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writes:I think you're all going to be sick of me by now :pStill, I'm really struggling to get over a girl atm, she's the one from my previous questions and I thought I'd managed to forget about her last week and finally found myself back on the mend.This week has been different, I can't stop thinking about her, I'm dying to talk to her and can't stop thinking about being with her and spending time with her (we had sex quite a lot over a 2 month or so period which obviously didn't help things - and I know they say its much harder to get over your first 'love', which this is in my case) I haven't spoken to her since I think it was saturday (the situation was the same last week and she sent me a message asking if I was going out on friday night - I made a light joke about her not speaking to me much lately), now there's plenty of times we could of spoke on blackberry messenger or facebook but I've stopped myself and just try to keep my mind occupied with other things but no matter what I do it just doesn't work....she is all I can think of, I literally cannot clear my mind, can't even dream of things at night beside her.I wanted to at least stay friends with her after I told her how I feel and that she doesn't want a bf, but even that doesn't seem like an option anymore because we speak about once a week, if that. This is after we'd speak to each other for hours on end per night (I'd stay up till like 3am talking to her and not be bothered about work the next day) and we used to see each other like 3 times a week....It hasn't been just me and her together for over a month now, but I've seen her out and hung out with her and other people at the same time.I usually see her out at the local on a friday night.....my friend told me last we when I was pretty hammered that she was stood beside me, staring at me and when I turned around, she quickly looked away as if she hadn't noticed me.....she just gives all kind of mixed signals off and I'm trying my best to ignore and forget her but I don't seem to be strong enough to forget about her, I'm at my wits end now and its starting to become a very serious issue as I'm getting very stressed out over it.I'm sorry that I've asked about this one girl so many times but I'm struggling so so much to get over her and move on with my life :(
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Yes, you ARE strong enough to get through this.
You are just NEW at this.
It takes time to break old habits and develop new ones. Go spend time with your freinds, your hobbies. CHANGE where you hang out for a little while. Occupy your mind with OTHER distractions.
Throw yourself into your work and hobbies. Date other people just for FUN (not a relationship). Learn a new skill
You can not MOVE ON if you do not MOVE.
Best Wishes
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