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writes:Finally moving in a week but not sure if I might be making the right decision. My bf and I had been together in a LDR for 5 years. Our relationship, has gone through a lots of down. He has lied to me on several occasions; and even though he says to trust him the damage is done. Our relationship, right now is at the worst, we barely talk to each other, he is not sweat, he does not seem to be happy talking to me, I don't seem to be happy either.The problem is that about 3 weeks ago, I signed up to a dating site just to exchange thoughts and to have conversations with people. I guess I was feeling lonely and in desperate need of someone telling me nice things. I never met with any of the guys but, there is this guy who continues to write me eventhough I avoid contact with him. We've talked for hours (IM), and we seem to have a lot of things on common. I feel awful 'cause I am lying to this guy; and I can't lie. This guy seems to be so honest, and that is one thing I do not get from my bf (honesty). He insists in at least having coffe with him; but I am leaving next week. Deep inside me wants me to meet him; but then the other voice in me says no ('cause it is not right). What if I am missing out on the love of my life? What if I don't truly love my bf? Everything is set for me to go on friday....What do I do? Should I meet this guy and tell him the truth....or just leave it to destiny... Reply to this Question
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reader, Prophet7  +, writes (17 May 2009):
Honestly you don't know this new guy. He could be lonely and looking for attention just like you. He could be in a relationship too. Re-evaluate your current relationship with your bf and see if you would like to try and fix your communication problems. Sometimes when relationships have a lack of the spark it once had people tend to look for it elsewhere. It's a possibility that you could just be infactuated with this new guy you met online. My advice is to deal with your current relationship and if it doesn't work out you can always find the new guy on the cpu again. Starting emotional relationships with others while you have a bf/gf can sometimes cloud judgement and affects what you might normally do if the new person was not around. Think it through. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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reader, SIG +, writes (17 May 2009):
You obviously don't think that your boyfriend is the love of your life to think that this other guy just might be the one. I think you need to be honest with your boyfriend just like you want him to be with you. You will most likely end the relationship however you will be in a better position as far deciding to meet this other guy and telling him the truth.
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