What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 15 August 2011: No relationship is perfect..EVER. But you can be happy and supportive of each other while being understanding that in many ways she IS still a "kid" in her Dad's eyes.
Keep showing her parents that you are a man of honor.
By the way, it is n... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my best friend's married father who is 54!
Q. Basically, i am having sex with my bestfriends dad. I am 25 and he is 54. He is still married and has been for 27 years. His wife is 58 and he says she dows not share the same sexual desire as he does. It all began 3 month ago when i stumbled...
A. 14 July 2011: You are confusing love with lust dear. Once he has used you up and gets bored-prepare yourself.
You have no shot at anything with him other than being his easy f*ck puppet.... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: Is is the parents decision. If it is meant to be then it WILL happen, but NOW is probably not the time.
These are years for both of you to tackle your educations and become well-rounded people. There is still growing for both of you to do, and ... (read in full...)
He is still active on a dating site and winking at women...what should I do?
Q. Well....He is still on the On-Line Dating site and is now Active! And by the way.... thanks to all who answered my question last week about my Fiance being on the ON-Line Dating site(At that time he was not active and I actually didn't say anything ...
A. 7 July 2011: You confronted him and he does not see why it bothers you.
He IS still doing two things-
1-Feeding his ego
2-Looking for something better "just in case".
If your relationship is as committed and solid as HE would like you to believe, the... (read in full...)
How do we approach our daughter about her relationship with an older guy?
Q. Help, we need advice on what advice to give our daughter. Our daughter just turned 16, and we've finally allowed her to date. She has gone out on group things with both guys and girls, but we've just allowed her to 'single' car date. Problem is this ...
A. 7 July 2011: I would not share the details of the past experience. That is your wives private past. That would create a whole awkward situation and divert you from your REAL task at hand.
Instead, talk about your EXPECTATIONS of her when dating.
Talk abou... (read in full...)
Ex of 3 years ago wrote me and apologized. Now what?
Q. I was so happy when the guy that broke up with me almost 3 years ago, finally kept in touch with me again. My heart was so pounding and I can't believe my eyes when I read his long email to me yesterday. He said that he was sorry for his attitude, ...
A. 7 July 2011: Respond THANK YOU. As simple as that.
Then be on your guard. Do not listen to words, watch actions.
Best O luck!
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I'm having sex with my best friend's married father who is 54!
Q. Basically, i am having sex with my bestfriends dad. I am 25 and he is 54. He is still married and has been for 27 years. His wife is 58 and he says she dows not share the same sexual desire as he does. It all began 3 month ago when i stumbled...
A. 7 July 2011: He seduced you to meet his needs. That is not love.
If feels GOOD to be wanted and you give him something that he has been missing; SEX.
You also just killed your friendship. The truth will eventually come out and you are paying a high co... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: A Mothers response-I have teenagers, so I will tell you what I would do in this situation.
If a lovely 18 year old boy (you have a lot of great qualities) asked ME to date my 15, soon to be 16 yo daughter. I would say no.
Even if there is a gl... (read in full...)
Would you date him?
Q. would you date a guy that over all is a very nice guy just a few issues, he has a nice body but he isn't the most attractive person in the face, he can not get an erection because he has diabetes, seems to adore me and has a great personality. i am ...
A. 7 July 2011: Well Im a nurse who has worked in a Urology Clinic in the past. One of the Docs is light hearted and serious at the same time. I have heard him tell his patients-If you think it is worth it to make yourself and your partner happy at the same ... (read in full...)
Should I marry a guy I don't trust just to please my family???
Q. Dear cupid, Am I wrong for holding off on marrying my fiance? I am currenly 5 months pregnant with our 1st baby, and a week or two ago, my grandmother came up to visit us and insisted we go ahead and get married. But, my fiance has some growing ...
A. 7 July 2011: No you are not wrong for holding off the marriage.
Just because you made a baby with someone does not mean you are required to marry them. More than likely you would be VERY unhappy, make eachother miserable, which would be a horrible upbringi... (read in full...)
