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Please tell me if she is manipulative or do I expect too much?
Q. Please, forgive me for the lengthy email, but I need to get the facts straight here. I have dated this woman for 1 1/2 years. She is 29 now. A few months ago I caught her lying to me. She told me - she actually set up her lie for a week!!! - that ...
A. 12 June 2009: I just got out of a relationship just like yours lol. I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing at myself cuz we both fell for manipulating women and were blinded by love. I can clearly see she's using you but couldn't see my girl doing the same thing ... (read in full...)
Created a disaster, by agreeing to move in with her and her kids, how do I end it peacefully?
Q. Hey folks, thanks for reading. A bit(okay, a lot) of background: My girlfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year, and she has two kids from previous relationships. When we first got together she was living in a very tiny apar...
A. 31 May 2009: I think the best thing to do is tell her exactly how you feel. Don't sugarcoat it because people need to tell others about their behavior. If they do nothing to change it then they deserve to learn a lesson but just not at your expense. Her kids are ... (read in full...)
Please help me understand her...
Q. This girl and I are fairly close... well, really close. We have never been boyfriend and girlfriend, but we have kissed and we exchange "I love you"s a lot. The things I don't understand: 1. She said she loves me and likes me, but she doesn't...
A. 30 May 2009: Humans tend to make things that are simple into complex problems. When someone tells you who they are by their behavior, words, or other actions believe them. She shows you that you are something fun to do when she feels like doing it. She loves ... (read in full...)
He's acting different, what is going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 5 months and we both decided that we make things right,though I still have few of my things in his house, I move out since we aren't married then he would be coming to my house, meet my brother as he ...
A. 27 May 2009: It sounded like he was playing head games and not being up front with you. Sounds like he wanted to see what else was out there but didn't want you to completely move on in case he wanted you back. When someone is in love with you they would not ... (read in full...)
Sent my ex pictures and love songs, now worried I shouldn't have done it, what do you think?
Q. I recently wrote a post about my ex and I breaking up due to me saying some things to himas he had frustrated me so bad and I had tolerated for so long though I kept apologising to him for long. It's been about a month now though. I sent him some...
A. 26 May 2009: What you did is completely normal. Now you have to leave him alone with his thoughts. When we want someone back we can push them away by trying to show how much we care. You have to allow them to see how things are without you. Doing this is hard ... (read in full...)
I know I completely broke his heart, how do I put it back together?
Q. My husband and I were together for 12 years, an have been apart for almost two. I miss him terribly, and sometimes wonder why. Sometimes I think he still has feelings for me, by things he does. In the last year of our relationship I was on a waiting ...
A. 26 May 2009: Sorry wasn't finished. My ex moved on and has been seeing someone for at least 6 months. When there is true love between a couple there is nothing that can keep them apart. People will even recognize things they need to change to be better for ... (read in full...)
I wanna have sex with my boyfriend's best friend
Q. ok so i have been with my bf for 3 years now. But i have struggled the past few months...because i am a little curious about being with other people. We started dating when i was barely 15..he was only my 3rd bf..and the others only lasted a few ...
A. 26 May 2009: You need to spare your boyfriends feelings and be single. It's not cool to be with somebody and want others. How would you feel if you were on the other side and your boyfriend was flirting and wanting to have sex with your bestfriend. It's not like ... (read in full...)
He isn't the one for me, so what should I do?
Q. hi guys. so i've been dating this guy for nearly 4 years now,and he isn't most sweet/thoughtful/expressive/romantic guy around (i knew this before we got together). he apologises for not doing 'nice things' and tells me he appreciates that i've hung ...
A. 24 May 2009: Talk to him about how you feel. He could be going through something that he hasn't told you. If he knows exactly how you feel he might do better at making you feel wanted and appreciated. A home is built off of love and comfort. Some people get a ... (read in full...)
He depends on me but I want to leave!
Q. My problem is...... I have been with my sons father for 13 years on and off (we are not married). mostly on of course. We have a child together. About 8 years ago he got sick. He lost all function of his kidneys well he hasnt worked since then. ...
A. 22 May 2009: I understand where you're coming from. I'm not judging you either :-). I think you have gone above and beyond what most would do in your situation. The drinking is not good if he gets nasty and can't control himself. If he knows this will make you ... (read in full...)
He depends on me but I want to leave!
Q. My problem is...... I have been with my sons father for 13 years on and off (we are not married). mostly on of course. We have a child together. About 8 years ago he got sick. He lost all function of his kidneys well he hasnt worked since then. ...
A. 21 May 2009: Even if you're not happy you shouldn't cheat. If you're not happy, leave. Just know that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. You were there for him when he needed you and I'm sure he loves you dearly for that. Cut off this new thing ... (read in full...)
