How do you know what a guys actually feeling when they say one thing, then do another?
Q. Hi guys! I've been dating this guy for about a year now and I feel like I'm always the one to initate doing things, not that I'm crazy for it, I just feel sex brings us closer and fixes any problems in our relationship and I love him. We'll talk ...
A. 9 June 2011: Men in general are not alway expressive with their feelings and words.
As CaringGuy mentioned, focus on their actions.
What a man CONSISTENTLY does is so much better than any words he could tell me.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
B/f asked for a threesome but now he wants one every weekend!
Q. i have been in a relationship for 7 years and my boyfriend asked if we can have a threesome i said ok but now he just wants a threesome every weekend. he says it really turns him on seeing me with someone else but to be honest i am not into it and ...
A. 9 June 2011: It sounds like you gave into a threesome fantasy as a "once in a lifetime" or "special occasion" arrangement?
Look him in the eye and tell him YOU do not want it every weekend and you are not his personal sex vending machine.
Tell him you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher of my feelings or just leave quietly?
Q. I am 14 and wondering whether my teacher likes me too. I mean, I like him too and it has been 2 years. I don't know if I am misunderstanding the signs because I also have feelings for him. I think he is in his late 20s. He is so nice to me (and ...
A. 9 June 2011: Deal with the facts here.
You are 14. He is in his 20's.
He is YOUR TEACHER.
Any outside of the teacher/student relationship is inappropriate. The converstations you mentioned are inappropriate.
I believe you are misunderstanding his... (read in full...)
What should I do to get over her, or to get her back?
Q. Okay, so I am 16 years old. I have been through a lot recently and I need to know how to get over this girl. Me and her were dating for 1 month, we knew each and were talking for about 3 months. In that time she became my world, I cared about her so ...
A. 9 June 2011: That is the difference between infatuation and love.
With love, you can not HELP but go on about a person and exactly why they mean so much to you. None of the reasons will be superficial or self-centered.
Superficial/Self Centered
"She... (read in full...)
I'm not strong enough to get over her!
Q. I think you're all going to be sick of me by now :p Still, I'm really struggling to get over a girl atm, she's the one from my previous questions and I thought I'd managed to forget about her last week and finally found myself back on the mend...
A. 9 June 2011: Yes, you ARE strong enough to get through this.
You are just NEW at this.
It takes time to break old habits and develop new ones. Go spend time with your freinds, your hobbies. CHANGE where you hang out for a little while. Occupy your mind... (read in full...)
Is it normal to search the Internet for sexual content in my spare time?
Q. Is it normal if i have the tendency to search for sexual contents in the internet whenever I have spare time? I want to stop, as what I read or see keep popping out in my mind during my daily activities, but I just can't stop my "addiction". What to ...
A. 9 June 2011: Is it curiosity OR a true addiction. A true addiction will interfere with your daily living. You will put your addiction before your family, freinds, school, etc.
If your curious research is stopping you from ENJOYING the rest of your life, th... (read in full...)
Why do girls string guys along?
Q. Girls, why (or why not) would you string a guy along, long after you've been broken up and while in a relationship?...
A. 9 June 2011: Both genders do it and in all age groups. Usually it happens with a person who can not be satisfied with what they have. They are afraid that the person they are with is as good as they will get, but they do not want to give them up until somet... (read in full...)
No Sex - is he cheating?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for six months now. He is 25 and we have never had sex. What are the chances that he is cheating?...
A. 9 June 2011: Do you have any OTHER suspicions why he might be cheating?
Not having sex is not enough of a reason.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
Why do I get sexually stimulated so quickly whenever I make out with my bf?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and it's only been the last 4 months we've been sexually active. We've done everything but sex; masturbating each other, oral (inc. 69er). I just seem to get so horny as soon as we get in, h...
A. 8 June 2011: Because you are young and your hormones are responsing naturally to something that is sexually stimulating.
You are designed to become excited and want to procreate.
But, because you have a heart and mind, you can decide and make wise choice... (read in full...)
My gf is always so quiet and I have to be the one to initiatve conversation. Is there something wrong in our relationship?
