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writes:My girl friend doesn't talk so often. It is me always required to talk. If I'm silent then we are silent. Even when I invite her to talk things go bad. What should I do to make her communicative. Or is there any problem in our relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Some people are very quiet and live a bit in there inner world - or just respond differently in different situations.
If she is quiet with everyone then it is nothing you are doing, if she is just quiet with you, maybe she is just trying not to 'ruin' it?
Try some communicative activities on a 'quiet' day like card games, board games and things like that that require eye contact and some interaction.
Make sure that you sit opposite her if you are eating together, so you can see each other.
Ask her about her day and let her talk.
Ask her about things that interest her and spark a reaction, if she likes sports, or reading or...ask her how it's going.
There is always an interest that will get people talking.
It would be a shame not to try - sometimes the quiet types are the best ones!
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 You can not make anyone talk to you. Have you told her that you wish the two of you had better conversations?
Do you ask questions that can only possibly end in yes or no or simple answers?
Do you talk about things that interest HER or only yourself?
If she is shy, she may always be shy and you might have to be the one to start converstations, but if you show more care for her as a person and what SHE thinks and that her thoughts matter, you may find her opening up to chat with you more.
Best Wishes.
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