What should I do to get over her, or to get her back?
Q. Okay, so I am 16 years old. I have been through a lot recently and I need to know how to get over this girl. Me and her were dating for 1 month, we knew each and were talking for about 3 months. In that time she became my world, I cared about her so ...
A. 9 June 2011: That is the difference between infatuation and love.
With love, you can not HELP but go on about a person and exactly why they mean so much to you. None of the reasons will be superficial or self-centered.
Superficial/Self Centered
"She... (read in full...)
Suffering from performance issues and low self-esteem...
Q. I'm a 22 year old male from TX. I've had relationships with women in the past, but never went past kissing, as pathetic as that sounds. People are trying to break me and say I'm gay. I admit, I am aware I do have an attraction for men, but I can't ...
A. 7 June 2011: Your health is important (mental and physical). If you do not have insurance at the moment, you may want to seek out any government subsidized health programs in your state that help low income citizens.
From what you described, you would be... (read in full...)
We're in a finite relationship due to our age gap, what should I do?
Q. hi, i'm 18 and live in the uk. I have been in a relationship with a man who is now 50 for two years. My question is regarding what to do because we're in a finite relationship due to our age differences yet i have really fallen for him and he has ...
A. 7 June 2011: Being loved and accepted by someone is a wonderful thing.
Hearing "I love you" from someone you care about is lovely.
Regardless, that does not make an appropriate relationship.
Im sorry, I find your age gap to be too large. You both need... (read in full...)
I get frustrating waiting for my LDR guy to sign in. Am I being too needy or is my attitude reasonable?
Q. I am in a LDR My boyfriend spends a lot of time doing things online, like reading articles, playing games, etc. etc I am fine with that, but it bothers me that I know he's online the whole time but usually doesnt sign in till the evening, at a specif...
A. 7 June 2011: Additional thoughts: Since you asked if you are being too needy... YES. He isnt obligated to have his free time totally open you while he is sitting at the computer. If the time he makes himself available isnt working best for you-lo... (read in full...)
What is an orgasm? And how do I achieve one?
Q. what do i do to experience an orgasm, i would like a clear defination of what orgasm really is. pls help me...
A. 6 June 2011: Medically speaking, an orgasm is the result of stimulation of the sensitive nerve bundles in the genatalia.
This can result result in muscular spasms in the body and ejaculation where fluids are released. The ejaculation can happen in a man or w... (read in full...)
What should I do to get over her, or to get her back?
Q. Okay, so I am 16 years old. I have been through a lot recently and I need to know how to get over this girl. Me and her were dating for 1 month, we knew each and were talking for about 3 months. In that time she became my world, I cared about her so ...
A. 6 June 2011: Feel like getting arrested again? Her parents want you out of her life. She plays with your feelings.
You want her because........???
Finish this sentence. What I really miss about her is.....
Whatever those reasons are..are they wo... (read in full...)
Why is the woman to blame for an affair?
Q. Can everyone tell me why it is that the woman often gets all the blame when she has an affair with a married man? People tend to look down on the woman and in the end her reputation is ruined and she is called all kinds of names etc. But the guy who ...
A. 6 June 2011: I think women can get the blame depending on the circumstances and the culture. Some cultures practically expect a man to have another woman outside of marriage and yet the woman he selects is viewed as the whore.
I have frequently seen the fing... (read in full...)
How can I fall back in love with my husband?
Q. Okay, so I’ve been married for two years, we’ve been together for nearly six. He’s a great guy – he really loves me and I know it. He’s about to turn 29, I’m about to turn 25. Here’s the issue… We used to have a problem with him going out and ho...
A. 6 June 2011: Thoughts to add...you mentioned he was hooking up with GUYS off Craigslist. Am I reading this right? Was he having sex with men?
I agree with Honeypie, you need to get yourself into some counseling and sort out your feelings. You sound like you... (read in full...)
Not sure when to tell my son or ex about new engagement
Q. I'm not sure what to do here...I am divorced and recently got engaged to a new partner who is my soul mate. I have a teenage son who was introduced to her about 4 months ago. He likes her, but had a somewhat rough time dealing with the divorce and ...
