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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:i have been in a relationship for 7 years and my boyfriend asked if we can have a threesome i said ok but now he just wants a threesome every weekend. he says it really turns him on seeing me with someone else but to be honest i am not into it and want it to stop i dont enjoy it as i feel degraded he keep pestering me eery five minutes when he wants it and when i say no he keeps on and on about it until i give in can you help how do i say no so he hears me and takes notice any ideas thnx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): After 7 years its simple he is not attracted to you and having a 3 some is a great way out
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Someone who doesn't listen to you and your feelings and asks you to do things that he knows you're not in to(you refused many times) just doesn't love you. And he doesn't respect you either. You should leave him. This is probably the best advice you wiil get.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 June 2011):
 Tell him no means no. Have you explained that you feel degraded? And he still pester you? If so, it's time to go.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Say no and stop giving in to his pestering. He'll stop once he knows you really mean it when you say no.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (9 June 2011):
He'll notice if you say no and leave him. Seriously, it sounds like you're nothing more than his sex toy at the moment.. does he still care for you and respect you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): Just look him dead in the eyes and say you don't want to anymore, and if he persists, there will be consequences...probably breakup. You do not want to be with a guy who makes you do things that make you feel degraded. If he is too dense to understand this, move on. I'm guessing he is your age, so somewhere in his 40's? So he needs to act like an adult, not a caveman.
Not that it really matters, but you do not mention if this other person is male or female. It sounds more male, but if this is female, he may be developing bonds with this woman and wants her in his life more.
Either way, it's purely greed on his part and not healthy for your relationship. End it or leave him.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (9 June 2011):
 It sounds like you gave into a threesome fantasy as a "once in a lifetime" or "special occasion" arrangement?
Look him in the eye and tell him YOU do not want it every weekend and you are not his personal sex vending machine.
Tell him you feel DEGRADED and it is no longer FUN.
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