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writes:Hey.. I really need help..I have been with this guy for 6 and a half months, we decided to have sex for the first time, and we did it a couple of times, then this one Sunday we did it and we were happily in love then on Monday he broke up with me. He had other reasons to but my friend thinks maybe the other reasons were an excuse from something else. Ok I have this guy friend that he doesn't like that much and i went to the movies with him.. he got mad and he said thats why he broke up with me.. but i dunno, Then he said he wants me back but only in 2 years? or a little bit less.. whats that about.. I really dont know whats going on and I am so confused please help..3 XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Hi sweetie, please consider your age and be aware it is really very young to have sex, especially without knowing what the other person had in mind before hand.
I imagine he is struggling with his own emotions about having sex. Perhaps you can suggest seeing a councellor together for young people who can give you a bit of guidance, it would be a shame if this ends up in an unnessary mess - which could be sorted out with help of a trained adult - and make you both feel much much better:)
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reader, Julie29  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 The bets thing for you to do is to concentrate on your own life in find somebody else this guy isn't going to date you again he sounds really pathetic actually.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Well you have several options as to why he did and said what he did.
1. He got what he wanted from you (sex) and the whole 2 years is just bull.
2. He going overseas for work/school - 2 years.
3. He is joing the military.
4. He is serving a prison sentance (2 years).
Either way, I would tell him to stick his 2 years and forget about him.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 June 2011):
 He is a young BOY who does not know what he wants.
Love doesnt show up on Sunday and leave on Monday.
While this is a very hurtful and painful experience, you need to take care of YOU.
Who knows where or WHO you will be in two years. You are young and have a lot of living to do! Heal and date again and next time, date someone who shows more maturity.
Best Wishes.
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reader, OldTimer Soon  +, writes (8 June 2011):
OK,
If i asked if your BF still makes "physical" contact with you then mystery solved. You are being used.
No man leaves a woman he cares about where other men can get around. He cares little about you and disrespects you with 2 year drivel -- and YOU BELIEVE HIM?
I knew a nice Lady with a child. Met a Dentist. Romance for 3 months, then he moved to town 170 miles away. Kept ownership in a pizza restaurant so needed to come to her town once every 5-6 weeks.
Told her he loved her and Son -- Wanted to Marry but wanted to build his new practice (in a tourist lake town) She wanted to move with him, even stay in her own apartment but NO he wanted her to stay near her friends and family. She allowed the relationship to continue for over 2 more years. She dated no-one and he saw her for 2-3 days every 6 weeks or so. Sold his interest in Pizza place and bingo -- no more communication -- he was gone. The Rooster does not leave his special hen alone for long --- too many other Roosters around! She was and is still (14 years later) so bitter that her Son is out of college and she has never dated much and will probably die alone sadly. Life WILL abuse you if you let it!
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