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writes:ok so i have been with my bf for 3 years now. But i have struggled the past few months...because i am a little curious about being with other people. We started dating when i was barely 15..he was only my 3rd bf..and the others only lasted a few weeks to 2 months, and we only fooled around a little. so basically this problem started a few months ago when i started feeling this way. I ended up talking to one of my ex's and one thing led to another and we had sex. I told my bf right away and we worked it out. that feeling of wanting to mess around went away for awhile.but now its back...and worse.now i have a thing for my bf best friend. And i am pretty sure the feeling is mutual...to an extent.my bf friend is also in a long term relationship-1year. but he is flirting with me. Idk if he is being friendly or if he has more intentions...i think he has a thing for me. but the problem now is i think i am in an emotional affair with him..we talk a lot...he talks to me more than my bf (and yes my bf knows..he doesnt seem to think anything of the "flirting") i just realllly wanna mess around with my boyfriends friend...and to be honest i wanna sleep with him...any time we are alone he always almost makes a move...but doesnt..like he starts to get closer and closer to me..but backs off..so idk if he is into me...and i wanna ask him...but im shy and idk how to say something that is subtle..but gets the point across.and what if he is intrested??sooo....what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): BACK OFF! i done it and what u dont realise at first is how you well you will/wont cope with the guilt, the lies, looking him in the eye and knowing what you've done. The feeling of fun when your doing it coz it's an unwritten rule which is forbidden and naughty will soon pass, and before you know it, your completely emotionally involved with this person and when he drops you like a tonne of bricks will leave you feeling like a sack of shit and probably quite close to breaking point. and you may even tell your partner to mess up their relationship and end up costing your own too. THINK ABOUT IT SERIOUSLY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Don't kid yourself, you certainly do not love your boyfriend anymore if you ever did. Wanting to cheat on somebody it's a major sign of it. You should break it to him and break up with him first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): are you asking us permission to sleep with your boy friends best friend who is in a committed relationship, who you are having an emotional affair with, but soon want to have a sexual affair with as well?
seems like you like messing around and playing games. perhaps its time to grow up and stop behaving like a slut. perhaps your faithful bf needs to be told of your sexual intentions but anyway doesn't sound like he actually has a best friend because best friends don't f*ck with the best friends screw.
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reader, brendan +, writes (26 May 2009):
either break it off with him or be more of a loving girlfriend. its unacceptable otherwise. The world doesnt need any more cheaters and heartbreakers. Think about the people you would be hurting by your actions..
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reader, Prophet7 +, writes (26 May 2009):
You need to spare your boyfriends feelings and be single. It's not cool to be with somebody and want others. How would you feel if you were on the other side and your boyfriend was flirting and wanting to have sex with your bestfriend. It's not like you are just thinking these things, you've actually done it. You did it with your ex and now you are thinking about doing it again. You are obviously not in love with your boyfriend. It sounds like you don't even care about him or his feelings. You got together young and now you're curious about others. There's nothing wrong with that but your boyfriend should know this. I'm 29 and I've been through this myself. Sex is sex, love is what matters. You're not missing out on anything by being with one guy. If you want to try other men be single. Can't have your cake and eat it too. You would destroy him by doing anything sexual with any of his friends. There is a line that shouldn't be crossed and you are really close to crossing it. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): First of all, it sounds like your saying you wanna cheat on your bf. If your not happy and wish you hadn't settled down so early then break up with him don't cheat! And don't say you are happy and you do love him because if you did you wouldn't be looking around for other guys.
As for the other guy, he's a guy if your putting it out there he's not going to turn it down (unless he's gay which he's obviously not). That explains that. He doesn't really like you. If I were you I wouldn't sleep with him at all. Think of how betrayed your bf would feel… his best friend and his girl?
Idk if your telling yourself that "your feeling this way because you been with him since you were 15 and you never really been with anyone else" as an excuse to make yourself feel better but I'm not buying it. I been with my bf since like, seriously two weeks after I turned 16 and its also been three years, and I also never really had any REAL bf. I've never thought about sleeping with anyone else and guys always try to get at me. If you love your bf don't hurt him. Either break up with him and sleep with whoever you want or stay with him and don't sleep around.
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