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writes:I have been modeling for an online lingerie site. I was approached by a porn site for nude modeling... The money they offered was amazing! I told them I would NEVER do photos with a man or another woman...Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew she had done nude modeling? Would that change your outlook on her?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (27 November 2012):
I had a friend who went through this very thing. He was also 100% ok with it, until he started caring about the girl. Then it wasnt ok anymore.
Personally, I wouldnt want nude pictures of my wife to be available to the entire world by nothing more than a few clicks of a mouse, so no, it wouldnt be for me either.
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reader, tim40g +, writes (26 November 2012):
Yes I would. A female that is proud of her body and will to show it is very romantic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): If we were dating, I would 100% be alright about it and wouldn't change my view of you. Also Since your honest about admitting it, I think it shows a ton of character, and that is rare these days. If the Dude isn't comfortable, he's not worth your time because he's self-conscious and is acting confident when he's actually weak.
BTW make a decision based on what you think not the opinion of others. You have to make yourself happy, because you have to live with self. You are never going to please everyone in the world, so you may as well please yourself.
If the guy can't handle you for who you are 100%, then go to the next on until you find a person that appreciates ya.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 March 2012):
For some people, it will clearly be an issue. There are a lot of men that just won't like the fact that you'll be seen by, well, any man or woman who happens to come across that pictures.
For others, it won't be an issue. For me, personally, I don't think it would be an issue because clearly the girl in the photo is totally different to the one in real life.
What you'll have to do, is be honest about your past (because it would be a major shock to a guy if he was, say, married to you and suddenly saw your picture on the internet) and then trust that the guy could see that you are different from the picture.
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reader, sparty the spartan +, writes (24 March 2012):
 it depends if the guy is an overly jealous guy then no he will not appreciate the art or modling even if its tasteful and not super dirty on the other hand he can be completely comfertable with you and yalls relationship and your body then he shouldnt mind but you have to find a guy who you care about that doesnt mind... i personally wouldnt mind as long as it wasnt more then her by herself and was tastefull i would be proud of it... all guys are differnt though
good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2012): I guess it depends on the tastefulness of the pics.
I don't think I could ever be with a full blown pornstar. I'm not too good for it but I am too morally different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): Hmmm. Most guys are saying they wouldn't date someone like that. If true, all the nude models and porn stars out there should be single. They are not, most have boyfriends and husbands. Even Wayne Gretzky's wife did Playboy.
So this won't affect whether you can date or not, but it will change the type of guys who will go out with you. If you want to date rock stars and movie producers, it shouldn't be a problem. But if you ever want someone more down to earth, who'd make a good dad someday, it may come back to haunt you.
If you want to pose nude, do it for the right reasons and in a legitimate artistic context. Don't do it just for money and for some sleazy porno site. Those pictures will be out there forever. If you ever change your mind about them, you can never take them back. Ask yourself if you'd be okay with your future children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews seeing them.
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reader, Mark_25_ +, writes (23 March 2012):
 Sorry, my girlfriends the shy, quiet and reserved type to most people, as am i. That makes our relationship far more special as we are the only two people that truly know everything about each other. I couldn't date someone the polar opposite of that, and the idea that anyone could see you naked, it just wouldn't be special to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): I would never date a girl who's body has been seen by lots whether she is paid or unpaid.
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reader, eek +, writes (23 March 2012):
 i did not bother me years ago so i would not worry about it if i was you.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 If a girl had posed nude for an art class? Most guys could deal with that. But photos for a porn site? That's a whole different animal. There's no control over how the photos could be used. The pic might be part of the banner ad for the site -- your image might become the 'brand' for that site (or any worse one later) that the guy who bought the copyright for the pics chooses. So a future b/f who has friends who surf porn might be told he's dating "the XXX.com chick".
Even if it doesn't escalate to having sex on camera, it's still very likely to be a game-changer, and for a very long time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 March 2012):
 I'm interpreting your submittal to actually be TWO questions.... one, about nude (fashion) modelling; and one about porn....
My "answer" is that the former is noble, rewarding, and makes no difference to me or any other guy..... Whilest the latter is far more complex, and has the potential of being unacceptable for many/most guys....
Your call....