Q. My girl friend doesn't talk so often. It is me always required to talk. If I'm silent then we are silent. Even when I invite her to talk things go bad. What should I do to make her communicative. Or is there any problem in our relationship?...
A. 8 June 2011: You can not make anyone talk to you. Have you told her that you wish the two of you had better conversations?
Do you ask questions that can only possibly end in yes or no or simple answers?
Do you talk about things that interest HER or ... (read in full...)
How can I make this playboy fall for me?
Q. How to make playboy fall in love with you? I love my friend. I am 16 he is 23.He is a playboy, he sleep with any girl. He told me that. But I still love him. He said that he can just keep a sexual relation with me. He cares for me.He is not forcing ...
A. 8 June 2011: This man is seducing you for his own needs. He is making clear he is not offering a relationship or love. He wants your body. That's it. There is nothing you can do. There is an old story about a snake that approached a young boy and asked... (read in full...)
Am I safe from getting pregnant with a pill and if my bf wears a condom?
Q. I'm so scared about having sex that it's stopping me. I want to have sex with my boyfriend but my fear of pregnancy puts me off. I'm on the pill, we'd use a condom and i even said to him i might tell him to pull out early just to clear worries ...
A. 8 June 2011: Keep in mind that there are ONLY ONE 100% effective method of birthcontrol. Abstinence.
However, using a combination of birth control, used properly, will increase your protection. The best person to talk about it with is your Doctor.
Best... (read in full...)
I just found out my husband had an affair with my friend 3 years ago. What do I do now??
Q. I just found out that three years ago my husband had an affair with a good friend of mine at the time. Back when it happened I had intercepted text messages between the two and confronted him about it at that point. He had admittedly said it was ...
A. 8 June 2011: He finally broke down and told me that yes he did in fact have an affair and that it lasted 3 months and it was physical. He swears however they did not sleep together.
Did he tell you WHAT got physical?
Was this just an emotional affair?
... (read in full...)
What should I do? My marriage is falling apart.
Q. Married 45 yrs-I can`t do anything right for wife anymore..No sexual relations now for 2 years--I`m not interested !! We constantly argue over unimportant things. I've tried very hard to keep the marriage going but I`m losing any motivation to go on...
A. 8 June 2011: Have you tried or suggested marriage counseling?
Does SHE want sex and you dont?
Have you grown apart? Are you interested in her at ALL as a person and wanting to grow back together?
What are YOU willing to do to work on improoving your ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my stingy boyfriend? We are to be married.
Q. Hi all, my bf and i have been dating consistently for 4 years now. I'm just a bit concerned and scared that he might be stingy. I'm not been ungrateful or whatsoever, but i really need to set things right before we get married. He hardly assists me ...
A. 8 June 2011: I give all engaged couples the same advice.
Everything you LOVE about your bf...cut that in 1/2.
Everything you DISLIKE about your bf...double that.
That is generally what it is like to be married in a few years.
Now is the time for you... (read in full...)
I had a distrurbing dream. What could it mean?
Q. Even though this isn't a relationship question, I would like to know if anyone knowledgeable is willing to help me interpret a very vivid dream I had recently. I dreamed that I saw two formidable looking snakes. I was standing by my front door an...
A. 8 June 2011: Google online for DREAM INTERPRETATON. Dreams often represent our waking fears. Research some Dream Interpreting websites for further insight.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
My BF gave a girl a wedgie and I got upset. Was I wrong?
Q. Is it ok for me to get upset that my boyfriend gave 1 of his friends that are girls a wedgie? I know its sounds kinda stupid but i don't like that he put his hands down her pants an touched her underwear and pulled em up?...
A. 8 June 2011: It was a prank. Immature, but a prank.
Can you say WHY you are upset by this?
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I believe I am doing the right thing, but would like reassurance.
Q. Hello everyone, I recently posted a problem about how the internet conversations with this boy I met briefly were getting a little serious, and how I was confused being only 15 and getting myself into a silly situation without realizing it. An...