I feel henpecked by my fiancée
Q. Hi... strange one this and its doing my nut in. it was my birthday last week and my fiancee, who i'm marrying in august, came over to visit. we talked then she started getting picky about things which started an argument off... i told her not tod...
A. 7 July 2011: Well, without knowing what she was picking on you about..it is hard to gauge if she is being reasonable. Maybe you are being unreasonable with what she "picked on" you about?
The wedding is a month away, maybe you are both feeling some tension ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: Correction F.A., she is FIFTEEN right now.
Nick, I think it is VERY smart to ask her Father for permssion. Since you are 18+ and she is a minor.
STILL, check the laws of your state, because as a minor you could be breaking a law called Statu... (read in full...)
What does any of this mean? I can't figure out what this girl wants...
Q. Any advice on why this girl i was with would say this after only the second date! Is this her way of telling me she isn't interested or what was she trying to tell me? Because only last week she said she liked me!! And now realised this... She ...
A. 7 July 2011: My guess is that she is telling you upfront that she is not ready for anything serious.
Agree to date others, have fun, and enjoy eachothers company.
It is OK to date someone if you like them. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says I am a bad lover. What can I do?
Q. I am a relatively inexperienced guy when it comes to sex. I have watched a lot of porn. I have read a lot about it both in books and on the Internet. I have friends in alternative lifestyles who exposed me to a lot of things in conversations - ...
A. 7 July 2011: Whoa, whoa, whoa...
I would say your gf has some nerve to blame YOU for HER lack of excitement or orgasms.
You have done several key things here to address pleasing her.
*You have taken initiation to bring new and different things to your... (read in full...)
What is the role of sex in a healthy relationship?
Q. I like having sex. It is very pleasurable for me. However, I only have sex in the context of a loving relationship. To me, it is something special, a sacred sort of ritual in which we expose our innermost, secret selves to our partner without ...
A. 7 July 2011: If sex is such a sacred experience to you with your parter, I can understand why your wife would be offended that you even THOUGHT of going outside of marriage.
Sorry, but it was kind of a bonehead move on your part to play up the mystical... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can make penetration less painful for me?
Q. Hi I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18 we've been in a relationship for 9months now. I haven't had sex with anyone yet but when I plan to I plan on using condoms , we've been talking about having sex before , I'm a virgin but he's not , I trust him 100% ...
A. 6 July 2011: Two recommendations: One, lube for sex. Something silicone based and long lasting.
Two-DO not have sex with just condoms only. Get a backup birthcontrol. Condoms DO break sometimes.
Get the peace of mind too.
Also, He needs to take his ti... (read in full...)
He is still active on a dating site and winking at women...what should I do?
Q. Well....He is still on the On-Line Dating site and is now Active! And by the way.... thanks to all who answered my question last week about my Fiance being on the ON-Line Dating site(At that time he was not active and I actually didn't say anything ...
A. 6 July 2011: Are the both of you on the same page of DATING again, the ENGAGEMENT is back on, or???
You are anonymous here, so no clue about your question last week.
If you agreed to exclusivity-I would ask him if he is off the dating market or still ... (read in full...)
We are supposed to be having our first date tonight...but now she is acting real odd!
Q. I have been friends with this girl for a few years now. we've not been close but always shared a strange attraction. Anyway, we both are recently single, but she's still living with her physically and emotionally abusive ex for about another week ...
A. 6 July 2011: You have not been close and have not been in a dating situation with her.
She had a bad day. People do that. Do not read too much into it.
It is unrealistic for people to be "on" (cute, flirty, electrifying, etc. ) ALL the time.
Have a ... (read in full...)
Would you date him?
Q. would you date a guy that over all is a very nice guy just a few issues, he has a nice body but he isn't the most attractive person in the face, he can not get an erection because he has diabetes, seems to adore me and has a great personality. i am ...
