I have genital warts. How do I tell my b/f?
Q. Hi I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months and everything has been going amazingly, but I just found out I have genital warts. I know that HPV can be in the system for quite a long time before breakouts occur, so I'm not worried about hi...
A. 3 June 2011: I thought I would post a link with further info about HPV and Men's Health.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my possesive wife?
Q. Possessive Wife. I love my wife and always try not to hurt her feelings in any way. The problem we have is that she does not want me to socialise with male friends for fear that they will get girls/ women for me. secondly when I move wit...
A. 2 June 2011: Not only is she insecure, but she is abusive and controlling.
Get on your knees? Using sex as a weapon? Not very mature.
You should BOTH be able to have aquaintances of both genders and trust each other to be faithful emotionally and ... (read in full...)
Why do I have bad feelings?
Q. recently i post about my wifes infidelity and I'm still with her but not on so good terms shes said she sorry and is trying to change i guess but the damage is done and i don't feel nothing for her so i went out with some friends and i met this nice ...
A. 2 June 2011: how can u forgive someone that cheated on me like 3 time With help from a professional counselor that has experience with infidelity counseling. They can help walk you through all your thoughts and feelings and make a good decision. It takes TIM... (read in full...)
Wife Said Top Fantasy Is Another Woman
Q. My wife and I were sharing fantasies. I thought mine were fairly normal and things we could do together. However, My wife's number 1 fantasy is sex with another woman. I was shocked! I am actually not part of any of her fantasies she listed. I ...
A. 2 June 2011: Your fantasies clashed. You might have been fishing for some suggestions from your wife to spice things up? (I commend you for being open on that discussion!)
Are you overacting..um, yep a tad. If you are suprised she wants to experime... (read in full...)
How do I get this creep to leave me alone at work?
Q. There's this guy at work who's pretty creepy and pervy. He's 32 and whenever a new, young girl starts here he immediately tries to get her number and says disgusting things about her. I've been working there for 4 years and for all that time he's ...
A. 1 June 2011: I would speak immediately with your Supervisior/Manager and tell them you are being harrassed. Find out from the local police department what you can do as well. (He may be breaking the law.)
Call your phone service provider and get a new numb... (read in full...)
Running out of things to talk about need help!
Q. Ok so I've started seeing this woman who I really like a whole lot, we'll be going out again soon. The problem is its almost as if I'm running out of things to say. Does anybody have any conversation starters topics to discuss on your 4th or 5th ...
A. 1 June 2011: Ask her anything you want to would like to know about her!
There is no magic list, but as you get to know her, go with your instinct. Be genuine and sincere with what you discuss. Plan fun activities to do and you will think of thinks to talk ... (read in full...)
Why do I have bad feelings?
Q. recently i post about my wifes infidelity and I'm still with her but not on so good terms shes said she sorry and is trying to change i guess but the damage is done and i don't feel nothing for her so i went out with some friends and i met this nice ...
A. 1 June 2011: Why do you have bad feelings?
You have two things going on-Your wife cheated on you.
It hurt, right?
Sooooooo, you went and did the same thing to her?
And you feel bad.
Why? PAIN and GUILT hurts. That is your conscience, soul, inner voi... (read in full...)
Had Affair, Now Months Later This Guy Won't Leave Me Alone!
Q. Hi, really need some non-judgmental advice! I am engaged to a loving man and have been with him for 8 years, we have a gorgeous little boy together. I haven't felt completely happy for a long time. I have stuck in there for my son and also because ...
A. 1 June 2011: "Can someone please lend some advice on why this man is contacting me?"
You had an affair with him. You gave him something that felt good and exciting to him.
Imagine someone who is hooked on drugs getting a little sampler. Not much, just e... (read in full...)
30 year old virgin - got no one to talk to or ask for advice
Q. Hello everyone, I'll get straight to the point. Im a 30 year old virgin, dont know how but i am. Its sad and im ashamed of it. I get nervous when im close to women, i feel i have no experience. Im average looking, workout in the gym alot, got a ...
A. 1 June 2011: My ex husband lost his virginity to a hooker. He said it was the biggest and most unpleasant mistake of his life.
I was not put off that he was not a virgin....I was dissapointed in HOW he lost it. He hated the experience.
Sex SHOULD BE... (read in full...)
His comment about my weight were rude and uncalled for, what should I say to him?
Q. I've been dating my bf long distance for almost 15mths now. Since I've met him, I've gained about 10-15lbs. Two nights ago, we were texting and I mentioned that I had started a new workout the day before and my body was achy because it was s...