We're both married, were once married to each other..feelings still there
Q. In 1973 I was 17 and my boyfriend was 18 we married in 1975 and divorced in 1980. we both grew up in the same small town so our parents keept us informed through out the years. we both have remarried and have long marriages mine 25 his 23 both with ...
A. 20 May 2009: Be friends with him. You have known each other most of your lives. I know it hurts you because maybe you want more. Give your friendship a chance. In time he may not be able to fight his feelings and give in. If he doesn't change his mind then you ... (read in full...)
I'm good firends with my mate's girlfriend, we slept together and like each other, what should I do?
Q. I have known my mate for around 5 years and we have lived together for 2 years. I haven’t seen him for a few months because he is currently abroad. He has been with his girlfriend on and off for around 6 years. They have been back on for at least a ...
A. 20 May 2009: I think you're a bad friend and she sucks as a girlfriend. What kind of woman would come between friends? What kind of friend would allow this to happen? I'm not trying to be an asshole but I don't bite my tongue, you want the truth right. You have ... (read in full...)
Can't cum quickly
Q. Hi I have the opposite problem to premature exjaculation, in that I take ages to cum. I can get close on a number of occasions, (have pre-cum), but I can last for ages. Most of the time this isnt a problem, but sometimes it is nice to have a ...
A. 19 May 2009: Don't worry about it. You should worry if you came fast. You can give your female friend a quickie and as long as she cums your job is done. Some men who perform quickies on a regular basis turn into "minute men". They get use to the quickies and ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing my teacher secretly...
Q. I'm 16 and I've left school. I'm currently on study leave and are going back for exams on certain days this week and the next few weeks. me and a male teacher (24 years old) were always reallly really close, it might sound wrong but we kinda st...
A. 19 May 2009: Wow. This is very illegal. In the states this would be considered statutory rape because you are under 18. I don't the know the laws in your country or the age of consent but your teacher should know better. He is a grown man who has gone to college ... (read in full...)
He has two children, am I being selfish and can this relationship ever work?
Q. Ok im 22 nearly 23, and just started dating a new guy who's 29, 30 next year....we got on so great then we had a heart to heart and i found out he has two kids from his last relationship aged 6 and 10.....im confused now! How could this ever wor...
A. 18 May 2009: He sounds like he's a good guy. Dealing with children and ex's from past relationships can be difficult. If you both have a understanding relationship and he's genuinely good to you it's a good chance it could work. There will be tough times don't ... (read in full...)
2 weeks into my relationship and I've kissed another guy. Now I don't know what to do. Help!
Q. Two weeks into the relationship and i've already kissed another guy whilst drunk... I feel awful I know how bad this sounds I really do. I went over my alcohol limit and stupidly kissed some random guy...It's tearin' me up I know it's only two we...
A. 18 May 2009: We are human and we make mistakes. Do you really realize your mistake? Do you feel in your heart that you will not do it again? If you're not sure about the questions I just asked you there's a problem. It's very early in your relationship and being ... (read in full...)
Is this an STD? I'm scared... help!
Q. Ok basically im 18. i was having oral fun with my boyfriend (my 1st) and then his semen was like white/water (maybe precum?) then dark yellow. he even said oh its dark yellow lol... he's only had a sex with some girls and always used protection ...
A. 18 May 2009: Sounds like an infection to me. Dark yellow sperm is not normal. Before sex or foreplay grab his penis from the base and squeeze. Work you hand form the base to the tip. If something comes out and it's not clear it's a discharge. Even if the liquid ... (read in full...)
Why did she contact me all of a sudden?
Q. My girlfriend who last month turned 25 broke up with me over 4 months ago. It was not a bad break up, she felt as if she wasent putting the effort i was in the relationship. I was sad , heartbroken but went on. We dated for 1 year, well I kept busy ...
A. 18 May 2009: She probably misses being able to talk to you about random things. She may now realize how much she liked having you around. She talks about nothing maybe hoping that you will bring up getting back together. If you're happier now just keep her as a ... (read in full...)
Any men willing to share their views on platonic friendship?
Q. Thanks for reading this - this is a rather open-ended question. Without going into the details of my situation, I was wondering what attitude men have towards being platonic friends with women. I have a new-ish straight male friend who is si...
A. 18 May 2009: Sometimes the best relationships do evolve from platonic friendships. You get to know each other and if there's an attraction. I have females friends who are strictly platonic. They are attractive but I know they would be better for me as friends. ... (read in full...)
Was it love or what?
Q. My ex-boyfriend said it's stupid to say i love you. even if you do mean it. and we went out for 9 months and said i love you all the time. So... did he really love me or what? i'm confused. help?...