A. 6 June 2011: The truth comes out whether you want it to or not. Would you rather it come from you or someone else? Several things to consider here. 1-How long have you been divorced? That is a huge change and he needs to process all his feelings. 2-H... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is bored of having sex with me - any suggestions?
Q. Hi there. Me and my bf love each other and we still have regular sex - about twice a week. We have been togther 17 months. We used to have sex A LOT, we were always at it and we have been quite kinky together too, experimenting with role palying and ...
A. 6 June 2011: It is normal to have a "honeymoon period" when you have a new relationship. You just can not get enough of each other and want to try EVERYTHING. In 17 mos, you still have sex 2x a week, which sounds pretty normal and healthy. (According to mo... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a man to love multiple woman the same way?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 10 months and we are in a long distance relationship. After two months dating he left for overseas. Before he left I saw emails between him and two other girls. Supposedly they use to date. I questioned it and he said it means ...
A. 6 June 2011: Okay, I see BIG giant red flags of trouble. The real question is not if HE can love multiple women, but if YOU can love a man who cheats? It is almost if you are saying, "As long as he loves me the most, I will fight for him." Ask yourself ... (read in full...)
Suffering from performance issues and low self-esteem...
Q. I'm a 22 year old male from TX. I've had relationships with women in the past, but never went past kissing, as pathetic as that sounds. People are trying to break me and say I'm gay. I admit, I am aware I do have an attraction for men, but I can't ...
A. 6 June 2011: From a medical perspective-depression will add to your low sex drive. As you mentioned, you do not have insurance right now, but when you can it would benefit you to get your hormones tested. You might have very low testosterone,whi... (read in full...)
To all the men, is that fact that I don't have or don't want any children off putting?
Q. To the men out there, please be brutally honest: If you were single and looking, and met a woman who was in her mid 30s and had no children and claimed to not want any, would you think she was a loser/mentally ill? I ask because I have zero desire...
A. 6 June 2011: I know you are asking the men, but I think you would be pleased to find out there are lots of men out there that WANT to be childless by choice. I remember seeing a post around here last week from a man what wanted to start a relationship with a ... (read in full...)
With a married man...
Q. Hi, I'm with a married man...he's five years older than me, he's very cute and I really like him. It all started from when he came to my house to fix the meter, he told me to get some fuses and plain panels, he wrote them down on a paper and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: *throws face in palms and shakes head*
Seriously, you are at LEAST 22 years old and you do not get WHY this man does not respond?
He is a cheating husband and he is using you for his own satisfaction. He owes you nothing.
... (read in full...)
How can I make my parents understand that I'm happy and safe?
Q. I'm a USA citizen and Floridian, but right now I'm teaching English as a foreign language in Mexico. You hear all this terrible stuff about Mexico but it's completely taken out of context. I haven't seen any violence, I have friends I love to ...
A. 6 June 2011: Write a nice letter or make a video for Mom and Dad SHOWING them your home, your freinds, things you enjoy. Do not talk about how much you hate N. Carolina or defend what you love. Just love it! You are an adult and earned this choice! Let ... (read in full...)
I want to ask him out, but I know he's broke
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I recently met this guy, and i want to ask him about going on our first date. He said he might be able to meet this Wednesday, but he hasn't had much money lately. I feel funny about asking him about going out since he ...
A. 6 June 2011: Wait for him to ask you. You do not want to get caught in a situation being the "Sugar Mama" and having to take the initiative. Let him make the move. If he mentions he would like to ask you out, but cant do to finances, suggest "If you asked me... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong?
Q. So... My lovelife hasn't exactly been the best... My first girlfriend I dated for two years and she had intimacy problems. She said she'd rather play video games then hold my hand and we never kissed. After two years of dating, I thought if i rem...
A. 6 June 2011: I do not think you did anything wrong. You had a bad experience.
Obviously, you do not take sex too lighly and had to have your heart involved to participate.
Just like you realized you were not ready that first Valentines Day long ago, Al... (read in full...)
What does this man want?
Q. Well here I am again......my ex and I have been separated for 9 months....lately he has changed hes more receptive and texting me, now me I am hurt I cant play nice anymore...he left me for another woman and says he still communicates with her but ...