A. 6 July 2011: I have to say YAY to the men that were comfortable enough to share their opinions on Diabetes and ED!
... (read in full...)
My partner is a virgin....what if I try and he doesn't want to do it?
Q. So i've been dating this guy for a couple of months. I am 23 and he is 21. But he's a virgin. I knew it even before we started dating, but i didn't think it was important. I'm not a very sexual person but still, eventually i'm gonna want to do it...
A. 6 July 2011: I would not go thru the motions of romance and seduction if he is clearly not comfortable with talking about his sexuality. He may end up feeling pressured.
He may not be confortable with his sexuality. Is he affectionate in other ways? Have yo... (read in full...)
Friend's prank went wrong
Q. hi this can be a bit long but i seriously need help i had a breakup with my bf 7mnths ago...it was very painful for my bf who couldnt move on.. he started to blackmail me, threatening me ,send msgs, abuse me n my parents, give blankcalls at my...
A. 6 July 2011: Your "friend" took a painful, difficult experience for you and made it entertainment for HER.
Who needs a friend like that? Friends CARE about your feelings.
Perhaps if she saw you were deeply hurt by this, you could learn to forgive her o... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him....do you really think he could've changed?
Q. So my boyfriend and I( 15 and 17) have been on and off for about 6 months. I never thought me and him could be together when i first saw him because he's all like handsome with blue eyes, and a super athletic body; he plays football and runs ...
A. 6 July 2011: The both of you are way too young to be considering an engagement or marriage.
Both of you are immature and irrisponsible. You both can barely deal with a dating relationship that has some big problems.
Marriage does not make those issues go ... (read in full...)
Would you date him?
Q. would you date a guy that over all is a very nice guy just a few issues, he has a nice body but he isn't the most attractive person in the face, he can not get an erection because he has diabetes, seems to adore me and has a great personality. i am ...
A. 6 July 2011: If he is a fabulous companion and is willing to please me in other ways AND be willing to seek out medical help for his ED problem..yeah, Id date him.
BTW Diabetes is not a curse for erections. He would need to see a Urologist to discuss options.... (read in full...)
Sex with a high class prostitute
Q. Is that less reprehensible? It is interesting to see how people judge prostitutes very harshly and yet someone who has lots of casual sex, one night stands and has a very high number is not considered trashy, just living their life. I guess wh...
A. 6 July 2011: So, are you asking if it is ok to hire a prostitute for your sexual needs?
Can you pull the real question out?... (read in full...)
Did she have a better sex life with her ex? Why wont she talk about it and give details? Why does she have a problem kissing?
Q. Hi All, please help. My Girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 5 years now and we are very close. We are both in our early thirties and are thinking about starting a family. I've been at uni since we've been together and we've been liv...
A. 6 July 2011: You already got excellent advice..spot ON Kc100...
I wanted to comment on the following...
"When she says 'but it was ages ago and it's in the past' I just feel sad because the past is what makes us the people we are today and her not opening ... (read in full...)
Does it bother you if you are aware that your husband is seeing another woman for sex, but he will stay in your marriage and take all other responsibilities?
Q. If you are the wife... By reading so many questions /dramas caused by husbands' cheating (on wivies' side and the other women's side), it seems that most husbands cheat for 'sex'. If the sexual ife is not as good as it used to be (e.g., you...
A. 6 July 2011: I suspect it is more than just negative feelings.
People do not generally give up more comfortable surroundings unless it comes at a high price.
I don't agree. I am the primary bread winner. My soon to be ex husband moved out even t... (read in full...)
After meeting my long-distance love, I found I wasn't sexually attracted to her at all. Now, how do I disengage from her?
Q. Well in previous questions i addressed issues that i had with my long distance girlfriend and had ended it all. She later came around talking about compromising and resolving all of our issues and we started up again and it went great. So we decided ...
A. 6 July 2011: This is exactly why NO one should start making promises of a "Happily Ever After" when you meet someone online until AFTER you meet them and see if you are compatible!