A. 8 June 2011: You sound like a really wise girl not to do something you know you are not ready for! Well done.
Pat yourself on the back and do not give your future away. Your future is for YOU first and THEN you invite someone worthy into it later!
Best Wi... (read in full...)
How can I ask my girlfriend to remove the unattractive hair on her forearm?
Q. How can I tell my girlfriend that I don't like the hair on her forearm. Is it too much to ask or inappropriate to request removing it?...
A. 8 June 2011: Be willing to do something for her as well!
Keep in mind..its JUST HAIR. You accepted her for it before she became you gf!
I made a deal with an ex who asked me to get a Brazillian.
I said "Sure, but you first".
He stopped asking:)... (read in full...)
My ex-gf told me she just wanted to be friends, and then got mad when I kissed another girl!!
Q. SO after my girlfriend not knowing what she has wanted for a month and taking a break with me she hates me now. Last Friday we were at a bar and she came up to me and told me she didn't want a relationship and she wanted to be just friends. My heart ...
A. 8 June 2011: That girl needs to get over herself. You reacted based on what she TOLD you and you did not even KISS the girl.
You are not a cheater, but you are aplogizing to a Drama Queen. By any chance was SHE drinking when she told you that she was done... (read in full...)
Bf broke up with me, and then says he'll take me back...but only in 2 years?! What's THAT about?
Q. Hey.. I really need help.. I have been with this guy for 6 and a half months, we decided to have sex for the first time, and we did it a couple of times, then this one Sunday we did it and we were happily in love then on Monday he broke up with me....
A. 8 June 2011: He is a young BOY who does not know what he wants.
Love doesnt show up on Sunday and leave on Monday.
While this is a very hurtful and painful experience, you need to take care of YOU.
Who knows where or WHO you will be in two years. You ar... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to break up with a friend because you find their way of life offensive?
Q. It seems like to be a good friend means to be supportive. And we are all told we should not be judgemental. But what happens if a friend has habits you find offensive and which go against your value system? Are you a terrible person if you want to ...
A. 8 June 2011: I cut off a 4 year freindship with someone I viewed as a very close freind for this very reason.
In my situation, she was telling the man she was with that she loved him, wanted to marry him, have babies, with him etc. She told ME a differen... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but says he loves me, should I believe his words?
Q. I have been with a guy for 6 months now. When we met, it was supposed to be a one time sex thing. But we fell in love. I knew he had a girlfriend, she is 20 yrs younger than him. We recently had a talk about "us" and he begged me to stay with him ...
A. 8 June 2011: Imagine that he is telling HER the same thing too.
Now how do you feel?
He is forgetting to add some words to tell you both.
"But you are not enough for me, so I have someone else too."
He is one of those monkeys that needs a vine in one... (read in full...)
Husband of 15 years has just left me!
Q. Hi guys, I have just been left by my husband of 15 years and I have 3 kids with him. I am not coping very well, how am I going to get over him? Please, help me somebody! ...
A. 8 June 2011: First things first. BIG HUGS. Take a deep breath. The BEST thing to do, is first call trusted family or friends and let them know what is going on in your life and you need some emotional support (hands on preferably). Next-Get into so... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to have sex with other men saying that it's just sex
Q. Hello guys ... So, to start off directly, my boyfriend kind of asked for permission to cheat on me, if you can then still call it cheating ... and gave me this permission, too, which doesn't really interest me since I could never do this... Th...
A. 8 June 2011: You already answered your own question dear. You already shouted a big, BLARING NOOOOOOOOOOOoo with the following statements. *you are TRYING to rationalize it. *you are frustrated *you are hurt *you are sad The gender of the person d... (read in full...)
I still miss my ex and I am supposed to be meeting my new LDR boyfriend soon!
Q. It’s been 9 months and i still miss my long distance boyfriend… .i miss everything we had..i miss how it used to be..how he was my best friend and love in the same person..i miss the emotional closeness we had, i miss the care and understanding..i...
A. 8 June 2011: Sounds like you are not ready to start a new relationship. You still have unresolved feelings with the former. There are pitfalls and peaks with ANY relationship, but you increase the pitfalls with a LDR. Personally, I think there are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not know how to comfort me?
