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writes:I recently wrote a post about my ex and I breaking up due to me saying some things to himas he had frustrated me so bad and I had tolerated for so long though I kept apologising to him for long. It's been about a month now though.I sent him some love(miss you) songs and pictures to his email, trying to remind him about good times and in one of the pics, not sure i really like it, like maybe I dont look so so pretty which i look much better in person.I'm now thinking maybe I've worsened the situation by sending especially that particular picture, whether that might prolong him missing me or not even want to get back with me.Am I thinking right or what is wrong with me?
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reader, Lauza  +, writes (26 May 2009):
Theres nothing wrong with you at all.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Talkhelps
Thanks, I agree, I don't know why I kept feeling that way but I feel much better with the replies and advices given.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): I think that you should recall the email, if he doesn't like you an email won't bring him back. Also the picture thing, he knows what you look like in real and how good you look so that's just a minor issue, if he doesn't want you again ,it'll be because of you not the picture!
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ prophet7
Yeah thanks, it does help. I would give him his space, but I dont know why I was feeling low even about the pictures maybe not looking so so great and that may drive him away further more.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know i was really sounding silly about the pictures maybe not looking so great compared to how I look in person, but that was how i felt, that it may drive him away further more and maybe he would think Im not doing so great after the break up which i am and looking much better.
Thanks for you help though and advise, would sure follow it.
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reader, Prophet7 +, writes (26 May 2009):
What you did is completely normal. Now you have to leave him alone with his thoughts. When we want someone back we can push them away by trying to show how much we care. You have to allow them to see how things are without you. Doing this is hard when you are upset and missing them but it's a must if you want them to come back to you. Don't send anymore pics,text's or songs. Give him complete space, don't go to his house or call him. Hang out with friends and talk about how you feel. Hanging with friends and doing things will help to keep your mind off of him. Get back to doing things you liked before you got with him. If he truly loves you he will be back but not by your doing. If he doesn't come back it's not meant to be. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (26 May 2009):
 aw hun don't be silly i amsure the pictures were beautiful and he obviously thought you were beautiful to him and probably still does.
and as you say you've sent them now.
but don't feel down about it just learn from it and leave it now for a bit he's got pictures of you and memories and once he stops hearing from you it'll tug on his heart strings he'll want to hear from you :)
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah thanks it does help. I'm just like regretting why I did it though it's already done, I'm now feeling a little down maybe the pictures were not so good looking to move him and might prolong him even considering me.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (26 May 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni feel like the pics weren't good enough and might push him away more.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (26 May 2009):
the thing is you don't want to flood him with love songs and pictures.
that'll just annoy him and he won't want to talk to you because he will want his space.
all i can suggest if leave him be for a while let him think things over in his head give him chance to miss you don't send songs and pictures because that's him knowing you're still there rather than if you leave it for a while give him space he'll miss hearing from you.
he'll wonder what you're doing and stuff like that and then he'll get in contact with you again and hopefully things will progress from there. :)
Hope this helps.
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