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writes:Theres a bar i go in and each time ive gone theres a young guy who works there always chats to us, this week he had more time to chat and got quite flirty. He told me how old he was i was shocked he was as young as he was id like something to happen but dont know how to go about it i know he is single as am i. He always goes out of his way to serve us if nothing happens how can i get these thoughts and feelings out of my head
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reader, Keeley345 +, writes (23 March 2015):
As long as he's 16 and over...lol I say that because you did'nt mention roughly how old he might be. i'm around your age hun and have younger men chatting me up all the time. We're not too old or too young at the moment so younger guys are interested. But I like em older...lol Much older!
If you like this guy, go for it. Being the more sexy and mature lady that i'm sure you are, you can get him no problem. Just ask him out. Make sure you go in there looking hot and ask him out. Don't over think it. He may have just been flirting for fun but if your instinct says it's more than just fun for him, go for it!
If nothing happens, find the next fit younger man. They're are plenty out there. What have you got to lose?
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reader, mfj78 +, writes (16 March 2015):
Yes here in the UK the legal age for bar work is 18 and 16 year olds can collect glasses. (im 37 and a bit so I get to do both)
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2015): Anyone noticed shes in the uk . You have to be 18 to work in a bar. Id say go have some fun as long as you both agree to it.with a possible age gap from 18 (if he is) to 30/35 thats 12-17 years i wouldnt expect a relationship .enjoy you only live once
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 March 2015):
 Bartenders are paid to be flirty and they do it to get more tips.
If he's over 21 then all's fair in love and war... if you want to get to know him, ask!
Personally I think every 35 yr old woman should be given an 18 yr old for her birthday to break him in the right way...
my husband is currently 14 yrs younger than I am. In June he will go back to being 13 yrs younger...
younger men are not a crime if they are over 21...
but just go for the fun and games... do not expect permanence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2015): If he works at a bar he should be age 21 and above. No harm in chit chat and flirting.
I personally doubt it will lead to much.. at most a one night stand or FWB. I think he's being 'extra nice' to get more business and tips.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 March 2015):
 Is there a problem here??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2015): When I was 30 I got asked out by this guy not knowing his age. At dinner he revealed to me that he was 18! I was so embarrassed as I had no clue. As weird as I initially thought it was, we ended up hanging several more times. What can I say, he was fun. And he did not look his age.
I had a good time with him. We obviously were never going to marry but the time we spent together was worth it.
So, who cares? If you like him, why not?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 March 2015):
 Just HOW young is he?
And having BEEN a bartender myself, I know how common it is to flirt and pay extra attention to return costumers. It's good business. If the customer is attractive it's always a bonus.
If he is over 21 I don't see the big deal, unless you are looking for a full blown relationship, because if he is 21, he is not looking or wanting the same things as you do at 35+
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