A. 6 June 2011: He is probably playing with her head too and telling her a bunch of lies. Her coming after you to "inform" you strikes as jealousy-maybe because he is doing things for you?
Of course he has to come up with a story to cover himself.
I think... (read in full...)
What does this man want?
Q. Well here I am again......my ex and I have been separated for 9 months....lately he has changed hes more receptive and texting me, now me I am hurt I cant play nice anymore...he left me for another woman and says he still communicates with her but ...
A. 3 June 2011: Added thought..
You have a RIGHT to be bitter at this time. He screwed up and you dont LIKE IT. He wants the easy way back in.
Does he think putting a tool belt and playing "Handy Andy" will make the hurt go away?
Me thinks not.... (read in full...)
What does this man want?
Q. Well here I am again......my ex and I have been separated for 9 months....lately he has changed hes more receptive and texting me, now me I am hurt I cant play nice anymore...he left me for another woman and says he still communicates with her but ...
A. 3 June 2011: Three things I would do immediately.
1-See a counselor to address all the emotions you are going throught.
2-See a lawyer if only to find out your personal rights and what YOU would need to proceed with divorce. It is not just HIS choice.
3... (read in full...)
I feel strongly that no one in my family cares about me at all, am I wrong??
Q. Why wouldn't anyone care? My mom cares about her new husband more. My dad cares about my sister and his stupid lifestyle. My maternal uncles care about their families and never offered to help out with my tuition fees although they're do...
A. 3 June 2011: How do you want these people to show you care?
Be specific.... (read in full...)
I have genital warts. How do I tell my b/f?
Q. Hi I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months and everything has been going amazingly, but I just found out I have genital warts. I know that HPV can be in the system for quite a long time before breakouts occur, so I'm not worried about hi...
A. 3 June 2011: I thought I would post a link with further info about HPV and Men's Health.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm... (read in full...)
Is her telling me something like this her way of trying to make me think of her in a sexual context?
Q. A girl at work told me she had an embarrassing accident recently- her dress came apart and her breasts were exposed at a party. She told me this whilst we were alone. As the story finished, someone else walked in and she got embarrassed. Is the ...
A. 3 June 2011: I think she was telling you a story that she did did not want the other person to hear.
If she wants you to think of her sexually she will show with her body language more than her words. Touching herself and then touching you are great signs.
... (read in full...)
I've never had someone try to make me jealous before but its not going to work!
Q. so the girl I love I guess cause recently there has been a bunch of BS and were not talking accept through a mutual friend who is on my side. Thank God for that. anyway apparently she is gonna date this guy to get back at me for what I don't know ...
A. 3 June 2011: I will give you the same advice I gave my son (who is 17). Dating at your age is a way of trying on relationships much like trying on clothes. You are going to learn what fits well and what doesnt. You learn what looks best on you and what wha... (read in full...)
He asaid he doesn't know if he wants to be with me - should I break up with him or wait for him to make up his mind?
Q. What would you do if your boyfriend told you he doesn't know if he wants to be with you or not? Would you break up with him, or hang on and wait for him to make up his mind? Thank you for any answers. ...
A. 3 June 2011: Date other people that are open to committed relationships.
Do not wait-move on to other opportunities!
"Sorry bf that you are unsure, so I am going to make up your mind FOR you. Bye!"
By the way, it is said this is what Katherine Middle... (read in full...)
Aren't there ANY women who don't want kids out there?
Q. Why is it that women say that the things they want in a boyfriend or partner tend to be things like: confidence, kind, generous, loving, make me feel special, sense of humour? It's total nonsense. All they want is someone to father their chi...
A. 3 June 2011: You are entitled to your Childless by Choice. I think there is nothing wrong with and compeltely believe not everyone SHOULD become a parent by choice or chance. Others are entitled to their stand on choosing to have Children. Others have alr... (read in full...)
How can we spice up our sex life?
Q. Hello me and my boyfrienf of 1 year and a half we have had sex loads of times before but we want to sauce things up and get expermenting do you know any good moves or tips we can try out to get it more saucy and sexy again . Thankz ...
