and called her,I missed her so I left a voicemail saying I have been thinking about you. I have not got any responses... So now I miss her, I cared for her and now even though this big event could happen there is 70 % chance it wont and I am ready to move forward. Now I don't know If I should pursue her or let her be.. She got teary eyed on my card I gave her when she was last here and I wrote it like I care for you and I am doing what's best for you type deal because I was... I don't know if I hurt her and she needs space or she is just to busy ( she is in School now as before she wasn't) or like she is done move on type deal... Please help, I have never done any of this stuff and I am so lost.
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reader, UncleDaddy +, writes (13 October 2014):
 It's is better to regret something you did, and wish you hadn't, than something you wish you had, and now will never know what might have been.
If there was a real connection between you, undeniable, and you took the 'safe, sensible' route instead of doing what a lead character in a romantic love story would have done, then she feels so rejected by you that it may already be too late.
you probably did the right thing for the time, but that doesn't mean it is what a woman's romantic mind (and body) wanted you to do. Good luck. I say find a way to avoid the potential trouble, while doing something drastic, extreme, or outrageous to make it up to her neglected-feeling romantic imagination.
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