Not even the words I LOVE YOU should be uttered without really knowing and spen... (read in full...)
I simply cannot see him stepping up to the plate and being a man.
Q. About eight months ago, I met a guy on facebook. We chatted, started talking on the phone, and eventually decided to meet. So I drove to his house (Which is convienent because he lives about three miles away) to meet him and he asked me to be his ...
A. 6 July 2011: Why does he need to TRY anything when the people around him deliver him what he wants?
I am going to guess that his Mom kicked him out of the house and Dad came to his "rescue".
The first time you met him, he could not even BOTHER meeting y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tries to make me jealous by talking about his female friends!
Q. From time to time my boyfriend tries to make me jealous by talking about his female friends. Being a very sociable person he's often out and about with someone or other; to be fair he hangs with the guys more than the girls, but when he's met ...
A. 5 July 2011: Could there be a possibility you FEEL jealous, but that is not his intention?
*He is TELLING you about his other interactions.
People who have NOTHING to hide-Hide Nothing.
*You trust him. So, tell him that your trust means you do not e... (read in full...)
A dreamer and a realist, high sex drive and low sex drive. Can this relationship survive?
Q. I'm having a problem as of late. I've been with my current GF for almost two years now (we are going to Amsterdam for our two year anniversary in May) but I feel all emotions have gone from my part. We are in a long distance relationship (i'm ...
A. 5 July 2011: Cancel your trip.
It is not fair to either one of you to take the time and money out for each other when your heart is not in it.
You will be sorely dissapointed to hope for a relaxing and fun getaway when clearly you do not enjoy who you ma... (read in full...)
How to break up with someone I love?
Q. Been in a relationship for 4 and a half years now. I love my bf because he is everything I want in a man. Only problem is he won't have sex with me yet. He wants me to be patient til his paranoia of pregnancy goes away. But it's not fair to me to ...
A. 5 July 2011: Print out what you wrote above...and any other reasons why you should NOT be with him. Put it by your phone, under your pillow, folded in your wallet, whatever it takes to remind yourself why you do not want to be with this man.
Be your own best... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I don't want to send mix sex signals to my boyfriend!
Q. This guy and I have had feelings for eachother for four months now, and we're very very attracted to eachother. Were both 18.. and I was wondering if its all moving too fast and how I should handle the situation. I was at his house last night and we ...
A. 5 July 2011: If you plan on saving yourself until your wedding night, tell him up front.
Do not allow yourself to be in situations where you might lose control and compromise your value. Watch how much alone time you spend.
Remember that he IS an 18 yo b... (read in full...)
Is it just my husband that behaves this way? Or does a childless spouse always come last?
Q. To anybody who is remarried: Do you treat your spouse, who is not the mother/father of your children, as someone of equal importance (not more, just equal) to your offspring or do the always get pushed into second, third or last place? Do you ...
A. 5 July 2011: The kids are a PRIORITY and he has to be responsible.
But, he also has a responsibility to his relationship with YOU.
If he is defaulting a date with you for the newest game/gadget for the child (and its not a special occaision) then I would say ... (read in full...)
What do I do? I am head over heels in love with him. But he dumped me as I cannot have more children
Q. what do i do when i am head over heels with someone and after two months of getting somewhere with me he dumps me because i cannot have any more children? Would this be a deal breaker for some men? How do I handle this?...
A. 5 July 2011: It was 2 mos, 8 weeks, (insert number here) dates, etc.
You found out early on. Dating is often like horse racing, there will be horses you think that can go the distance, but have a false start at the gate.
I went thru the same thing, but ... (read in full...)
Care package ideas for my LDR boyfriend?
Q. I've been in a LDR with my boyfriend for about 15 months now. I got to see him last week and I've been in an extra lovey-dovey mood since soooo I decided to surprise him with a care package in the mail, but I'm lost for ideas. I've searched the ...
A. 5 July 2011: Your ideas are very sweet:)
I heard of a bf sending his gf the Tshirt he slept in..very intimate.