A. 18 May 2009: I don't think he loved you but I could be wrong. The toughest of us males will let the women we love know it by telling them. It's a beautiful emotion given to us as a gift to give. He may just be afraid of getting hurt so he keeps a wall up ... (read in full...)
I love him, I cheat, why?
Q. my problem will probably appear very mixed up and contradictory. But i'm saying this from my own experience from my boyfriend of 15months. Since around 4 months ago, me and my boyfriends relationship deteriorated slightly, many arguments came and...
A. 18 May 2009: You need to decide if you want to work with him to restore your bond. Stop looking for attention elsewhere it'll just make matters at home worse at home. I'm not going to say leave him right now but give it a chance. Just because things are a little ... (read in full...)
Wife had affair. don't know what to do.
Q. i've been married for 6 years now, and it's been pretty happy up until recently. a couple of days ago, i accidentally overheard a conversation between two of my wife's friends and it was revealed that my wife had an affair with one of her cowor...
A. 17 May 2009: Follow your heart. Nobody is perfect and sometimes people make mistakes. She shouldn't have told more than one friend though. Honestly you don't know how many times she's done this to you because she was deceptive and hid the truth from you. You ... (read in full...)
In love with my band teacher's wife
Q. i fell in love with my band teachers wife. me and him are sorta close. should i tell him how i feel? or should i tell her how i feel? or should i keep it to myself...
A. 17 May 2009: Keep it to yourself she's already taken. You just like her a lot but you're not in love. Don't make your situation uncomfortable by airing this out. Find someone your age who is single, you'll have a better chance at love. Hope my advice helps you. ... (read in full...)
Family problems have left me really depressed
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is 15, not 18 as stated. My mum and dad split up in august last year, and ever since then theres been constant arguements etc. The main arguements are between me and my dad, and theyve got so bad that i actually hate him and ref...
A. 17 May 2009: You feel bad now because the wall you put up has fallen you feel everything that you avoided last year. Anger fueled your fire last year through all the arguements and change. This year you are feeling your true emotions and it's getting you down. ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend still into me?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend broke up with me two and a half months ago. He basically said the bad started to outweigh the good. For the first month I kept asking him to rethink things but no luck. Then I completely backed off. Now he's travelling for w...
A. 17 May 2009: He's enjoying you like he did before you got together and started having problems. Sometimes when we get into relationships we forget to keep being our partners friend and we get comfortable. It's a good sign though because you guys are ... (read in full...)
We fight soo much!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time- almost a year and a half. I love him to death but we fight SO much. I feel like if i am with someone i love then i should be happy, but i'm always upset or mad, rarely happy.We broke up last ...
A. 17 May 2009: You guys are very young and it is difficult to have serious relationships during the teenage years. Usually one person in the relationship is a little more mature and bears more of the responsibility(this is you). It has to go both ways, both ... (read in full...)
My b/f's ex reveals she likes me
Q. my best friend's ex gf reavels she 'likes' me after breaking up with him. although i like her too, she says we can't date because of the fact that she wants to leave in peace. what should I do to convince her to give ourselves a chance? i'd ...
A. 17 May 2009: Who do you value more, your bestfriend or his ex? If he had a serious relationship with her I know you would destroy your friendship with him by dating her. The last thing your bestfriend wants to think about is you being intimate with his ex. There ... (read in full...)
What if I am missing out on the love of my life?
Q. Finally moving in a week but not sure if I might be making the right decision. My bf and I had been together in a LDR for 5 years. Our relationship, has gone through a lots of down. He has lied to me on several occasions; and even though he says ...
A. 17 May 2009: Honestly you don't know this new guy. He could be lonely and looking for attention just like you. He could be in a relationship too. Re-evaluate your current relationship with your bf and see if you would like to try and fix your communication ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm living in a nightmare.
Q. Hi everyone just looking for a bit of reassurance again. Me and my boyfriend of 5 years have been apart for 6 months now, but I'm not handling it well at all. It was my choice to end it, and now I feel like I'm being punished. I'm on ...
A. 17 May 2009: We all go through this a few times in our lives but we need to learn from these experiences. When relationships end it's for a reason. You ended it so he had to be doing something you could no longer tolerate. When I ended my relationship with my ... (read in full...)
How can I make him forget or hate me so we can both move on?
Q. I am a 24 yr old female, and he is 29. We loved each other soo much for 9 months, and we decided to get married. We are both from a very conservative background, and so we decided to tie the knot only if our parents agree 100%, else we should split. ...
A. 16 May 2009: You have to live your life for you and not your parents. Your bf loves you deeply and would do anything to keep your love and relationship alive. He wanted to marry you and probably still does, those emotions don't just disappear at the flip of a ... (read in full...)
What is going on in this "relationship"?