A. 1 June 2011: I think it was insensitive of him.
You should be proud you are caring for your body! What he said was not very supportive/encouraging.
I WOULD let this one slide/ignore, but if he has a habit of handing you "backhanded compliments" (Wh... (read in full...)
Husband left me for another woman. Is it just a rebound?
Q. My husband left me three months ago for a much younger woman (he is 32, she is 21). I am devastated, we have four children together and it is heartybreaking that every other weekend they are staying at her house. (he moved straight in with her!). He ...
A. 1 June 2011: So sorry for your painful time. Who knows how long "they" will last? (If they didn't last, would you want an irresponsible, disloyal person like that back?) YOU will last much longer! :) Take care of you and your kids. Seek out legal and profes... (read in full...)
After her miscarriage and being diagnosed with cancer, she somehow seems less interested in me. Why is that?
Q. hey agony aunts, im in a pickle and need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for a little over a month now, and the first few weeks went great, but then she started feeling sick and went to the doctor and found out she was 6 weeks pregnant f...
A. 1 June 2011: ok, i understand i was thinking a bit selfish. but none of you have the right to judge me. Grow up. You came on a public site asking a question. You got a response and an OVERWHELMING smack over the head that you are incredibly immature and self... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me to never wear my sister's dress again because it made him feel he was kissing her!
Q. So today when i went to see my bf i was wearing this dress, it belongs to my younger sister and she wore it to a dinner we all attended a while ago. So when my bf saw me he asks me about the dress and said it looks like something my sister would ...
A. 28 May 2011: No boyfreind (or husband) should be telling the woman of his life what to wear or NOT wear.
PERIOD.
Wear what ever you want honey! If he comments, let him know
"They are just CLOTHES. You are dating the person UNDERNEATH."
Best... (read in full...)
Why do I like getting attention from guys but then never following through on it?
Q. Is it bad that when i go on a night out i like the idea of meeting guys and getting the attention from them? I want to make out with them, but not so that it leads to sleeping together cause i couldn't do that with a stranger! But I don't understand ...
A. 28 May 2011: I think you are testing your own sexual boundaries.
Nothing is wrong with kissing/making out as long as you arent telling the object of your attention that he is going to get more than some kissing!
Maybe the attention is your "drug" and you like... (read in full...)
After her miscarriage and being diagnosed with cancer, she somehow seems less interested in me. Why is that?
Q. hey agony aunts, im in a pickle and need some advice. Ive been with my girlfriend for a little over a month now, and the first few weeks went great, but then she started feeling sick and went to the doctor and found out she was 6 weeks pregnant f...
A. 28 May 2011: She just found out that she has CANCER. She has a SERIOUS ILLNESS that could alter her LIFE. You are worried about your own feelings? Do her a favor and walk away. Find someone else to baby you. She has better things to do.... (read in full...)
Please help me get my lover back!
Q. I am married with 2 teenage children. For the last 3 years I have been having an affair with. Beautiful woman 20 years younger - I'm 44. This woman is the most amazing person Ive ever met. She turns heads were ever she goes, her personality shines ...
A. 28 May 2011: You want advice on how to cheat on your wife?
Are you SMOKING CRACK???... (read in full...)
Baby Blues.
Q. I've been really getting down lately a lot of friends have been having kids lately, I'm 23 and I've been broody for over 2 years. I just haven't been in a place to have them, I know have a lovely partner, but he isn't ready for them. I've got ...
A. 28 May 2011: I think it is pretty normal as a young woman to wonder about having babies. The media and television shows make having babies sound like a LOT of FUN and you might not be a whole person without this FUN, FUN, FUN experience. Maybe you feel ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get close to him?
Q. I don't know if I should call him... every time I call him to ask him to hang out he says his busy... last night I called and he said he would call back... however he never did. I feel like calling him almost everyday is going to get him annoyed.. ...
A. 27 May 2011: A boy/man who is really interested will let YOU know and find you.
If you chase HIM, more than likely he is going to run away.
He has let you know he isnt interested. He just is not using words.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
If I am going to break up with my husband what things do I need to consider?
Q. If I am going to break up with my husband. What things do I need to consider? I think I have enough reasons to do it. Do I have to go to a councillor before I can see a divorce lawyer? I am not sure how this works. Why do I think I have enough r...
