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writes:I asked for advice here bout my sister in law cheating on brother and told him about it but i think that was a mistake because he is still with her and now she hates me and doesn't even answer the phone when i want to talk to my nephews.She has since made a new facebook and has made it private and if i'm visiting them i can tell she is giving me the satan look.Im i wrong for worrying about this so much,i mean seen pics of her holding hands with another guy on her job on his google account and it destroys me to see her treat my brother like a dog.Should i tell him about the holding hands picture.It seems like she doesn't care about my brother and nephews to be cheating in the open like that.This whole thing seems like it is killing my soul.What should i do now?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (14 March 2015):
 Your little nephews are not devastated because of you. They are devastated because of her. Don't ever take that on, because if she hadn't cheated on your brother, then none of this would be happening.
You ruined NOTHING. She burned her own family to the ground. You merely saved your brother from being lied to and cheated on every day.
Your nephews are loved. Just be there for them, and even though this is an awful time for them, they will be okay.
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reader, Kahless +, writes (14 March 2015):
Kahless is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI apologize that i don't know how to respond to individual comments but thanks this website is a blessing.
I visited to my brothers house today to see my nephews and they were arguing both calling each other names and angerly agree to be separated on the 28th now i feel like shit and i ruin my little nephews family whom i love.I cant really type because im crying because my little nephews wont have a mommy and daddy now because of me.
@Sageoldguy1465 my nephews are my life and the only thing i look forward to seeing,i have no life of my own but my family.
@YouWish i really hope im vindicated because i really feel like crap,i feel like i destroyed my nephews family by telling.Yes i love everything star trek original series tng,dsp,voyager and enterpise
@Notsohappy you right i felt bad when i didnt tell.My bro is treating me normal after i showed him the evidence but i asked him was he upset with me because i showed him that stuff and he kind of shouted NO
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (12 March 2015):
 Sometimes... when one tries to "save" someone from some third party.... they step in a large cake of bullshit... from which bullshit it is hard to emerge.... clean your shoes off... and go on, in life. "Sounds" like that's what you've got....
YOU CAN'T SAVE YOUR BROTHER FROM HIMSELF!!!!! IF'n his wife is cheating on him... that IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. From your submittal... we now know that S-i-L is on solid ground... and YOU, Dear Girl, are an unwanted interloper in to their marital goings-on....
Step back... take a deep breath... and say to yourself.. "so, I can't "save" my young brother.... guess I'll just forget about that, and get on with MY OWN life."
Good luck...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 March 2015):
She is not worth your worry about whether or not she likes you. You caught her, and you did the right and loyal thing by telling your brother. If anything, your BROTHER is the bonehead who is in denial about what kind of person your SIL is.
If she gives you the "satan" look, give it right back to her. She is the one who hurt your family. She's the one who's making your brother look like a fool!
Don't let it kill your soul. You didn't do anything wrong. Eventually, even the best denial will fail, and you *will* end up being completely vindicated. That's the day that your family, especially your brother, will thank you. You're a good brother.
By the way, are you a Star Trek TNG fan?
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