*It was clean, but otherwise smelled like his cologne.
Anything that looks or smells like being with you...good idea:)
*CALLING CARDS... (read in full...)
Why is my husband getting into new things in the bedroom? Is he getting bored with our sex life?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman. I am the one who wrote about a week ago about her husband wanting a striptease (from me) for his birthday. This has not happened yet as his birthday is next weekend. We were having sex on Saturday about which I still ge...
A. 5 July 2011: Variety is good! It does not mean anything was wrong with what you were doing before!
Consider yourself blessed that you have a hubby that wants to try something new and different!
... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex with the lights on but I am insecure about my body! Help!
Q. im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m My boyfriend took my virginity roughly 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been sharing whilst cuddling one night things we would like to try/different places we could go/ what turns us on. he mentioned that i...
A. 5 July 2011: First some insight: Men are VERY visual and LIKE seeing naked bodies. You asked what would turn him on right? He answered I want to SEE you.
Your bf chose YOU. You gave SHARED your virginity with him.
You feel insecure and you are comparin... (read in full...)
He asked to be friends with benefits: Should I drop him as a friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in the middle of a dilemma. I met this guy 3 months ago via an online dating site and we hit it off right away as friends. During the time, he was relocating from his home state to Atlanta to start anew with his father who just ...
A. 5 July 2011: He is not the great guy or friend you thought he was.
He essentially asked you,
"Gee, I think you are really great and since I do not have any one else in my life, do you mind if I use you as a seminal recepticle with no responsibilities... (read in full...)
I am very depressed over the way my calves look! Can ANYTHING be done with them?
Q. Even though this isn't a relationship question, please, please help me. This is bothering me so much that I am literally almost in tears as I write this. I hate my legs, so much that I have become depressed. I am cursed with the most freakishly ...
A. 4 July 2011: If you can not slim your calves by diet or excercise, then you might want to consult a plastic surgeon. Find out your options and risks involved.
If the size of your calfs is NOT due to fat, then its MUSCLE. You would have to REMOVE muscle t... (read in full...)
Does it bother you if you are aware that your husband is seeing another woman for sex, but he will stay in your marriage and take all other responsibilities?
Q. If you are the wife... By reading so many questions /dramas caused by husbands' cheating (on wivies' side and the other women's side), it seems that most husbands cheat for 'sex'. If the sexual ife is not as good as it used to be (e.g., you...
A. 4 July 2011: The key word is KNOWING, ie the wife gives permission for her husband to get his sexual needs met elsewhere.
I would not be content with the man in my life living at home and meeting his other responsibilities. That is not a marriage, that is ... (read in full...)
We spent a night in a hotel and now no contact...please help!
Q. Hey Agony Aunts and Uncles, i have a bit of a confusing situation in my mind. Recently ive been talking to a guy who i became very close to, he always text me 'good morning beautiful' every day and we stayed up til at least 2am most days just ...
A. 4 July 2011: Sorry LilMiss, I meant on a proper date with this 24 yr old man.... (read in full...)
We spent a night in a hotel and now no contact...please help!
Q. Hey Agony Aunts and Uncles, i have a bit of a confusing situation in my mind. Recently ive been talking to a guy who i became very close to, he always text me 'good morning beautiful' every day and we stayed up til at least 2am most days just ...
A. 4 July 2011: Do you think he was hoping/expecting for more?
How long have you known him prior to this time?
Have you gone on proper dates before?
... (read in full...)
He says he misses me so why wont he make time for us to spend alone?
Q. Hello All, I met a guy on a dating site, seemed very nice, genuine, went out a few times - its been a month now since we have been seeing each other on and off, but he always seems too busy to meet properly or spend a day together, he has already ...
A. 4 July 2011: He may come from a really tight family.
When you DO spend time along, what do you normally do?
I think its great that he introduced you to his family, and at first I thought, he trusts them and he wants their opinion of YOU if he is wanting... (read in full...)
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