A. 3 June 2011: Only you and your bf are going to know what will spice things up..
My suggestion: Start with a good book! Preferably one that shows pictures of interesting positions!
Talk about your individual fantasies that have not been fulfilled-see wh... (read in full...)
What kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship?
Q. I know people lie. I know I tell a little lie at least every day whether it is i try not to but it happens. Now my question is what kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship. For example, a girl I have been seeing lies to me sometimes whe...
A. 3 June 2011: That is called avoidance.
If it really bothers you-talk to her about it.
Unless she changes or you accept her reasoning behind it, it will only become a bigger issue.
People who have nothing to hide-hide nothing.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
How to get thoughts of a baby out of my head?
Q. i'm 18, almost 19 and Since i was 14 all i have wanted to be is a mum. I have never tried to concieve and since becomming sexually active have always used contraception, but still cant get the thought out of my head! I've been with my boyfriend f...
A. 3 June 2011: Annalisa already gave beautiful advice, but I thought I'd pipe in. My Mom had ME at 19 years old, and while she said I was the best blessing that ever happened to her, that time of her life was extremely difficult and she wished she would have w... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get a guy's respect back after you gave yourself to him too soon?
Q. Just a quick question, dearest Aunts. (: I was casually seeing a guy I was very interested in, and was adamant to myself that I was going to hold out a long time before I slept with him, but one night I slipped up, I just couldn't help mysel...
A. 3 June 2011: You earn the respect of others by how you conduct yourself consistency. In otherwords, he needs to see you respect YOURSELF before he feels the need to.
What do you want? A boyfreind? A lover? Not to feel guilty about too much, too soon?
... (read in full...)
I lost weight...how do I keep it off?
Q. Hi im wondering if anyone can help me... after i put on a stone over Christmas i decided to do something about my weight and joined weight watchers. Since then i have lost a stone but it was with many ups and downs; i would have one good week and...
A. 3 June 2011: Congrats on the weightloss! You sound so proud and SHOULD be! My suggestion is to keep doing the things you learned in Weight Watchers! Tell your Mum before you return home that you LOVE her cooking, but you really want to stick with progr... (read in full...)
Should I let him go because I might not be able to have children....even though I still love him?
Q. Hi everyone, my situation is this, I have been with my bf for a long time since I was 18 and I am currently 26. We are going on 8 years together and I love him dearly. When we began to have sex, I did not use any type of protection basically because ...
A. 3 June 2011: Ovulation disorders, infrequent or absent ovulation (anovulation), typically result in infrequent periods (oligomenorrhea)
These conditions are usually hormonally related. Your doctors put you on medication to regular your periods, but have you... (read in full...)
Is she a virgin anymore? And can she get pregnant from anal sex?
Q. if during anal sex the penis slipped and touched the vagina and blood went out (in a virgin lady ) does it mean she lost virginity? can this causes pregnancy ?...
A. 3 June 2011: where did the blood come FROM? Anal sex can not lead to pregnancy because the anus is part of the digestive system, not the reproductive system. (Check out an anatomy book on the female reproductive system!) However, unprotected sex where... (read in full...)
How do I leave my wife without exposing my infidelity?
Q. I have been having an affair for a year now, even though I have been married for 7. I got sober 8 months ago, no more booze or drugs, but I cannot quit this woman. If my wife finds out about us I will lose everything, friends, family (no children ...
A. 3 June 2011: I do not think you need your feelings spared. You need to face the truth of your life. It is not very pretty right now. During that last 8 months you faced the addictions of alcohol and drugs. Who supported you and was there for you all that... (read in full...)
If he's lying about a simple email address, what else is he lying about?
Q. Im a 22 year old girl ive been in a relationship for three years i use my email for school and to register for shopping ive noticed my bf is also using my email to register online sites but he doesnt use his email only mine ive asked him to use it ...
A. 3 June 2011: You should each have your own. He can get a new account and a new password. Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
I want sex all the time. Am I an addict?
Q. I think I might be a sex addict. I think about it all the time. My wife had sex with me last night (I admit it had been a long while) and then we cuddled and she fell asleep. I woke her up in a couple of hour because I wanted to have sex again. ...
