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writes:This is going to sound ridiculous I am non white but my BF is a white supremacist, did time in prison, which is where he picked up the ideology. He wears a Thors pendant, follows asatru and all that. He thinks whites are superior to blacks, but agrees that other races (such as asians have their streghts as a race, mainly knowledge and intelligence). Anyway, I am an indian female...and I am now pregnant so clearly our child will be mixed. He claims to love me and our unborn baby, and from his actions it seems to be the case. So I am wondering if his views will get in the way of fatherhood? When the baby comes will he hate it?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (16 November 2012):
Funny how many "white supremacists" or "black power" people are really attracted to something other than what they are.Just an observation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): Hi, if he was racist why would he want to be with you and also have a baby?I am inclined to believe that he said and did things to fit in whilst in prison. I am sure when the baby comes he will welcome his child, assuming, this baby was planned and not some accident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): To the OP, do you think you can somehow get him to change his views? If he wasn't racist before jail, then he must have had a different "spirit" back then and perhaps he needs to find himself again. Unfortunately, prison can make people worse than before they went in. Have him watch the movie "American history X". Amazing movie about a white supremacist who changed in jail...for the better. Quite inspirational. Might make him think twice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): I don't know how long he was in prison for but it sounds as though it was short term if you were dating before he went inside? If so, it might be that this is a kind of fad, that was easy to join in with as a prisoner, but which it might be possible to break out of again now he's away from that crowd. I mean, hit deep seated is it really? I think you should talk to him about it and help him understand he's being illogical.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): The real question is...
Are you really comfortable w/having a baby raised by a man so full of hate for a color of skin?
You do know it will forever damage your child, such hate never shows love...never.
Just know if you stay w/this guy you will be putting your child and you in danger not just saying that man, but others he will be hanging with.
When they find out your not white & that your baby came from him. How do you think that will go???
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 November 2012):
 well he won't hate you or the baby but he will raise your child to hate you and your family and all other non-whites.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Yes, that does sound ridiculous. A white supremacist dating a non-white??? Um... ok. If he doesn't hate YOU, then he's not going to hate his baby, nor will his supposed views get in the way of his fatherhood. Children melt the hardest of hearts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): He knows im not white. When I said Indian, I meant South Asian, not Native. I'm quite dark skinned, and we got together before prison, so he wasn't a racist back then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): I don't know how things are in america but, does he know your full name? cause when the baby is born and you go register it he may find out anyway if you have an indian name...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 November 2012):
Does he know you are Indian? or are you "passing" as they call it?
I am a Jew and while I think I look Jewish folks are shocked when I tell them. IF you are not passing and he knows you are Indian, then you need to ask him "how can you not hate me when I'm not white" IF you are "passing" then you need to tell him. DO SO IN A PUBLIC place please. This is not something you want to do in private since the deception (and the fact that he's had SEX with a non-white who deceived him) may cause him to become violent. I worry for your safety and the safety of the baby.
I do not know how you deal with his hate of others...
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reader, DV1 +, writes (15 November 2012):
 You need to talk to him about this... Immediately...
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