Q. I'm African American. So I snogged a co-worker that I was close friends with at a party and his Caucasian friends seemed to have a problem with it. At work everything was as normal and we were chillin out as usual. He told me he did not want a ...
A. 16 May 2009: I think race has something to do with it also. I'm from America and back in the day Whites would hook-up with races who they "hated" behind closed doors or anywhere out of public view. I say this because you said he ignores you in public but tries ... (read in full...)
She is going through changes, and I am confused, please help?
Q. I'm not really sure where too begin. Shelly and I met over a year ago. She was in another relationship but still there was some crazy deep attraction going on between us even we can't explain. Her relationship ended around oct. of 08`. Feb 20th 2009 ...
A. 16 May 2009: I think she may want some freedom to do what she wants and doesn't want to hurt you. If she was in love with you she would not try to demote you to the "friend". DON'T PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD FOR HER BECAUSE SHE'S NOT PUTTING HER LIFE ON HOLD FOR ... (read in full...)
Can I be optimistic that we might get back together?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago. Bc of snowballing miscommunication. In the first month I tried to do everything to get him back until I realized laying off was the best thing I could do. A week later, he started contacting me. Then, to ...
A. 16 May 2009: Don't get your hopes up because if it doesn't go the way you want it will be a huge let down.Keep communicating with him and don't pressure him to come back. Give him time and let him see what he is missing in you. Being optimistic is a good thing ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I can't get over him
Q. Hi, I recently broke up with someone I really like and we had been together for 2.5 years. He is my first. I cannot get my mind off of him. Everytime I see him, I have my hopes up again, but when he left, my hopes are gone. I really tried not...
A. 16 May 2009: First I would like to say I know how you feel. I just split from my love of 4 years and it was tough but I am better than fine now. It took a few months of tears and reflecting on the good the bad and why we parted and it all made sense why we are ... (read in full...)
How can I believe he loves me when he hurt me so badly?
Q. I've been friends with this girl for the longest time- we've been through every situation possible and I love her to death. A few years ago, I told her that i was really starting to like this boy. She looked shocked and a bit mad, but said she was ...
A. 16 May 2009: If you are going to be with him you have to either forgive him or let him go and save your friendship. Some people say they forgive for things done by their loved one but seem to always bring it up when things get heated. True forgiveness is one of ... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't want to commit ...
Q. I've been dating this guy exclusively for 8 months, I lost my virginity to him, I absolutely love him, but he doesn't feel the same.He says he is confused, he says half of him wants to be in a relationship with me, and the other half wants to see ...
A. 16 May 2009: You can't make someone love you and want you exclusively. The other person has to want nobody but you. It sucks because sometimes the ones we love don't return the emotion to us. I think when we find people who possess many qualities we look for... (read in full...)
What is going on in this "relationship"?
Q. I'm African American. So I snogged a co-worker that I was close friends with at a party and his Caucasian friends seemed to have a problem with it. At work everything was as normal and we were chillin out as usual. He told me he did not want a ...
A. 16 May 2009: You should leave this alone. He's not someone you want to deal with. The last thing you should when you can't keep it up is argue :-D. Sorry for the joke couldn't let that one slide. Seriously, his mind is screwed up. He tries to have a sexual thing ... (read in full...)
Does my crush like me or not?
Q. Does my crush like me or not? please answer Ok here it goes when i came to this school i didnt like or have a crush on him but for the past 2 weeks he keeps looking at me each time i look at him back he looks away but barely he stays eye con...
A. 16 May 2009: I think maybe you had the crush first :-). It's possible that he likes you and if he does it'll show more soon. Don't start acting different and weird around him though because if he does like you it's for the person you are.never act different to ... (read in full...)
He loves me but all I want to do is focus on moving out....
Q. I have a big problem. My ex (who I dated 6 years ago.) came back into my life as friends. And he told me he loves me. I don't feel the same way and I've told him. But he doesnt under stand that I don't want to be with him like that. Infact I don't ...
A. 16 May 2009: Tell him the truth ;-). If he keeps trying to rekindle your past relationship it will push you away. Tell him that having a relationship is not your focus and your education is. Tell him that you love and value your friendship and give him time to ... (read in full...)
How do I get the stupid, selfish "beauties" out of my head?
Q. what can i do about the beauties.I have a several girlfriends,they are all lovely and smart.but i can't stop looking for the beautiful girls and even don't care what they thinking what they are,just like talking with them and wishing do anything for ...
A. 16 May 2009: Easy question to answer,JUST STOP.Look for better qualities in a gf and female friends besides their looks.U need to explore your thoughts and think of reasons why u need attention from the "beautiful girls". Kind of a weird question though, hope my ... (read in full...)
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