A. 2 June 2011: Yes you are normal! You have a sex drive that is higher than your wifes. It is normal for couples to have differing sex drives. She is happy to accommodate you, but she is not your personal receptacle. Make sure you are making HER happy too and ... (read in full...)
I cannot shake this guy off and I don't want to be mean. Help!
Q. A couple weeks ago I went out on a date with this guy. I'll call him Brett. We were introduced through a mutual friend. At first he seemed like a really nice guy and we talked through email and over the phone for a couple days before he asked me out ...
A. 2 June 2011: I tried to be nice to him after that, Why do you feel you are obligated to be nice to someone who treated you so disrespectfully and sexually objectified you. You owe him NOTHING. YOU OWE YOURSELF PEACE OF MIND AND SECURITY. You should have... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't use words of love like my ex!
Q. Hello i want a solution to my problem.. Im engaged to person who is too kind ...i got engaged after a long love store with another guy now i've been engaged for almost 8 months.i saw the guy i was with before by chance and i felt that somethin...
A. 2 June 2011: The solution to your problem is to not marry a man who does not take you seriously (jokes around a lot) or does not meet your needs. (You like verbal affirmations of love and affection).
You have feelings towards someone else. You are NOT read... (read in full...)
Virgin, small-penised male afraid of receiving oral... help!
Q. Hi everyone , i am 28 years old male ... virgin ... Yes i am , i am also heavy weight guy around 186 cm hight and 150kg heavy , my woman told me while talking about sex that she LOVE to give me head and she really get turned on by that , i my self ...
A. 2 June 2011: She is marrying you, not your penis! You mentioned you are getting married next May. Are you going to wait to have sex until you are married? Talk to your future wife about your fears of not being "enough" for her. I think you will be supris... (read in full...)
My daughter only needs one summer school class to get her diploma, but she wants to get her GED instead! Should I encourage her to take the class?
Q. I am the mother of four children. Three are well over 21 and are attending community college, and two have recently transferred into a four year college. The youngest of my kids is my daughter, a 17 year old who will be 18 in a few days. This mor...
A. 2 June 2011: Is your daughter going to be living at home? While she will soon be a legal adult, she is obviously "An Adult In Training". Your house, your rules. You do not stop being a Mom, just because the law labels them as "ADULT". It is ok to st... (read in full...)
He has made it clear he doesn't like me, but still takes me out as if it were a date.
Q. I'll try to keep this brief. I'm 18 and this guy is 20. I was "seeing" him back in Sept/Oct/Nov. We used to go to the movies, out to eat, bowling, etc. And so I thought he liked me, if he was willing to take me out and pay each time. So aft...
A. 2 June 2011: "He's just not that into you".
Sounds like nice freind material. Enjoy his company, do not seek for more and date other people:)
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
Should I email his other girlfriend? He has been seeing both of us at the same time!
Q. Should I or not? I recently came across the email address of my boyfriend's 19 year old girlfriend. For 6 months he had been seeing me all the while seeing her too. I've known about her for 5 months now, she doesn't know about me. She lives an hou...
A. 2 June 2011: It is not your business. You will only come across as a bitter person who wants to hurt others.
You only know OF her, you probably do not really KNOW her or anything about her.
Cut your ties with BOTH of them and wash your hands and be hap... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my possesive wife?
Q. Possessive Wife. I love my wife and always try not to hurt her feelings in any way. The problem we have is that she does not want me to socialise with male friends for fear that they will get girls/ women for me. secondly when I move wit...
A. 2 June 2011: Not only is she insecure, but she is abusive and controlling.
Get on your knees? Using sex as a weapon? Not very mature.
You should BOTH be able to have aquaintances of both genders and trust each other to be faithful emotionally and ... (read in full...)
I have genital warts. How do I tell my b/f?
Q. Hi I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months and everything has been going amazingly, but I just found out I have genital warts. I know that HPV can be in the system for quite a long time before breakouts occur, so I'm not worried about hi...
A. 27 May 2011: Actually you COULD give it to him. You discovered you can have the virus without the symptoms. He could pass it on to others as well.
He needs to know and make an INFORMED choice.
I would get some information on HPV (Your Doctor can give you... (read in full...)
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