Q. I love spending time with my boyfriend, and when I'm in a good mood (which I usually am) I am very happy with him. Lately however, I've been really stressed, sick, and having a lot of depressed/feeling down issues. I've told him I find it hard to ...
A. 7 June 2011: Examine your expectations of him. What do you expect him to do? Be specific and write it down Since the relationship is LD, there is only so much he can do. He probably TRUSTS you to open up to him if you need to, but you seem like you are look... (read in full...)
We spend a lot of time with another married couple and I'm falling for the other husband.....what should I do now?
Q. I am married with 2 kids. The past year we met another married couple and have really hit it off with them and been partying most every weekend together. Well the other husband was very flirty with me in the beginning, sometimes hugging me a bit too ...
A. 7 June 2011: Simple answer. Stop spending time alone with them.
When you go on a diet for your health do you keep sitting in front of a cake and hoping you will not be tempted?
Stop being delusional that these people are "just freinds". You are ALLOWING... (read in full...)
I like this guy at school but he's flirting with another girl! Help!
Q. Recently i moved from a small girls school in ireland to a big coed school in england and they got a guy and a girl to show me around. The guy was really nice and sweet and kind of geeky (let's call him A)but I asked my new friends and they all ...
A. 7 June 2011: Do nothing. He is interested in someone else.
Enjoy your freindship. If he is interested in you, he will approach you.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
He hasn't texted me since Sunday night and this bugs me! What should I do?
Q. Im not sure what to do here The guy, im kinda seeing has stopped talking to me hasnt texted me since sunday night, and its been bugging me Ive texted him 3 times and rang him twice and no reply to both I now i havent done anything wrong her...
A. 7 June 2011: Let it go.
You are "kinda" seeing him, he isnt your boyfreind.
You already texted back and rang him. No response means no interest.
Chances are you did not DO anything wrong dear, it is just not a lovematch.
Put the phone down, go take a... (read in full...)
I blush too much...how can I get rid of it?
Q. Can any 1 please help me. i cant stop blushing when any cute guy looks at me or talks to me!!! Its a real problem how can i get rid of it..?...
A. 7 June 2011: Some people find that quality sweet in a person.
Blushing comes from embarrassment. Address what you are embarrassed about and work on your confidence!
Best WIshes.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when women rub their breasts on men, when talking?
Q. Why do some women press and rub their breasts into you when they talk to you? This seems to happen frequently, especially when going to bars and parties with friends. These are happily married women. Actually, the single women I know do not do ...
A. 7 June 2011: First, ALL women are different. It is best not to paint all women with the same brush!
One woman might be flirting with you, another might just have a big bosom and can not help it due to the positioning of her body. They are right in front of... (read in full...)
She says she is over this crush...but how do I know that she's telling the truth?
Q. My girlfriend had a major crush on a client of hers. I found out about it and confronted her. She says that she does think he is attractive, but she is over it now - especially after seeing how it hurt me so much. He is very important to her...
A. 7 June 2011: Does either one of you have a history of cheating?
Has she ever ACTED on her feelings to her crush?
Do you trust her?
Unless she has a history of cheating in her past, you are being paranoid. Is this worth getting counseling over? No, bec... (read in full...)
Should I let him move in with the hope that we will get married in a year or so?
Q. Hey Cupids! So, my bf and I have been together for 5 years now and he's thinking of moving in with me. I'd love to get married cos I love the guy and I think living together is just not enough of a commitment. He says he doesn't believe in marriage ...
A. 7 June 2011: You already have a clear answer from the man regarding how he feels about marriage.
He says he doesn't believe in marriage
Are you hoping that living together will magically make him think marriage is a good idea? Not likely dear.
It soun... (read in full...)
Can a man really be too sore for some "morning loving" after an evening of sex?
Q. So last night me and my boyfriend (together a few months) had a date, came back to mine ended up in bed and had some really great sex. Super! This morning when we woke up I was still feeling horny and started nuzzling in, stroking him and being af...