A. 27 May 2011: I am sorry you are going through this pain and confusion. I have gone thru a divorce. My suggestion is to FIRST seek EMOTIONAL counseling. Divorces are ugly, painful and ungodly exspensive ordeals. Do you have children together? Is there AN... (read in full...)
Sex with him leaves me unsatisfied.
Q. I came to my current partner as a virgin although, I had experienced oral sex before with my ex of four years. I didn't want to have sex with my partner but it happened anyway and after a while, I learned to like it. But now, I don't feel the same. ...
A. 27 May 2011: He sounds like a selfish lover. Nothing will change until you talk to him. Let him know he is NOT popping your cork and you would really like to start learning how you can BOTH reach "THE BIG ONE". My suggestion-Tell him no penetration unti... (read in full...)
Feel so guilty for ignoring her...
Q. Hi, I cut this woman out of my life some time ago. I did it only after a long effort of trying to talk to her to reach a common understanding. And I did it only after a long period of deliberation and only after I was convinced that she was lying to...
A. 27 May 2011: Do you feel there is something you should have done differently to end the relationship? Sometimes it is just HARD to let go. Even if we do the right thing, we feel like we failed the relationship or ourselves. There is nothing wrong with en... (read in full...)
I have genital warts. How do I tell my b/f?
Q. Hi I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months and everything has been going amazingly, but I just found out I have genital warts. I know that HPV can be in the system for quite a long time before breakouts occur, so I'm not worried about hi...
A. 27 May 2011: Actually you COULD give it to him. You discovered you can have the virus without the symptoms. He could pass it on to others as well.
He needs to know and make an INFORMED choice.
I would get some information on HPV (Your Doctor can give you... (read in full...)
Our problem don't include infidelity, but everday is agony for me
Q. How to deal with a husband who ignores his wife for a period of 2 months now? Basically, we did not consumate our marriage as I am working abroad and my husband is in our home country. My husband was my ex-boyfriend, but when I went on emergenc...
A. 27 May 2011: How do you end something that never really got a proper start?
Sadly, it seems like you have a marriage on paper only.
Maybe you both rushed this arrangment without really thinking it through?
Can you contact a mutual freind or family mem... (read in full...)
Am I just a thing for him?
Q. hello aunts... me and my boyfriend , though we were never ever in a relation but always behaved so speaking on hours on phone or texting each other or chatting online but after an year i asked him out but he said he was already in a relation and w...
A. 27 May 2011: I would say you are the back up plan. If he wants a relationship with you..make him earn it. Go on living life and date other people that respectful. First, respect yourself. DO not settle for pseudo-relationships hoping they... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid because he turns round suddenly at a short skirt!
Q. I nudged my boyfriend for looking round quickly at a very pretty woman in a short skirt. I notice he looks round at blonde women in short skirts a lot and its embarrassing. I'm slim.and attractive and not insecure but every time I gently nudge him ...
A. 27 May 2011: He is male and he is not blind. I have no problem with my guy looking at attractive people! I look too!
I do not feel it is disrespectul. Does yours making gestures, animal noises, look at the other woman and back at you comparing, dismiss ... (read in full...)
Wife is angry because I'm not interested in sex anymore
Q. I don't know what is wrong with me . I totally lost my sexual self. I don't know ,if it is because I'm no longer attracted to my wife,or is this something else. She is very mad at me, because I can't keep an erection,and I rarely ever desire s...
A. 26 May 2011: You said you have been to a Doctor. Have you seen a SPECIALIST like a UROLOGIST that has better training in male sexual reproductive health? I would request a test for your testosterone levels. You implied you are able to GET but not sustain a... (read in full...)
Guys, do you follow the 3-day rule or the one week rule when asking a girl out?
Q. guys, how long do you usually wait to ask a girl out on the first date after you've gotten her number? i recently met a guy and we clicked really well, good conversation, flirting and all. when i got home i got a msg from him saying he would think ...
A. 26 May 2011: When you are dating you OPEN to all people and all things.
You have NO obligation to wait..soooo
Do not wait for a thing! :) Keep living your life! Live it well, have fun with freinds, go out on YOUR own.
Nothing is more attractive to a guy ... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with a celeb but the past won't allow me to be positive and have trust!
Q. I'm seeing this local celebrity. At first he said that he does not want a relationship because he is too busy but he visits when he has time. With my experience in the past I can never keep a relationship going for long,too many guys has taken me ...
A. 26 May 2011: You have TWO issues here, not one. First, you have what you call trust issues based on your past dating experiences. You are dating a local "celebrity" that seems to be able to spend much time/bother to be in communcation when you are not to... (read in full...)