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 Some men would have a problem with their girlfriend having done nude modelling. They wouldn't want every other friend or acquaintance of them to see them and secretly think "I know what Mary's breasts are like".
Some other men wouldn't mind. They would have no trouble with it, or else, if the girl in question were very pretty, they would make it a point to say "Hey, you losers: See what I've got. And this I got not only on my rugged good looks, you know? Or my wonderful, multidimensional personality! I have SOMETHING ELSE!"
For other people the question would be whether "nude modelling" was only "modelling", or if it involved "something else". And even in that case, some people wouldn't mind.
The chances are yours to take.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 March 2012):
 Many guys would not be OK with it or would find it an excuse to treat you badly.
Like Gabrielle said, once those photos are out there, they are out there and can't be taken back. Your friends, family, future employers, coworkers, etc... might see them. Several of my friends who have been in porn have gotten so paranoid about it that it impairs their ability to find a job.
This isn't just an issue of boyfriends, this could impact the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): I, and the majority of the guys I know, would not seriously date a woman who had worked for a porn site as a nude model. I'm sure the money is very impressive, but a decision like that does have lasting implications. You can't "undo" it.
Also, a word of caution. Many times girls are promised big money, but it doesn't always happen. Porn sites have been known to "trick" women into posing for nude photos or even being taped having sex with little to no money up front. Instead they're told that they'll get the money later, or that after this work they'll be able to land jobs that will pay more. So if you decide to go ahead and do this, please keep that in mind.
You're very young, OP. I don't personally feel being a lingerie model harms your desirability in any way. But I implore you, think long and hard before deciding to take it all off for a porn site! That's a life altering choice.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 March 2012):
 I think it should matter what men might think, but about your own limits. I think posing nude on porn websites is a bad idea, no matter how good the money are. Slippery slope there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): no i could not date her. it would be on my mind when i would think of her.it would be like she not only giving her self to me but every guy that would be lusting after her photos . sorry.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 March 2012):
 It would be a deal breaker for a lot of men, thought not all. Think very carefully about the consequences - these things are permanent. I've done porn in the past and while my own boyfriend does not have a problem with that (we are in a very open relationship), its still a source of some stress that my parents may find out.
Unless you are very sure you want to do it, don't. The money may not be worth it.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 That would be a deal breaker for most guys looking for a long term relationship. Also, its very dangerous territory that you're treading into. It always starts like this and before you know, the money offered will get even more "amazing" and you will be lured into porn. Never say never, I'm sure nude modelling wasn't in your scheme of things too, but now it is. You don't know where this could lead to, so please be careful. Money isn't everything, don't trade your soul for money
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): Definetly,
Whats wrong in doing nude modelling. Its a type of work, which is not bad as it seems to me. Honestly, if a man says no then why do they fantasize about nude women they see on net or article.
Love should hold no bars. Its how world will see you. Its how I will see you. For me, you should not be disgraced. Be confident, its your life. You did that and its not wrong. And try to find broadminded guy, who will understand you. But before proceeding further, you must tell this to your pal. If comes to know later, he will not respect you.
Definetely, you will find your soulmate, who will not care about these bulshit things. Best of luck.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (23 March 2012):
I think that for quite some guys it would be a deal breaker. Most people bear it all only for their significant other. The idea that everyone can see you naked could be a turn-off. And the step to actual porn isn't all that big. They get you to spend some time at your boundaries and before you know it they have shifted and they can push you a little further.
I bet that 5 years ago you didn't imagine yourself doing lingerie modeling either. And here you are...Don't underestimate this phenomenon. It's how many gals get caught up in the industry. It's subtle and it works.
A while ago we had a guy on DearCupid with a girlfriend who was also doing nude modeling. She got sucked into the industry more and more until she got asked to do an actual porn movie and she wanted to do it 'just this once' because they offered her a big sum of money. She didn't think she'd consider that before she started out either.
Personally, even though I am a girl, the nude modeling would be a step too far for me. I would lose respect for that person because they don't mind being displayed as a slab of meat just for money. It would also worry me about the future. You could become that girl I just described. So watch out for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): No, I wouldn't. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): I wouldn't necessarily mind if she always had something covering her breasts and down below. If it was full nudity on either of those body parts, I couldn't date her because everyone would have access to pictures of her body and it wouldn't be like her body was special to us.
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