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writes:I have known my mate for around 5 years and we have lived together for 2 years. I haven’t seen him for a few months because he is currently abroad. He has been with his girlfriend on and off for around 6 years. They have been back on for at least a year.I have known her for as long as I have known him. However I lived with him. Recently I moved away but we have been meeting up as we have a good circle of friends and it’s a good laugh.We have been getting really close and I started to like her but I wouldn’t have ever done anything or said anything! However the last time we went out we went back to hers and we were just sleeping and chilling out on her bed and we kissed each other. Well she kissed me... I was pretty close though... I pulled away but then gave in.After much mental distress about the situation we slept with each other and it was great. The morning was blissful and we are both really shocked how things have turned out. We get on so well and now we are planning to meet up allot. However my mate is back soon... what should I do? She has told me she wants to see more than him... but he is my best friend. Never had a mate like him. I had really strong morals but I really don’t feel that bad because we like each other.Any thoughts…
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): and you say you are his best friend. well what a good, decent friend you are, helping yourself to your best friends girlfriend! man, you crossed the line. never mind her, if she has no integrity and morals but you should have known better. you messed up and you have no one to blame but yourself.
i suggest that you do not even make contact with him when he returns . you don't deserve him as a friend. you f8cked up his life. he has been with her for 6 yrs. if she was itching to spread her legs why did she choose you? "you had strong morals but don't feel bad for cheating on your best friend", really speaks volumes about the type of moral person you are.
if she is f*cking with you now, she will be f*cking with others as well. and you just accept his sloppy seconds without questioning. and trust me, she is. you both don't deserve him. i am hoping that he leaves you two to f*ck up each others lives because it will definately happen. while he goes out and find a decent gf and a decent best friend. great friend eh, she is not worth it. she spread it for you darling, she is just an easy good time girl who has set a precedence in her life. enjoy her while you can soon you will be out , just like her current bf.
do yourself a favour and try to respect yourself more, you stayed with this guy for 2 yrs, i am sure you were just loke brothers. what do you do? you f*ck up. i think you are really insecure because he seems better than you. in fact maybe therefore you deliberately got with his girl to prove that you have some balls.
well, you are welcome to his sloppy seconds.
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reader, ez4u2say  +, writes (20 May 2009):
I have seen this happen so many times. Guess what she will eventually do you the same way. and btw your not a friend you have no self control and he needs to kick your azz.
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reader, Prophet7 +, writes (20 May 2009):
I think you're a bad friend and she sucks as a girlfriend. What kind of woman would come between friends? What kind of friend would allow this to happen? I'm not trying to be an asshole but I don't bite my tongue, you want the truth right. You have took part in damaging 3 relationships. You have damaged the relationship between you and your mate, your mate and his girl and you have changed the relationship between you and the girl. If your mate dumps you as a friend do you really think you can trust this girl to be faithful to you if you get together? Truth is she did it to him so she could do it to you!!! I think you both messed up by not having self-control and not taking your mates feelings into consideration. You should treat others how you want to be treated. Now you and the girl have karma to deal with, good luck. Tell your mate before he finds out from her. Better he finds out from you, then you might be able to salvage your friendship. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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