My mom is a hypocrite and I can't stand it anymore!
Q. Ok, so it all started awhile back. Ever since i was little my parents have pinched my butt, i've always hated it, and whenever i complained they still didn't stop. When i was in kindergarten, i had a little-kid-crush on this kid in my class. ...
A. 26 May 2011: I am so glad you posted your question. You made me think a lot as a Mom:) Thanks! I have a wonderful 13 year old daughter who keeps a diary. We sometimes have discussions about what is private and what is "public" in our home. I view her d... (read in full...)
I don't know if we can fix this relationship, she's very stubborn!
Q. hi. Im dating this 1 girl for 5 months now and the first couple of months, she was amazing and loving towards me but i guess after some time she has changed so much, i really dont know what to do. She has been the girl of my dreams. When ev...
A. 26 May 2011: Relationships are hard even if you LIVE in the same town.
LDR's are even harder.
You are both young and still learning what it takes to make a great relationship. Merely choosing someone to be your bf/gf is not enough to sustain it.
S... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to have my g/f want anal?
Q. My girlfriend since one year ago has had very many sexual partners and she is only 19 years old. (i am 20) People always say that it is a good thing because she is very sexual if she has been sleeping around, but she isnt. She only did it because ...
A. 26 May 2011: I work in healthcare and this question is asked quite often by men. The previous answers are spot on. (Frankly,I think you already ARE an ASS for wanting her to DESIRE something she doesnt enjoy!) She already is a Saint for willing to TRY a... (read in full...)
Pregnant at the same time as my mother...how do I tell her?
Q. I am pregnant the same time as my mother and i cant tell her please help me?? i am really scared as amy father will really kill me and also i am still in college as well as my boyfriend we both have part time jobs wat cn i do,??...
A. 26 May 2011: First, take a DEEP breath. You have a VERY BIG decision to make before you tell anyone ELSE.
Have you told your boyfreind? Do plan to KEEP the baby? DO you have alternatives to consider?
If you make a choice, you will need to be a responsi... (read in full...)
Should I Sue Her?
Q. Okay here is my previous post and question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-if-she-is-genuine-and-it-is.html My girlfriend and I have broken up now.I have spent more than 20k on her in the past 8 months. I bought her various gifts fr...
A. 26 May 2011: There is an American saying "A fool and his money are quickly parted". Ask yourself. WHY did you buy all these gifts and lavish on this woman with financial blessings? You barely knew this woman before you started "lending" her money. IF... (read in full...)
Attached men visiting strip clubs?
Q. How to deal with a man who use to visit strip clubs when he was single!!My boyfriend was a strip club visitor when he was single. He tries explaining to me that he feels those were better places to hang out, have a beer and relax, than a normal bar. ...
A. 26 May 2011: You trust him. You love him. He is having some fun with his buddies 1-2 times a year? Let it go. Give him a kiss and maybe even PERMISSION to head to a club with a bud for a night out. It is reasonable to say "No lapdances", but why restrict... (read in full...)
Could my wife be falling for her attorney?
Q. My wife hired a new attorney in December based on a recommendation from a friend to help her setup a company. The first time she met him she came home and told me how young he looked (even though he's not too much younger than she is) and that he ...
A. 26 May 2011: How many RED FLAGS OF WARNING did you need? You know she finds him physically attractive and communicates with him OUTSIDE a professional realm. She is not addressing him solely in a business manner, which is a bad business choice when setting... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is becoming distant
Q. My ex fiance and I have gotten back together and have been looking at apts. Now he is acting strange. We have gotten back together after breaking off our engagement last summer. Before I broke the engagement off, he had gotten distant and no matter ...
A. 26 May 2011: Dear Anon, Sounds like you need a soft hug and some firm counsel. From your post I percieve that your boyfreind 1-Has a past and current problem with commitment. He backs off everytime there is something more serious with you. (Ie eng... (read in full...)
Why would he tell me about his vasectomy. Is that not too personal?
Q. Why would a married man in a relationship have a vasectomy and then tell me about it. I have been working with a professional guy and he had his kids a little later in life (40's). He has a much younger wife. A strong attraction grow between u...
A. 26 May 2011: You are playing with fire if even ENTERTAIN why this man is telling you these personal details.
Instead of speculation, stick with the FACTS.
He is married. It does'nt MATTER if things are not right in the relationship.
You are in a co... (read in full...)
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