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writes:SO after my girlfriend not knowing what she has wanted for a month and taking a break with me she hates me now. Last Friday we were at a bar and she came up to me and told me she didn't want a relationship and she wanted to be just friends. My heart hit the floor and I got really drunk and started dancing with my friend well my friend tried to kiss me later and she found out. I didn't kiss her back and when she came in for the kiss I backed away. Now my girlfriend wont talk to me or anything and says I'm a cheater because she didn't break up with me and claims she told me to give it two more days. I told her regardless ill never talk to the other girl again and that im sorry I love her to death I dont want to hurt her and its killing me that it did. I have been hurt so much by her in the last month wanting to take a break not even knowing if she wanted to be in a relationship that I kinda lost it that night and I regret every minute of it. But I feel like this is an easy way for her to get out now not looking like the bad guy. I dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Hey she was not really drinking too much and I was I just think the issue should have not even been said at the bar anyways. Before this happened she didn't know if she wanted to be with me and I told her she was hurting me and didn't care. I have been a damn good girlfriend to her and she is very self involved. I don't want to look desperate about wanting her I just love her alot and I do feel bad I put myself in that situation but all this shit would have never happened if she didn't need a stupid break.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 I think your impulse that she wanted to get out, but didn't want to be the bad guy, is probably a good one.
She can't play games with you like that. I mean she came up to you in a bar, basically broke up with you, and then gets upset when you get drunk and something ALMOST happens with another girl?
Naw, that's just games being played at your expense.
You don't need to be apologetic. You should go on the offensive and ask her what the heck did she think would happen when she breaks up with you.
Don't you think you deserve to be treated better?
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 June 2011):
 That girl needs to get over herself. You reacted based on what she TOLD you and you did not even KISS the girl.
You are not a cheater, but you are aplogizing to a Drama Queen. By any chance was SHE drinking when she told you that she was done?
She is playing headgames. Let her stew in her own silence and enjoy your SINGLE life.
Best Wishes.
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