A. 7 June 2011: Honeypie had a point. "Morning Wood" is not a surefire sign he is ready and willing to go.
Sometimes the answer is NO darling. Deal with it. He is not your Sex Vending Machine.
... (read in full...)
As an American woman, is it possible for me to find a Mexican man to marry?
Q. I`m feeling blue and I don't see how I can ever be happy. I don't want to date or marry someone just to be dating or marrying someone, I want to share my life with someone I really love. Being lonely is horrible but I won't settle for someone I ...
A. 7 June 2011: You identify more with the Latin cultures. No harm in that!
Depending on where you live, are their groups you are associated with, families you know, church you attend, etc.?
Look at all your social groups. Tell trusted freinds that you... (read in full...)
Which is worse, her cheating or my looking at her email?
Q. Long story short, girl I was seeing I found out was having sexy liaisons on the Internet with a couple of guys she knows. They didn't have sex or were intimate (I don't think, anyway) but exchanged a bunch of messages like "I miss you" or computer ...
A. 7 June 2011: I am guilty of checking my now ex-hubs email, only to find out he was cheating on me. He used the same "reasoning" that I invaded his privacy. We both had access to each others email accounts, so there was no cracking the case here. There wer... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here?
Q. Ok. I'm 33 years old. I've spent the last couple years either working at my job, working on rebuilding a foreclosed home I purchased, or trying to find a GF. I wasn't spending a large amount of time on actually making friends. One thing I learned ...
A. 7 June 2011: Since you live in the states, try an online group called MEETUP.COM and look for social groups in your area with your interests/age group/singles.
I recommended this to a good freind of mine and he is busy all the time making new freinds!... (read in full...)
I feel like I have failed as a parent, please help!
Q. I am a mother of a 14 year old daughter that persists on having sex with older boys/men. She's already admitted to having sex with a 27 year old and now she's aiming at 17 year old's. At the beginning of April 2011 she went off with someone from ...
A. 7 June 2011: I live here in the US and the laws are a bit different here. I am the Mother of a 13yr old daughter and I know what I would do if this were my situation. First, I would be filing charges against the men. Our laws prosecute boys/men over the... (read in full...)
Suffering from performance issues and low self-esteem...
Q. I'm a 22 year old male from TX. I've had relationships with women in the past, but never went past kissing, as pathetic as that sounds. People are trying to break me and say I'm gay. I admit, I am aware I do have an attraction for men, but I can't ...
A. 7 June 2011: Your health is important (mental and physical). If you do not have insurance at the moment, you may want to seek out any government subsidized health programs in your state that help low income citizens.
From what you described, you would be... (read in full...)
We're in a finite relationship due to our age gap, what should I do?
Q. hi, i'm 18 and live in the uk. I have been in a relationship with a man who is now 50 for two years. My question is regarding what to do because we're in a finite relationship due to our age differences yet i have really fallen for him and he has ...
A. 7 June 2011: Being loved and accepted by someone is a wonderful thing.
Hearing "I love you" from someone you care about is lovely.
Regardless, that does not make an appropriate relationship.
Im sorry, I find your age gap to be too large. You both need... (read in full...)
What should I do to get over her, or to get her back?
Q. Okay, so I am 16 years old. I have been through a lot recently and I need to know how to get over this girl. Me and her were dating for 1 month, we knew each and were talking for about 3 months. In that time she became my world, I cared about her so ...
A. 6 June 2011: Feel like getting arrested again? Her parents want you out of her life. She plays with your feelings.
You want her because........???
Finish this sentence. What I really miss about her is.....
Whatever those reasons are..are they wo... (read in full...)
Suffering from performance issues and low self-esteem...
Q. I'm a 22 year old male from TX. I've had relationships with women in the past, but never went past kissing, as pathetic as that sounds. People are trying to break me and say I'm gay. I admit, I am aware I do have an attraction for men, but I can't ...
A. 6 June 2011: From a medical perspective-depression will add to your low sex drive. As you mentioned, you do not have insurance right now, but when you can it would benefit you to get your hormones tested. You might have very low testosterone,whi... (read in full...)
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